To spend nearly £2,000 on a sofa?

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Just moved to a beautiful little house, just me, DD and the cat.

Earlier this year I left a DV relationship and although I am much happier I have been left with Anxiety and PTSD. I have been told to be kind to myself, although I find it difficult.

Ex took me to court for custody of our DD just weeks after we split but due to his controlling nature and the violence he has no contact with DD. I’d like to say it’s liberating to not have to see or speak to him, but actually it’s bloody hard. I constantly feel like I am failing DD and am often tempted to ignore the court order and let Ex back into her life – he does still text me and say he misses her and wants to see her, but my solicitor says he’s just feeling angry that he can no longer control me, I still feel awful.

Saying all this to give background as to why I need to spend so much.

I’ve fallen in love with a corner sofa. Fabric and Leather, in a gorgeous colour. I’ve tried it in store and it’s so comfy – I have a ratty old secondhand one Ex was given by his parents which although comfy the fabric is fading and was given while I was pregnant so has sick stains on it despite me scrubbing.

DD is 4 and is not allowed to eat on the sofa at all. She eats at the table in the kitchen or in the old non matching armchair that we were given with the sofa, which I will be keeping. Cat

The sofa is £1,799. It would be my only treat for the year. I work and get a bonus of £1,000 in November so I’d wait to buy it until that came through. I have the rest of the money in savings. I’d still be left with around £200 savings and I can build them up again slowly. I also have a credit card which is currently unused which has the amount of credit that it would take to run my house should I need it.

AIBU? Or do I just need to wait? I was never allowed to spend money on furniture during my relationship as it took money from Ex so I am unsure of spending so much on myself.

Sofa is this if anyone’s interested www.harveysfurniture.co.uk/arlington-left-hand-facing-corner-group-with-chaise-media-tray/?sv_source=GOOGLE&sv_medium=cpc&sv_campaign=PLA_Corner_Sofas_HIGH&sv_term=PRODUCT_GROUP&&gclid=CjwKCAjwx7DeBRBJEiwA9MeX_HBBcSSnKx3eN9X0xh5niNojbgdh7_U3OiaUgM-CIvcGnK9ZxjxG6RoCS2gQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds&dclid=CNHrhN3kl94CFcKB3god3fsLYg#arlington-left-hand-facing-corner-group-with-chaise-media-tray/details/16006-16109/

DO IT!!! You finally have a place that will feel like a HOME because your not scared to be there!! Treat your self make your house a home for you and DD and whilst your at it CHANGE YOUR NUMBER !! Make sure you don't give it to anyone who will pass it on to your Ex! 

A decent sofa from ikea is not cheap and will it last 10 years. My experience no.
It’s the old adage. You get what you pay for.
Personally I would break it down as I do everything.
Good expensive coat lasts 5 years, 400 over 5 years so 80 p/y and it’s lovely and looks great
A 99£ coat starts to look crap by next year.
I would apply that to all things you buy. But well but buy good quality.
I bought a 2000 sofa in the sale for 1200 I’ve had it for 8 years and it still looks fab.
I’m sure she can get it in a sale.
But anyway.
As per usual on here there are lots of people who have only spent £50 on a second hand sofa and they have thousands in savings. Well done! Whatever floats your boat.

But she’s spent years with a second hand sofa. Maybe she doesn’t want one again.

And I agree with the person who made the list,
Things you use everyday for hours on end are very important and you should spend as much as you can afford.

Do you think it might go into the sale? Just a chance to save a few quid on it.
But either way I think you should go for it. 😃 it sounds like it would bring you pleasure to own it.

I think, more importantly, you should do the Freedom course to help you with feelings about your ex.

I got a huge 2 seater/long corner and chaise sofa from sofology and it cost £2100. I love it and hate it at the same time 😂 but I agree with other posters why not get it on a interest free over x amount of years. I pay £52 a month for mine and the guarantee still covers the whole time. If its what you want and it'll make you happy then go for it.

2 grand on a sofa! I wouldn't. A new sofa, yes, but 2 grand! ffs

You can get a really nice sofa for a lot less and be able to replace it when child and cat trash it in a few years.

Second hand sofas

My dsd once said 'ugghh other people have been farting on them'

Put me right off 

He doesn't buy the furniture in those or have it in his house.

But people might fart on their sofa whilst naked Electric. I avoid those bed throws/spreads in hotels for similar reasons.

It’s all very well saying ‘get the sofa but make sure you prioritise starting to build up some savings’, but what’s the point if when OP does ‘build up’ savings she blows the whole lot on a luxury item she doesn’t need instead of keeping it for emergencies?

You can do what you like with the money you have OP (but sounds like it’ll be another whole year before your £1k payment if you even still have the same job next year) but my view is that it would be extremely foolish to let your emotions around being independent now and making your own choices give you permission and validation to make a really really unwise financial decision, with a child in tow.

Does your dad also avoid restaurants, theatres, cinemas, public transport, hotels and taxis?

No of course not but it's different when its in your own home.

Also tongue in cheek I meant my 7 year old dear step daughter years ago. Not my Dad!

I'd wait and see if it gets reduced in the sales, Black Friday or even Christmas/New year. You'll kick yourself if the price is reduced massively before yours is even delivered!

No way.
That's a lot more than I would spend and I have a lot more to spend.
You need more savings.

@electricmonkey my son was conceived on my sofa, people farting while naked is the least revolting thing that could be happening 😂

I wouldn't OP.

The security and freedom of savings in the bank is worth far more.

Buying stuff gives you a momentary high, but it doesn't make you happy in the long run.

That's a hell of a lot of money for one sofa. I'm in a very secure financial position and I'd never spend that and I definitely wouldn't buy it on credit. You'll be able to get a lovely sofa for much less than this and build up some savings as security for you and your DD.

YABU - but only because that sofa is bloody horrible!!

What’s wrong with 0% finance

Well done on coming this far. I think a sofa is a good thing to splurge on but check other suppliers -local companies may be better value although that is a particular style you won't find exactly elsewhere. Also, it's huge! Make sure you cut out the footprint in newspaper & you've plenty of room around it?

Also I'd definitely wait to find a cheaper second hand high end sofa on gumtree - it's amazing what people get rid of quickly sometimes

I got an expensive sofa from Sofa Workshop on ontrest free plan. It’s about £15 a month for ages, but I never notice it going out of my account, so it feels like a gorgeous free expensive sofa!

YANBU. A sofa is a long-term investment and its upto you what you spend your money on- ignore all the judgey so and so's' on here.

The only thing I would say, as previously mentioned wait until Black Friday and I'd possibly wait a few months to save some more money so you have a backup. But other than that, go for it. Its a lovely sofa