To worry about large daughter.

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I feel a little bit sad for her. She is 7 and 138cm and 32kg. Not fat but not going to have slim frame ever. Dad is 6ft 5 so she is going to be tall. I’m quite small at 5ft 6 and 9 stone.
People assume she is 10
She wants to be good at gymnastics and dance but isn’t the build for it but I encourage her anyway but am pushing her to being enthusiastic about netball and hockey.
I watch her eating - she loves food and has a large appetite. I encourage lots of activity. I don’t mention her size in a negative way at all and big up the tall said of it but everyone and then I notice how much taller she is than her peers and she sticks out.
I’m hoping she will stop growing earlier and everyone will catch up.

Ah ann miller was 5'7". Google her dancing Too Darn Hot. Absolutely fills and lights up tge screen.

My dad is 6ft5, I'm 5ft3. No reason to believe she's going to be tall, girls tend to be taller than the boys till a certain age then they all shoot up. She's not over weight - it comes across like you're worried she's going to be some sort of giant & seem to deem that 'unattractive' it sounds like your problem OP, not your daughters.

i don't get the problem here

ive got 2 kids that have been big/bigger than normal since birth

14 y old is now 6ft and 10 stone 7 in mens 12 shoes m-l clothes
he as born 8llbs but 27 inches and size junior 2 feet(yes i had to buy proper shoes as he feet was that big)he was always 2-3 sizes bigger than he should be

8 y old is 5ft already and 8.4 stone nearly in a adult 5 shoes and in s mens clothes he was even bigger from birth than oldest and was 4-5 sizes bigger than his age
he was 8lbs 7 born and 26 inches and with in a month-6 weeks he tripled his weight

they think its great being bigger than normal and the oldest thinks its great as hes taller than most men

the only downside is people have always thought they are older than what they are and talk treat them that way and i have to then explain about their many disabilities and GDD being one of them as oldest is 2 years behind and youngest 3

im 38 soon and ive been 5ft10 with size 12(mans)feet since i was 11 i also developed early and was DD/E cup at 12/13
apart from not being to wear woman's shoes (which never bothered me)ive never been held back

i was also a big baby ad way taller than everyone as a child

tvh i think you are looking for a problem thats not ever there,when i was growing up i was always the tallest aroud

now i see teenagers way bigger than me so i think as the genarations are going on people are getting bigger

Being petite and delicate (I'm a bit less delicate now tbf but still petite and look slight) isn't all it's cracked up to be (in your mind). I have a couple of tall elegant friends and I envy them. Not hugely, because quite frankly my height is not the main thing about me, nor is my figure. I have short sons. One's 11 and hasn't quite yet hit 130cm (and weighs 30kg. Not overweight - slim and strong and muscular. So how you can imagine your dd is overweight beats me). Presumably I have to dread their future too?

She is a perfectly healthy weight for her height and age. www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Healthyweightcalculator.aspx?Tag=
She is pretty much the average height and weight of a 10 year old so I would expect her to have the appetite of one!

I wouldn't stress about it tbh just let her enjoy what she wants gym/dance etc, she's quite young

but if she does like netball a team will snap her up

she will see her height as something to be proud of if you believe it

Try and help her feel happy in her skin

Is being smaller than average something you aspire to, OP? And for some unsettling reason, you are alarmed your perfectly normal size 7yo daughter is 'large?'

If you want a teenager with complex self-esteem issues and a debilitating eating disorder, you've cracked it, well done.

Your dds height and weight should be no barrier to her doing handstands and bridges, she needs to practise though every day.
Stretch shoulders and practice takin weight on hands EVERY DAY

I am jealous. I always wanted to be tall. It's an asset in my view.

Being tall is great to be honest - once you get past all the juvenile bullshit, I love being tall. I love being out with my girls and people always comment how tall we are - I'm like- yep, aren't we are fabulous... I wear 4 inch heels and rock them

Everyone has something they don't like about themselves , has taken me my whole life to shrug off my mums well meaning 'worry' but i would change anything about myself anymore

Wow op.
Sorry if I sound harsh but, YOU need professional help.
Your poor children are perfectly fine, healthy and normal.
You are going to seriously mess with their self esteem and we'll being.
Please get help for yourself.

FYI 5 foot 6 is NOT small. Get a grip ffs.

You seem to be obsessing over your dd when according to the child bmi calculator she is a perfectly normal bmi.

Your assertions about body size seem a little "off" - your husband is very tall and you are also well above average height of 5' 4½ - so none of you are small and it is likely that your dd will be tall as well.

Being tall shouldn't preclude her from training dance or gymnastics. The time that gymnastics was dominated by 4 footers is long past. Look up videos of the US collegiate system where tall gymnasts compete weekly at a high level

I’m 5’10”, size 9 feet and have been since I was 13.(well size 9 feet since I was 11 but height since 13).

