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Artofhappiness · 23/10/2018 14:25

I don’t believe inanimate objects can be ‘unlucky’ or ‘negative’ but starting to think there’s something a bit off about my house.

Bought it five years ago after being in three generations of the same family since is was built in the 1950s. Ex-council, nothing unusual about it, it does sit at an odd angle to the street e.g sits north west to south east but I’ve had the most extraordinary run of ‘bad luck’ since moving here!

My life, five years from moving in is totally unrecognisable - illness, pregnancy loss, career loss, money problems, family illness, losing friends, relationship breakdown, random accidents. Pretty much the works. Nothing is interlinked either i.e job loss was due to bullying rather than illness. It’s almost like I’ve been living someone else’s life by accident!

It sounds nuts, I know, but wondered if anyone else has had a run of bad luck in a particular place?

Any ideas what I could do to improve things with the house, even just to shake off the ‘unlucky’ feeling (moving not currently an option)

OP posts:

rosieposey · 24/10/2018 05:37

Monty I'm so sorry about your DD SadThanks


Monty27 · 24/10/2018 05:49

@,rosie thank you. It was 27 years ago this year. I've brought the other two up here. They are in their 20s now and lovely. I am single.
It's hard to leave a family home.
It's the fear of making a mistake.
We really feel the same I guess me and DC's.
There's a pull that won't let me do it. No confidence to make such huge decisions in case the grief follows us.


rosieposey · 24/10/2018 06:04

Maybe you could just try to see it as a fresh start?

It depends if you really love the place and I'd it feels like 'home' to you? Are you ready for a new start on a new house?


TheDarkPassenger · 24/10/2018 07:51

We’ve had one before too and I fully believe.

Since we sold it it has been constantly on the market and habited for no longer than a couple of months at a time. The lady who bought it from us had an accident and had to go into a wheelchair so had to sell soon after, the next lady died in there, the next family had similar to us.. and so on and so forth.


Treasure114 · 24/10/2018 08:39

I think Mumsnet is haunted at the moment - keep trying to read this thread and the page keeps going black and the comments keep getting repeated 😖


Villanellesproudmum · 24/10/2018 09:01

Monty I can understand the pull to your house. Xx

Some of these stories are very woo, wonder if ghosts should be declared on a house sale ?


MamaLovesMango · 24/10/2018 09:25

Didn’t get to come back to this yesterday. It’s been an interesting read.

It’s interesting where people are saying it felt bad or dark, this house doesn’t feel like that, it just feels empty or soulless. If it were a new build with no history I might understand it but it’s a Victorian terrace. I can feel very very alone here and like I said it’s been one thing after another since moving in.

I might give sage a go. I’m not too comfortable with getting a Priest in but please let us know if you find one and how it works OP.


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 09:43

You know what there are scammer and faith types who’ll happily fleece you to
Contact spirits
...and fact you’re already considering it just makes you a soft touch

I hate judgemental shit like this, maybe you don't believe it but I certainly do and it doesn't make me a soft touch.

also, asking a priest to bless a house usually costs nothing except maybe a donation to the church, which to be fair if it made me feel better (even if it is all in my head) is totally worth it!"


secretuser · 24/10/2018 10:09

Slightly different but I used to be a letting agent and there were some houses that were just always problematic. I could understand if they were run down, in poor areas etc, but these were always perfectly lovey family homes, well looked after, in the countryside often with lovely gardens and views. There were just some that would always have long void periods and when we did find tenants there were always seemingly genuine problems, like people getting divorced or loosing their job and being unable to pay the rent.

It was just as though some properties were cursed.


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 10:24

Flaming,maybe a priest will undertake a home visit and blessing for nominal or no cost and offer pastoral support too.

There are also numerous charlatans and scammers who’ll charge a lot,make an emotional connection, reinforce untrue claims and generally prey upon the distressed . A curosry search online, or ads in shop windows you’ll find such a person.

