Who is BU? re wedding guests

[biser]

Wedding in country house hotel. Naice but not amazingly so.

How much would you, as a guest, be prepared to pay for a double room inc breakfast before you start to suspect "woah, I'm being ripped off to subsidise their costs".

For a room that I'm not going to spend much time in, £150 and would hope that includes breakfast. Would hope there was a nearby premier inn so could pay less.

150 would probably be my max... at a great wedding I went to last year the couple heavily subsidised rooms in a luxury 5* country hotel with Michelin star. Breakfast included and we were in a gorgeous suite all for £65. Total!

Would hope there was a nearby premier inn so could pay less.

A women after my own heart, this would totally be what I would do.

I think the place we've booked for our wedding the recommended room prices start from around the £120 mark and go up to about £200 or maybe slightly more for the fanciest ones - but some of those can sleep whole families, for instance. We have booked the whole place and intend to allow some of the rooms for the bridal party, and then ask selected guests(other close family, most likely) if they wish to take up the remainder but at a lower rate – probably half, which keeps it more in line with more bog standard hotel rooms. Yes we do recoup a bit of the money, but they get a nicer hotel experience than they would do for the same price elsewhere, plus no taxis, have breakfast with the bridal party etc. And obviously they are not obliged to do so. I would have offered rooms for free if we could have accommodated the whole wedding party, but it wouldn't even sleep a third of my guests, so it seems unfair to have some people get a room for free and some pay. And I definitely wouldn't dream of inflating the price to cover further wedding costs!

It's weighing up the convenience of the location against the cost. If there is a premier inn or similar close by so that a taxi is cheap I'd go for that option every time. If there was no alternative and the price was over £100 I'd start to feel I was subsidising the wedding.

If you are visiting a potential venue don't just look at the bridal suite, ask to see rooms in every price bracket. I was forced as a guest to stay in country house hotel at £160 per night and the room was in a poor state with curtains missing curtain hooks, damaged furniture and few amenities. Couldn't ask for a room change as that would mean getting another wedding guest to swop and didn't want to create issues for the B&G. It was very poor value for money and it very much felt like a conveyor belt as there were weddings everyday so it was a late check in and early check out in comparison to a normal hotel stay. Not the ambience I think the B&G were hoping for.

TBH I would be looking at staying elsewhere. With a wedding it is usually all day, so you don't get much benefit out of an expensive room. You just need somewhere clean to sleep.

Depends on distance of wedding wether I would stay or not. We recently paid £80.00 for a room for two people - bed & breakfast.

As it is not advertised on the website, I would ring the hotel & ask how much rooms are for guests of the wedding you are attending.

I’d have to like you a lot to pay for

A wedding present
24 hours babysitting
A new outfit for me and possibly DH
An overnight in a hotel
Travel to and from venue

Max £100 and that factors in not having to pay for taxis.

Probably up to £100..I'm not paying more than that to attend a wedding when we probably have bought a present and factored in travelling costs.

You have to set a budget for these things I guess, but that's the most we probably could afford.

We're paying £89 for a double with breakfast in a "4 Star" (according them them, reviews on trip advisor are mixed) in East Midlands. We live in the same city, and could have done taxis there and back for cheaper (25 mins each way) but we liked the idea of staying over, and don't see it as a chore as some people do. They're very close friends, DP hs known groom since nursery.

Tight me would be prepared to pay no more than £80pn. Realistically, I suppose no more than £100pm.

It shouldn't be very different for a weekend rate to midweek rate. Some places are cheaper at weekends.

My DB did this and tried to make us pay £180 for a double room. I said no (as we simply could not afford it) that we would stay in local premier inn for £60. In my opinion, B&Gs that do this to cover their own costs while knowing their family members are hard up are CFs.

In answer to your question, I would pay no more than the local Premium Inn rate.

Up to £180 happily. Depends after that amount.

I wouldn't expect to be asked to stay if I didn't want to, I always like the option of going home or staying elsewhere.

If I choose to stay it would be around #150, no more, as it is not a weekend away it is someone else's wedding.

Are you obliged to take all of the rooms as well op?

We paid £150 as a special rate for one of my close friends wedding.

newrubylane - you are a CFer. You want you guests to subsidise your wedding at an overpriced venue so that you can 'recoup some money'. You could have had your wedding locally and none of your guests would be expected to pay to pay for accommodation. It's a 'nicer hotel experience than they would do the same price elsewhere' - or what about their own home where they don't need to pay anything?

I know the weekday standard tariff.
The internet says that, in reality, it is more like weekday minus £20~30.
Wedding/weekend guests will be asked for weekday plus £20.

I work out what I could afford, compare to other local hotels then see what suited me best. I don’t think I’d suspect the couple were trying to rip me off though. Unless maybe they were people I didn’t like? (Only say that because I know the people I do like wouldn’t do that!)

I recently paid £100 and felt like the piss had been taken. However in my case the b+g had strongly implied (but cleverly not quite stated) that the room was on them and by the time I'd cottoned on it was too late to back out. Don't do that!

Set it at the weekday rate for the hotel. Remember people are only staying there to come to your wedding.

Is this at a venue where they will add the costs of empty rooms on to your final bill?

We paid £120 for a draughty, old fashioned room in a "country house hotel." It was resplendent with pink ensuite and the electricity went off during the night, so it was cold and the breakfast was crap as they couldn't cook it. No discount on checkout. Never again.

We went to a close family friend's wedding recently and the room rates were "pay what you wish".

We checked how much the double room usually costs in the area and paid the same.