To worry about large daughter.

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I feel a little bit sad for her. She is 7 and 138cm and 32kg. Not fat but not going to have slim frame ever. Dad is 6ft 5 so she is going to be tall. I’m quite small at 5ft 6 and 9 stone.
People assume she is 10
She wants to be good at gymnastics and dance but isn’t the build for it but I encourage her anyway but am pushing her to being enthusiastic about netball and hockey.
I watch her eating - she loves food and has a large appetite. I encourage lots of activity. I don’t mention her size in a negative way at all and big up the tall said of it but everyone and then I notice how much taller she is than her peers and she sticks out.
I’m hoping she will stop growing earlier and everyone will catch up.

138cm at age 7.5 is 98.5th percentile, so hardly outlandish. 32kg at 7.5 is only 92.2nd percentile so very healthy for height.

I'm surprised she is 20 cm taller than her peers. That sounds on the smaller end to be honest.

Anyway I was the tall girl at school, much taller than my friends. I've hardly grown since I was 13. I am 5ft 8 so I was really really tall then and I guess considered tall now but not massively so. People caught up with me at school towards the end and it didn't bother me. DD will probably head the same way as DP is 6ft 4 too.

She’s not really overweight, she’s tall which isn’t a bad thing? I think the issue is more with the way you see things OP?

My dd has always been tall, she’s now 12 and is taller than me and wearing adult clothes, she gets mistaken for a older child, she’s not slim but not fat either, I try and keep healthier food in the house and encourage outdoor activities (not always easy).

There’s no reason why your dd can’t do dance and gymnastics, even professional gymnasts come in different shapes and sizes. I would encourage the gymnastics if it’s something she enjoys, she can strengthen her arms to hold her body weight whilst doing handstands.
Also kids change shapes as they get older, dd2 has changed shape several times, going from a large toddler to a skinny twig and now back to being more stoky now she’s reached puberty.

"I'm surprised she is 20 cm taller than her peers. That sounds on the smaller end to be honest. "

Yeah I don't believe she is at all. She is I think in Y4, we're three months into the term, the median height is 126cm at that age, so only around 12cm taller.

My dd is 6 and taller than all the kids in her class, boys and all. Head and shoulders taller than some. She does gym, rugby, hockey and swimming, she loves team sports atm but that could change.
She has these long legs and i love to watch her run when playing rugby, she strides away from the opposition, im not tall so quite jealous of her natural assets!😉
Dh’s family are big built, mil is 6 foot, but not slim jims, so my dc may also end up being “big” but atm they love sports and im encouraging that.
Look at womens rugby players, tall, athletic, strong. Excellent role models!!
Take pride in her size!

Yes 20 cm sounds a lot DD is 138cm at 9 and is one of the shortest girls (even being on the 50th centile). A friend (who is 10 in May) is 156cm right now: that is less than 20 cm (and her friend is tall tall!)

Actually in year 2. No child in year 4 is 7.

You are literally obsessed with your daughters weight, posting every 2 or so years about it. Leave the poor girl alone or you're going to give her some serious self-esteem issues.

She's going to be tall, get over it, people can be tall and healthy! And taller people/children will obviously weigh more because NEWS FLASH they're taller 🙄 she is not overweight and she is not too heavy to do a handstand 😂 I'm 10st and 5ft3 (so very nearly overweight according to bullshit BMIs) and can manage a handstand fine.

I think you need to get some help for your own issues rather than projecting them on to your daughter.

Yanbu I'm.six foot tall, I did gymnastics, dancing and most sports (some badly). My height has never bothered me one bit. All the men in my family are over 6ft3 and I'm only the second tallest girl in extended family. Who cares?

She was always going to be bigger with such a large dad. It's just sod's law she's interested in sports where it's an advantage to be smaller. But it's not about her size, it's about her interests not matching it particularly well. You could've written a similar post if you were the mother of an equally healthy child who adores netball and wants to play for her country, but whose dad is five seven and mum is five two. There's nothing intrinsically worrying about having a very tall child with a very tall dad. There are probably more sporting opportunities for taller people if anything!

"Actually in year 2. No child in year 4 is 7."

Sorry yes not year 4.

Year 1 is 5-6
Year 2 is 6-7
Year 3 is 7-8

So she's one of the oldest in the year.

Op I would post somewhere else. Trust your instincts, if your dd is steadily gaining weight then it's easier to address now, subtly and tactfully, than when she is overweight and if you post about it then you will get equal amounts if criticism for not watching what she eats.

Also BMI is bollocks. Well known and accepted to be a tool only for people too stupid to be able to look at their child and see for themselves whether they are a healthy weight. I would ignore the posters putting so much emphasis on this without ever seeing her.

Unless you have an eating disorder or food issues yourself (skewing your perception) then continue with what you are doing. Encourage exercise and healthy eating - this will not give her a complex. Encourage her to think she can try and do anything g sport wise! Also model good habits yourself and within the family. i.e don't single her out. But you are right not to ignore her big appetite if she looks big to you.

Mother of a very tall dd here.

