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Is my cleaner taking the piss?

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hazykates · 24/10/2018 19:16

So - I'm a maths teacher - my cleaner (a much needed luxury as I'm a messy bint) asked if I could tutor her little girl who's struggling at school. I'm mad busy with work and family life but I'm also pretty terrible at saying no and like our cleaner a lot (she's really good!!!) so I said yes! I wasn't expecting her to pay, if the tutoring went on for more than a few sessions I thought I might ask for reciprocal payment if the subject was raised (she could clean for the hour I tutor her child for example). As things have turned out she hasn't ever offered anything in reciprocation for the favour, she's consistently late for the lesson without apology, and was downright rude when I had to rearrange the other day as my little girl was ill and my husband away. I'm loathe to say I can't do it anymore as think she'd have the hump and it took me so long to find a cleaner that works for us - but I can't help but feel a bit pissed off about feeling like she's taking advantage! AIBU?!

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blogask · 28/10/2018 00:15

just came back on here to check and glad to see no other postings from OP - so hoping that means life has returned to normal !!

hazykates · 28/10/2018 07:05

Yes nothing of note yesterday thank goodness! Had lots of fun playing with my new ring doorbell!

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · 28/10/2018 09:19

What a horrid time......I suspect she's done this previously to others.. Well you've heard the 'victim' stories... She will have acted oddly as instigation is my guess that she conveniently omits...

These sort of people always do... They seem like humans until they feel someone has crossed them - however barking this belief is...
Although how she couldn't see what a massively good deal a straight hour swap was is truly incredible... Esp as she was texting in another roomConfused.

Then compounds it by being breathtakingly rude.

I hope your chap did the locks.... Yes some feel it's overkill... But you have a assume you're dealing with someone who thinks usual standards of behaviour doesn't apply to them.....

Someone I know was once robbed by her sacked cleaners niece's new boyfriend... She was not sacked for dishonesty - just being flaky... Of course she wasn't insured for this as there was no forced entry and all her goods had been sold on... That was horrid..

I would definitely update the police when there is any peculiar events....

Will you tell your senior management? I'm wondering if she may contact your school to make malicious allegations?

Sadly these sort of people can really get the bit between their teeth and really cause difficulties....

A social work colleague fell out (in a ridiculously minor way) with a neighbour...
(over the person parking in her drive!!)... This neighbour started making anonymous malicious allegations to her employers... Followed up with allegations to our professional body... Luckily the colleague had discussed re awful neighbour in our managers presence....
The neighbour had a police visit and it soon stopped. After she moved colleague discovered that he had form for this type of vendetta...

I would just screen copy what you've sent to police??

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 28/10/2018 09:22

PS I'm not meaning to alarm you further... But anyone who thinks smearing dog poo through a letterbox.... Esp when she knows there are small kids there is mad.

EK36 · 28/10/2018 10:09

I'm so glad you're well rid of that cleaner. Seriously she's bat shit crazy. Bet you cannot believe she used to work in your home now! I dread to think how many people she's done and will continue to do this to.

Mosaic123 · 28/10/2018 12:07

You could buy one of those outdoor letterboxes with a key if it makes you feel better?

hellsbellsmelons · 29/10/2018 12:20

Blimey - just caught up with poo-gate.
She is seriously unhinged and fucking ungrateful.
Glad you got video bell thing.
But I'd look at getting proper CCTV.
I really hope this is the end of it for you.
She has some serious issues!
You have to feel bloody sorry for her poor DD living with that loon!

BerylStreep · 31/10/2018 14:46

I hope there's been nothing further. What a vile woman. Her whole attitude from the start reeks of contempt for you, never even acknowledging or saying thank you for your time. She must have a serious chip on her shoulder.

I would second the suggestion that you speak to your senior management about this, as there is potential for it to impact on you professionally. She could start bad mouthing you to other parents whose children you teach, make an allegation in relation to the tutoring, or as you say, her dd could end up being at your school.

LagunaBubbles · 31/10/2018 16:42

What a lot of passive aggressive troll hunting there is on this thread.

cheesefield · 31/10/2018 16:44

Any news OP?

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