And yup they are out there in droves, disreputable scammers more than willing to see auras, feel things,be a channel, blah blah. They’ll likely take a big fee, multiple visits,recommend you purchase something to cleanse,rebalance at ££ cost of course


13thWarriorWitch · 24/10/2018 10:30

OP. For space clearing and energising look up Karen Kingston. She's very good. Smile
Good luck


Puzzledandpissedoff · 24/10/2018 10:41

No of course not. bricks and mortar don’t have a memory

I'm honestly not so sure. I try to keep an open mind on these things, but for me there's no denying the atmosphere around such places as the Conciergerie in Paris, Stonehenge, the obvious one of Auschwitz and so many others

Even if we accept that prior knowledge of "what went on" influences reactions, that still doesn't explain the feelings some get about places they could have known nothing about

In the end, there's just so much we can't explain


xJessica · 24/10/2018 10:41

Yes! The first house we bought after we got married. Constant financial problems, I mean really scary to the point of bailiffs, through no fault of our own. I had awful health problems. My MIL passed away very suddenly. Grandma had cancer. I nearly died during pregnancy and our baby was born just over 13 weeks early. In the end our house was repossessed. We've never had issues like that again since moving out. Right from the day we moved in I didn't feel right about it, I remember sitting on the stairs the weekend we moved in, with this ominous feeling hanging over me, feeling like something was going to go wrong. I didn't enjoy our daughter's babyhood because of all the worries and problems. I'd love to have had her as a baby in the house we are in now. Our first house never felt like home and I never felt comfortable and relaxed in it. I never felt like it was my house, if that makes sense. My best friend feels the same about hers, there's one thing after another happening to their family as well.


CartwheelCath · 24/10/2018 10:48

Omg. This is me on my house. Coming up for 3 years in this hell hole. I hate it. It does not feel like home.
We have done do much work and redecorated most of it but I cannot love it.
I put my hatred down yo the utter fucking longer people we bought off. Immaculate house when we viewed but an utter shit out 8 weeks later when we moved in. They left alot of damage and were twsts eith keys and letting themselves in after completion etc. But 3 years on i still hate the house.

Run of bad luck since we moved here. I have a constant anxiety knot in my tummy when I need to come home from being out or away. The longer I stay away the worst it is coming back.
This house feels rotten to the core.


The80sweregreat · 24/10/2018 10:48

There is Something in this I think.

My relatives moved to a big dream home in the 90s and had a run of bad luck. They only managed a year before moving! The people before them were unhappy and my sil often sees it listed for sale a lot. She was convinced it had a bad vibe and she isn't one to be negative usually.


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 10:57

There are also numerous charlatans and scammers who’ll charge a lot,make an emotional connection, reinforce untrue claims and generally prey upon the distressed . A curosry search online, or ads in shop windows you’ll find such a person

And yup they are out there in droves, disreputable scammers more than willing to see auras, feel things,be a channel, blah blah. They’ll likely take a big fee, multiple visits,recommend you purchase something to cleanse,rebalance at ££ cost of course

of course you are correct, but finding these people has not once been suggested on this thread, only a priest and DIY attempts with sage, and salt etc.

Of course I would never suggest googling such people, because if they think they can earn some £££ out of you they will! Hopefully nobody will use one of these people.


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 11:01

Well what an illuminating website Karen Kingston has
Let’s debunk some of that right now
Clutter clearing practitioner that’s a grouping of words with no actual substance or meaning
Language that references and borrows from heath care,to legitimise and add gravitas
its an unregulated role anyone can be a “practitioner”, as an unprotected title anyone can use it.or set self up as a practitioner
Practitioner,meaningless term that alludes to a skilled role

Educational claims by Karen Kingston
There is not a nationally agreed educational framework or approved courses that one can undertake

Some Bluster about Certification Levels , language which alludes to a regulated profession or a skilled job. To point of making a distinction in the level of certification attained
Certified practitioners have been trained by Karen Kingston to conduct professional consultations to a high standard
Certified (Advanced) practitioners have completed advanced training with Karen Kingston and are considerably more skilled than certified practitioners