At that age it was horrible. Chat up lines pretty much began and finished with ‘ you’re tall in’t you?’ ( response, ‘ no you’re small’ did NOT go down with well with insecure 1970s teenage males).

But my mum always told me I was beautiful, encouraged me to stand tall, shoulders back, be proud.

My biggest achievement? I have 2 tall, gorgeous, intelligent, adult daughters who view their height as an advantage. I grew to appreciate the advantage of being able to command a room. I was poor at gymnastics, my smaller sister was infinitely better, and no one could ever call me delicate but I can do elegance with a vengeance. The form of dance I chose is very suited to my (now quite modest) height and I love being tall. If anything, a bit miffed that compared to the coming generations I’m actually on the distinctly average side.

As a tall woman with a tall daughter this post makes me really sad.

My 3 year old is as tall as most 5 year olds, I'm 5' 10" and DH is 6, 4" so she's likely going to carry on growing!, she does loads of activities including dance and gymnastics. You may think you don't tell your DD your concerns but encouraging her to do hockey because you think she's built for it more than dancing is a very clear message.

Girls have such a hard time if they're taller than average because we've been conditioned to think girls should be shorter than boys, be slim and delicate and that's just not the case. I spent years slouching and avoiding heels because it's not okay to be tall... it took years to embrace my height and stop giving a shit about that outdated crap.

Your DD is 7, tell her she is beautiful and can do anything. She'll no doubt get enough comments from peers and needs her mum to build self esteem not help reinforce that being tall is a bad thing.

I’m tall. I was the tallest in my class in primary school, and tall throughout secondary school. When I went to those awful school discos I would be taller than all of the boys when we slow danced together. I never minded, I liked it. I felt/feel strong. Powerful.
Also, at festivals and concerts I can see the band!

over the years I've been aware of my now 14 years old peer group and size height etc I can honestly say that now they are all v similar.
the bigger ones just grew earlier then stopped.

I’m not an idiot and what a really likes is the stories from women who love their height as of course that is what I want acheive for my daughter

You can achieve that without no effort whatsoever just by stopping obsessing about it. It's not as if you can do anything about her height, after all. But one thing that is guarantee not to make her love her height is being aware that her mother somehow disapproves of her because she's tall.

The thing is you want a slender little pixie child. Even if she grows into a tall, slender, graceful young lady with no excess weight she may still be broad shouldered and no amount of diet and exercise will turn her into a petite small framed pixie. You can't will away genetics.

I think gym and dance are great for tall children - makes them stand straight.

I'm a bit shocked your still mired in this thinking after Your last post made it into The Sun. Did you think in 2 years opinions would change? www.thesun.co.uk/living/1786118/ive-started-being-strict-with-her-it-is-for-her-own-good-stressed-mum-fears-her-five-year-old-is-overweight-and-reaches-out-for-help-on-mumsnet/

I haven't read rtft but I'm going to go against the grain here and say YANBU, I was very tall for my age, much bigger than any of my friends and all bar 1 of the boys in my class who was also considered very tall. If she has an appetite like that then YANBU to watch her weight, I wish my mum had. I ended up very chubby for quite a few years and then developed an eating disorder as a teenager desperate to not be fat anymore.
I completely understand why you are worried about her height because it really knocked my confidence as a child, people forever commenting on it, kids making fun of me. Things have changed now though so I doubt your dd will suffer the same idiots. I am 28 now and have grown to like a being tall, infact I don't like when someone else is taller than me 😂. I even wear heels! I still get comments, mostly from older (smaller) men, must make them feel inferior 😂.
No reason for her not to do gymnastics etc she's only 7.

I don't understand your post OP, my 2 DS are also tall compared to class mates, but why worry - it all evens out in the end. Whilst they may stick out when with class mates obviously in the real world people are mixed so everyone "blends in". Weight would be more of a concern but she sounds healthy and does lots of exercise. Just make sure food is healthy and not junky most of the time. I think she should be encouraged to do what she likes and if that's gym or ballet or whatever then fantastic!

I'm 6 ft tall and was always far taller than my peers. I didn't like it, I felt awkward and it didn't help that back then there were virtually no shops selling clothes to fit me.

However, things are much better now. I couldn't imagine being shorter and I find I suit most styles of clothing. I'm a size 12 but look slimmer due to my height.

As for sports, she may not be a natural shape for gymnastics but she'll be perfect for swimming, rowing, athletics, netball, cycling and most other sports. The way you address her height now will make a huge difference to her confidence about something she can't change anyway.

bowdownbeforelokitty Wow is that really the same parent?

If you want a pixie child don't have coitus with a man of 6'5, simples!

@Cachailleacha Yes it's the OP. No doubt MN will be regularly updated on throughout her childhood and teens. It's very sad that the OP is so fixated that she cannot simply enjoy the DD she has rather than be disappointed in her frame.