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To ask if some houses are unlucky/give bad vibes?

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Artofhappiness · 23/10/2018 14:25

I don’t believe inanimate objects can be ‘unlucky’ or ‘negative’ but starting to think there’s something a bit off about my house.

Bought it five years ago after being in three generations of the same family since is was built in the 1950s. Ex-council, nothing unusual about it, it does sit at an odd angle to the street e.g sits north west to south east but I’ve had the most extraordinary run of ‘bad luck’ since moving here!

My life, five years from moving in is totally unrecognisable - illness, pregnancy loss, career loss, money problems, family illness, losing friends, relationship breakdown, random accidents. Pretty much the works. Nothing is interlinked either i.e job loss was due to bullying rather than illness. It’s almost like I’ve been living someone else’s life by accident!

It sounds nuts, I know, but wondered if anyone else has had a run of bad luck in a particular place?

Any ideas what I could do to improve things with the house, even just to shake off the ‘unlucky’ feeling (moving not currently an option)

OP posts:

LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 11:48

It’s very much the thread for me thanks,as you can see I have plenty to contribute


bigKiteFlying · 24/10/2018 11:59

Houses can hold on to energies. When I worked as an estate agent, I could tell as soon as I walked in to a house of the couple were divorcing, just by the energy.

Atmosphere not energy and I'd agree - probably lots of little things that are registering at subconscious level that show there been a lack of care about the surrounding or show some level of conflict.

Our current home was divorce couple selling - but she'd been here for years with the children both girls now grown and moving on so it was a look after house that did suggest happy family home.

It appealed more to my daughters and me than DH and DS though it was best one they'd seen and that was down I think to colour scheme - warm purples and yellows though didn’t register that till we moved in and were thinking about decorating.


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 12:11

It’s very much the thread for me thanks,as you can see I have plenty to contribute

other than telling everyone else they're wrong and you're right?
hmmmm Hmm


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 12:21

You can hmmHmm all you wish but it in no way carries any authority
Are you going to individually address other posters,or just me?
What about poster who disagrees about homes having energies? Will you hmm at them


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 12:27

lipstick youre the only poster that's come on here and said its all bollocks. you've pretty much said you're right and everyone else is wrong

everyone else has said what they think it is, or how its affected them or there is "something" about their house.

and yes that "something" could be nothing, it could be imagination alone that makes people feel this way - who knows. Even if it is, its still a legitimate feeling, and if you can sort that feeling out, then why the hell wouldn't you give it a go?

the point is nobody really knows I don't think, everyone feels and experiences differently and I don't think we know enough about the human brain to entirely rule out everything that could be considered a bit "woo"


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 12:32

Don’t paraphrase me wrongly to substantiate your points and you’re over personalising this
I have not said anything is “bollocks” I’d be more erudite
By all means disagree with me,but no you can’t direct that I leave or refrain from posting
And this genuinely cannot be the first time you’ve envountered challenges about energies,and such like


Monty27 · 24/10/2018 12:34

As much as I feel such sadnesses in my home, when people come round they love it. They get great vibes.
Whilst it makes me feel so sad.


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 12:36

maybe you didn't use the word "bollocks"

but by saying the following

No of course not.bricks and mortar don’t have a memory
But locations of ghastly events or notoriety will put off potential buyers
So may reduce price for the less woo who don’t feel dem vibes buyers

you may as well have done, and also your last sentence was clearly taking the piss, wasn't it?


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 12:36

nothing wrong with challenging it, but your "im right you're all thick" vibe is a bit harsh, don't you think?


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 12:43

I think you make things up I didn’t say bollocks and you’re very aerated
Repeating my posts in bold doesn’t make me retract them. I know what I said
And a jaunty “don’t you think”won’t result in a revision of opinion


PickAChew · 24/10/2018 12:44

Why ask a question in the OP then not want everyone's answer.

Op: aibu
Reply: yes
Response: This is not the thread for these opinions.

This is not how aibu works.


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 12:47

“I'm right you're all thick” is not a direct quote,don’t use inverted commas denoting a direct quote
I didn’t say that. You said that
You are simply making things up to bolster your doesn’t enhance your argument in fact it detracts


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 12:49

ok then lipstick you must be right of course. There is no point arguing with you because you have some sort of superiority complex, clearly.


op also asked

It sounds nuts, I know, but wondered if anyone else has had a run of bad luck in a particular place?

