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9 year old DD - just plain greedy!

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user1497545304 · 22/10/2018 16:19

Sorry... posting here for traffic Confused

DD has always had a big appetite... but recently she has become unbearable, always eating, throwing tantrums etc.

She’s always been on the ‘fuller’ side of healthy, but recently I’ve been noticing she’s looking quite overweight. I decided to step back and track what she ate yesterday:
2 slices of toast with generous amount of Nutella, a banana and small bowl of shreddies.

2 hours later was rolling about on the floor claiming she was ‘starving’ I gave her an apple. Checked up on her a minute later to see her munching on digestive biscuits from the cupboard! Shock

For lunch she insisted on making herself TWO wraps with lots of ham and cheese inside, a bag of salt and vinegar crisps. Said she was still hungry, I offered her carrot and houmous which she reluctantly accepted.

Mid afternoon... caught her raiding the fridge, getting herself a large chunk of cadbury, and a yoghurt.

Dinner was new potatoes, steamed fish and lots of veg. She ate all of it, demanding more which I gave her, and then proceeded to make herself another bowl of shreddies afterwards.

8pm, screaming she’s hungry, that we’re starving her (!!) she had a tall glass of orange juice and a marmite crumpet.

If you ask me, that’s ridiculous! I try to make her only eat healthy snacks etc, but frankly I sometimes need an easy life. Both DH and I are fit, healthy weight. For some comparison, I, 33 years old ate:

Scrambled egg on toast breakfast.

Apple mid morning.

Salad with falafel & quinoa lunch. Cappuccino.

Greek yoghurt & honey mid afternoon

Same dinner

Chunk of cadbury (less than DD) around 9pm.

Her brother, 11, also has a good appetite, eats less than her.

What do I do ?!

OP posts:
FrizzyMcFrizzface · 24/10/2018 13:09

How many of you commenting about actually know anything about Prader Willi Syndrome? It is only in recent years that genetic testing has been available to diagnose from birth/soon after. People were only diagnosed in the past when they began to eat themselves out of house and home with no control. These were the people who had survived infancy without tube feeding, problems walking, significant developmental delay. It is not a ridiculous suggestion, it is worth investigating, if only to rule it out. It is also worth looking at how parents with PWS children control their diets and food obsession/over eating as these techniques may help, even if the child does not have PWS. I am trying to be helpful to the OP as I have been there/am there.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 24/10/2018 13:15

Good for you, Lumps, you've done a great thing for your child there. :)

I was the same, early developer of boobs and hips - not like my mum. She was terrified of people's comments and what people said always mattered to her. Such a shame - and I don't have a great relationship with food, it's hard work and it shouldn't be.

LumpsMum · 24/10/2018 15:43

Thanks Lying!

I am also glad it’s not just me Grin

Lovemusic33 · 24/10/2018 16:26

My dd has Autism and will eat and eat for the sake of it, PWS has been mentioned to us before but never offered testing. I have to keep a lock on my kitchen door and monitor what my dd eats, she will take food from people at school (from peoples lunch boxes, from the food tech room) and if we are cooking together she will sneak food into her mouth. I have to distract her a lot but where ever we go food is on her mind, she will ask when we are eating as soon as we leave the house, days out are planned around food, her school day is planned around food, it’s hard work keeping her weight down but I do it by not having much food in the house and sticking healthier foods.

AsleepAllDay · 28/10/2018 00:11

The tone of this thread is concerning (from OP) - she's a child, she doesn't have the well developed reasoning skills you seem to expect, for her to understand greed as something to override her hunger. She just knows that she's hungry and wants to eat so that is what she's doing

You sound very judgemental and not really like you're trying to understand her and that will probably cause her guilt or give her a complex in life, or both

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