The language, the terminology is that more usually found in a prospectus for a health care course and there’s even mention of CPD
CPD is mandatory for registered HCP, Medics,to ensure a minimum standard,up to date practice and knowledge

Clutter cleaners is unregulated job and doesn’t require CPD

course fees in “clutter clearing” two mandatory parts
Part 1 4 day duration cost $3000 Australian Dollars, location a hotel
Part 2 submit 5 case studies of your work via email or Skype cost $2000 Australian dollars


username1724 · 24/10/2018 11:06

My childhood home was definitely haunted. It always felt like home though and I always felt safe being in a 5 bed detached house in the country side alone at night. My mum sadly died there though after cancer, and the previous owner died just before we moved in. I still feel welcome when I go visit though. However my current house is driving me mad. We live in the annexe attached to in laws house. It was only built around 15 years ago but apparently there was a bomb shelter here in history. I've always felt scared when alone even though were in a built up area and ILs are just next door. It's a 2 bed bungalow and I cannot stand the bedrooms. My dd sleep walks every single night, something blew in my ear last week when I was alone, I often wake in a panic. My oh recently admitted he doesn't like it when I'm on a nightshift and hes no wimp. Things move, the outside light came on and I saw shadows in the frosted glass on the front door, there was no one there (it's very secluded) I cannot wait to move!


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 11:13

Puzzled,yes I have been to the aforementioned locations Stonehenge, Auschwitz and I agree they are atmospheric,moving and emotional. We visit them primed,and aware of history and events. It is not a blank canvas visit it is a trip undertaken with knowledge of history and events

I have lived in Edinburgh that’s pretty creepy and atmospheric of an evening,the mist in the old town,the tight closes eg advocate close and that is a city with a vibe. Reinforced in literature and movies

Bricks and mortar don’t have memories or feeling to instill in another person.cannot transfer an experience to an individual


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 11:17

Bricks and mortar don’t have memories or feeling to instill in another person.cannot transfer an experience to an individual

have you just come here to make everyone else feel stupid or?


LipstickHandbagCoffee · 24/10/2018 11:23

Like you,I’ll read thread and post a POV ,That’s how threads work
I don’t need to agree or enthusiastically support all POV
The op opens with “I don’t believe inanimate objects can be ‘unlucky’ or ‘negative’” which is essentially what I’m saying


flamingofridays · 24/10/2018 11:30

im not saying you need to reply enthusiastically, but clearly this is not the thread for you.

so instead of point blank saying no youre all insane, why not just ignore it and move on?

im not saying you cant have an opinion, im just not sure what the point is of coming here and saying it. Op has asked if anyone else has experienced it or if anyone has got any advice.


MulticolourMophead · 24/10/2018 11:37

The house I live in now just feels neutral. It's the best house for my budget that was available to rent when I left ex last year. Although the DCs and I have settled, we always knew it wasn't going to be long term here as the house has never felt completely comfortable.

Next week we are moving to another rental, one that we are hoping will be our long term place, oldest DC and I were keeping an eye on the location we wanted to be in for a house to come up.

When I went to view, I knew I could be happy there, and it turns out the house is one I visited a lot as a child.

Houses do have vibes.


bigKiteFlying · 24/10/2018 11:41

Bricks and mortar don’t have memories or feeling to instill in another person.

Infra sound is a thing though possible reason some places have bad vibes.


VioletCharlotte · 24/10/2018 11:46

Houses can hold on to energies. When I worked as an estate agent, I could tell as soon as I walked in to a house of the couple were divorcing, just by the energy.

It sounds like you need to do some clearing OP. Throw open all the door and windows. Thorough, deep clean throughout. Sweep the floors. Then smudge all the corners or the house with white sage. While you're going this, ask with conviction, for negative energy to leave.

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