Any ideas what I could do to improve things with the house, even just to shake off the ‘unlucky’ feeling (moving not currently an option)

but lets just ignore that shall we.


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 12:51

Argue with me by all means,that’s the point of AIBU
But don’t erroneously paraphrase me don’t make things up, and don’t attribute quotes to me that I didn’t make
Otherwise, by all means let’s ckntunue


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 12:53

I haven't attributed any quotes to you that you didn't make Hmm

god I cant be arsed, keep on using all the big words you know to prove your point though its quite amusing.


littlemissmanchet · 24/10/2018 12:57

I lived in an absolutely dreadful house as a child but I believe it was the energy of the place rather than the house. No one who lived on that hill had any luck. Several neighbourhood children died of cot death/inexplicable illness/car accidents - there were suicides too, domestic violence, the lot.

A couple came round to view as we were selling up and thought they'd have a nose waiting for the agent, she tripped and fell though a cracked paving slab that hid an underground walkway alongside the kitchen, breaking her leg and getting it trapped, and as her husband ran up the garden to call for help he had a heart attack and dropped dead right there and then.

My mother used to say she could see hands reaching up through the grass of the garden in her nightmares. I don't say the word lightly, but that hill is evil.


keepingbees · 24/10/2018 13:05

I believe houses and places can have energy and vibes.
I know someone who's house has always given me the creeps. She's a nice person and very devout Christian. Her house is a normal ex council terrace. But inside it feels dark and sinister and I can never stay long.
I've lived in a house where you always felt you were being watched and some odd things happened. It wasn't sinister as such, but just a bit eerie, cold and uncomfortable and my DS hated it.
Some houses you just walk into and feel right at home.
My current home has no vibe at all, it had been rented and felt a very blank canvas. I feel very safe here. On a slightly different note, it's number is my two lucky numbers. There seem to be recurring patterns with numbers through my life that seem to bring luck/bad luck.


Twork · 24/10/2018 13:06

I don't know about energies but things can sonetimes not "sit right" and leave you unsettled, even just subconsciously eg a corner that's a bit darker than the room because of where the windows are might not register with your conscious mind but might make you feel uneasy when you sit in a chair there.

I say this as someone who bought a house with a bit of an "history" and which has a habit of things being a bit "odd". It took years for the house to co-operate -I guess is the word- with us and our plans.


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 13:07

oh and lipstick repeating in bold is so that everyone else can differentiate between my post and yours... its not some sort of hidden political statement....


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 13:08

You are very aerated flamingo


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 13:09

you can keep saying it but it doesn't make it true....


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 13:19

Oh okay then,you’re engaging me in a wholly jocular manner flamingo
Taking a balanced approach to both our diametrically opposed opinions


Villanellesproudmum · 24/10/2018 13:20

Not really sure what lipstick has said which is so bad? Always good to hear different opinions surely?


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 13:22

lipstick who are you trying to impress with your varied vocabulary? or are you hoping that I am too dense to understand?

villanelles to me her comment just entirely shut down the discussion, and she took the piss as well which I think just wasn't needed.

like I said, nothing wrong with disagreeing, it was more how she said it and the taking the piss..


Ontopofthesunset · 24/10/2018 13:22

Well, to answer your first question, you yourself admit that you know that you are being unreasonable to suggest that your bad luck has anything to do with the house. Of course most people, if they have a run of bad luck, have it in a particular place; most people aren't moving every few months, so it stands to reason that they will be in the same place for a series of unhappy events. In your case, the run of bad luck seems to coincide with moving to a new house, so you are making a connection which you realise is spurious.

In answer to your second question, short of moving so that you leave the house which is associated with these unhappy experiences, I don't really know what you can do. You could try the placebo of blessing or smudging, but then you would have to believe that the house really does have something to do your luck. And since it obviously it doesn't, I don't know whether it would have any effect. I mean, the smudging etc clearly wouldn't have any effect on future life events and 'luck', but it might make you feel better which might affect decisions you make and thus in turn have an effect on your 'luck'.

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