The thing is about height, what are you going up to about it? How do you propose to grit it? There's nothing you can do about height so there is zero point at all in worrying

Please don’t make her feel like a freak for being tall. There is nothing wrong with girls / women being tall. I find the “tall-ism” some women have very shocking. She probably has a big appetite because she’s very active and has a fast metabolism. Carry on encouraging healthy eating which is the right thing for any child regardless.

Tall is great! My DD2 is head and shoulders above her peers its a good advantage in netball maybe encourage that? its a fun team sport for girls that age and the highlight off DD2s week.

If you marry a man with a particular characteristic basic biology dictates that your kids may follow suit! My elder dd has incredibly difficult to manage curly almost afro hair but hey it is dh hair and we are positive about fighting the message that girls have to have long straight hair .

My friend is taller than average with a really tall father, her dh is a tiny bit shorter than her and when drunk she admits she thinks he chose her as his wife as he was teased for being short and he wanted tall genes

Also ... wanting stories about women “loving” their height is a bit random. Would you ask for stories for women who love their brown hair or their blond hair or their whatever-other physical feature? I am tall but I’m afraid I don’t have a story about loving it. I don’t think about it except when I’m buying jeans. My parents, despite their flaws, treated it as a neutral thing. If anything it was positive. I view people who think all women should be small as narrow-minded and sexist, to be honest. The same people who think manly men have to be tall. Some of the most masculine men I’ve met have been short. My dh is the same height as me and I don’t think it’s occurred to him to be intimidated by my height. If anything he likes it as he loves everything about the way I look and am. Neither has it mattered to any person who is secure and happy in their own skin. You seem to have very prescriptive ideas about how a woman should look. There’s lots of good feminist literature out there about how women have been made to feel they shouldn’t take up too much space - you should take a look at some of the perceptions you’ve absorbed and look to challenge them.

Slightly missing the point here, but it's interesting the number of people saying 5'6" is not small. I'm 5'6" and wouldn't consider myself to be tall in the slightest.

Is your DD even over weight though? All you’ve said is that she’s tall and likes her food? If she’s overweight then increasing her activity and eating more healthily is sensible but you can’t do anything about her height or build. It’s just the way she is and you should accept her for it instead of wishing she was different.

Seriously so what if she is 20cm taller . you need to
Teach her to stand tall
And be proud. She is what she is and she is not going to be able to change her height. My 7. Year old Ds is nearly the same size as Ds who is 9. We laugh about it we don't worry about it.

Pythonesque this is a genuine question, not trying to be goady. If my DD says she's hungry at bedtime, should I give her something?

You seem to be annoyed that she’s tall. You have mentioned she is taller than everybody else as if it is a shameful thing. I was already about 5ft5 when I was about 10! I never grew much more but I was so tall compared to everyone else, and I live somewhere where people tend to be quite small so I am still considered tall now! When I was 10 I hated it being pointed out. I loved the fact that my mum and dad never brought it up, they’d never say ‘you’re so tall for your age DD’ or mention to people in front of me ‘DD is so tall, isn’t she’. It made me realise not everybody was constantly noticing it, so it was such an unimportant thing that I shouldn’t care about at all

I'm 5'6" and wouldn't consider myself to be tall in the slightest.
5’4’’ is average height for a woman do 5’6’’ is at the tall end but not massively so. When I think of short women I think of around 5’2’’ or less. My shortest friend is 4’11’’ so at 5’6’’ I am practically a giant. 5’6’’ is neither tall or short.

I haven't read the whole thread but surely this is about perception. There is nothing wrong with her height or weight, I think it will become a problem if you make it a problem.

In other cultures, being tall is a good thing, even from a young age. If a child stand out because of their height then it is a positive thing. That doesn't even mean being tall and slender, even being tall and chubby like I was as a child. To give context I am 5ft4 and am considered to be of "good height" .

Of course the same cultural norms are not present here but maybe changing the way you view it will help.

You are literally obsessed with your daughters weight, posting every 2 or so years about it

😂😂 That is literally a ridiculous thing to post. A post every TWO years is nothing.

OP, not sure why you are getting such a bashing and I understand why you are concerned. I also can see you are careful not to be negative about your daughters height to her.

I know a few girls in their early twenties who are very tall and not super slim - they aren't fat but they are solid. I think it's difficult for them. They both say they have a love hate relationship with their tallness. They both can get comments when go into pubs etc - I don't think that's a good thing. Although you can comments for all sorts of things.
It is what it is though. I don't think there is too much point worrying about it until it's a actual problem. It might not happen or it might not bother her at all.

I'd carry on being quietly careful about her diet and exercise just as I would for any child.

OP, we have the opposite problem. My DD is 10 and size of a 7 year old. As parents we are average. She is self-conscious being 20cm smaller than all her friends and I'm really hoping she has a growth spurt and catches up with them at some point.
As in your situation, obviously we can't change anything but just encourage being healthy and strong and trying different activities. And explaining that everyone is different and good at different stuff.
I still worry though about teasing and her resilience.