Who is BU? re wedding guests

[biser]

Wedding in country house hotel. Naice but not amazingly so.

How much would you, as a guest, be prepared to pay for a double room inc breakfast before you start to suspect "woah, I'm being ripped off to subsidise their costs".

No more than £150 and even then I'd have to really like the B & G to do so!!

When attending my cousins wedding 4 hrs from home we had to have 2 rooms for us and DC, cost £480 for one night including breakfast for 2 adults and 3 under 12s. It wasn't especially naice or pleasant to be honest either. B & G were apparently "miffed" after the event that they'd not got a lot towards their honeymoon fund from their guests

I love my relatives. They organised a discount package at a premier in for wedding guests plus a coach to and from the hotel. Cost us £50 for both of us.

Why the fuck are you so happy for your guests to be ripped off??

So how much is it then?

An extra 50 per room just because they are attending your wedding, and additionally you couldn't care less and will let them 'sup it up' So very clearly their over payment is supplementing your wedding, or at the very least your honeymoon suite in the process of overcharging them.

I would not stay. I would be insulted, as your friends and family inevitably will be. Why do you think anyone would put up this just to go to your wedding?

What. Is. The. Rate?

FFS what's the room rate people are being asked to pay?
Personally, as I'm not bothered about drinking, I look at what the hotel is like, what it normally costs, and if I'm happy I book. If not I research other places in a reasonable driving distance, normally a B+B with good reviews and lovely breakfasts, and stay there.

OP, do you have to stay there? This is important as if you have absolutely no choice and it’s too expensive then YABR to feel fed up.

If you do..it’s not that clear what you feel tbh ?

The standard tariff is £80~90.
You can get a room for £60
The rate for wedding guests is £110.

So it's less than the £150 that a lot of people are saying is their going-rate, but it still sticks in the craw.

Sounds reasonable 🤷🏼‍♀️

I don't think that's outrageous tbh.

I would be prepared to pay £0 because I'd never in a million years attend a wedding where I was expected to subsidise the B&G's choice to have it in some country house and wouldn't indulge that even if it were my own sister. These types of things are always a scam and utter CFery on the part of the B&G. I'd find another place to stay nearby, decline the invitation or even drive there and back rather than stump up top whack so the B&G can ponce around.

So either the hotel or the B&G are stiffing the guests for at least 20 quid and possibly as much as 50? Nope, wouldn't give in to that.

I think that price is fine tbh.

If i was attending child free id pay 100-120 inc breakfast. Id enjoy the lie in and leisurely morning. If I was bringing the kids id just drive home as one of us would be sober anyways.

£110 with breakfast isnt too bad for a weekend rate, we paid £100 for a family room at the weekend with breakfast - not at the wedding hotel by nearby

I'm still confused about why the weekend rate is cheaper? Are you sure that's right OP? As I said above, that only ever happens in business hotels. Are you sure something isn't amiss here as that is very odd?

I don't think that's outrageous tbh.
That's what B&G said

These types of things are always a scam and utter CFery on the part of the B&G
That's what we said.

Hence: who is BU?

Well as a room rate it isnt too bad, but it does seem like they have inflated the cost to cover some of their costs.

A lot of hotels now have tiered rates depending on what the B&G want to charge their guests. Standard with B&G covering everything, middle to cover rooms and hire of the venue and top rate to cover the whole cost of the venue and catering etc so basically the B&G get their wedding paid for by their guests. Amazingly cheeky but it happens and explains why couples with hadly any money still manage to have fancy schmancy weddings. THere have been a few threads on here where brides having been going mad at guests for not booking rooms in the venue, because if they dont pay up then the couple cant afford the wedding!

I'd easily pay £110. I'd pay up to around £180. There are HUGE advantages to staying in the venue - you can nip off to change or for a kip or just to get some space and chill out. Particularly if the photos drag on too long . Weddings are around 12 hours long so it's great to be able to nip away for half an hour.

If I didn't have £110 then I'd book a travelodge somewhere else and use a taxi but not nearly as convenient.

You are a CF for even considering it.

Yes your friends and family will see straight through the con, they will either book reluctantly, cancel altogether or come to the wedding and stay elsewhere. Whatever option they choose you will sink in their estimations significantly.

Not that you could care less.

I hope for their sakes they pull out, and you can pay for your own wedding and room.

Its not the OP's wedding FFS!

£110 is a little less than I'd expect really but then if you add on gifts, childcare if applicable, outfits if you really have to buy a new one, petrol etc costs can start to be a bit steep.

It does seem a bit off to be paying more than the usual rate, surely there should be a wedding discount?

So if the B&G are charging their guests a premium, the solution is simple. Just knock the extra cost of the room off whatever you were budgeting for their wedding gift.

Or stay somewhere cheaper.