To ask if you have children how often do you go out socialising with friends ?

[Peachsnowpop]

As the question says....

[VenelopeVonSweetz]

Mine are 2 and 3 and I probably go out 3-4 times a year but I’m cool with that.

I got all my going out out of my system in my twenties, I prefer a night in with wine and a book now.

[Rebecca36]

Long time since had young children but have to say, I didn't very often. What is funny is I used to regularly babysit (taking small child with me), for neighbours :-). I only once asked them to return favour and it was a very big deal for them.

Occasionally though, I did go out and thoroughly enjoyed.

Nice to have a circle of friends whom you trust, who babysit for eachother.

[CantSleepClownsWillEatMe]

DH and I don't get out just the two of us all that often, maybe every 8/10 weeks. We both work ft so at weekends we tend to do family stuff, days out with the dc, socialise with other friends or family and their dc. Or just veg out at home.

I have lunch or dinner out with dm and dsis once a month or thereabouts and with various friends 2/3 times a month though that could be twice in one week and nothing for a fortnight...

Agree with Ragwort about having an identity that's not just about being someone's mum. I think it's fine and actually good for dc to see their parents as individuals who have their own interests and friendships as well as being the dcs parents.

[Cumbrianlass66]

Probably once a month with friends once or twice a year with DH as no sitters.

[Choosausa]

Easier said than done I'm afraid, to everyone saying parents identity is important too and socialising is a must or they'd go mad. These of us who have No inlaws no grandparents no friends no spare funds that simply can't go out must all be going mad then. ! Anyone agree?

[kaytee87]

On my own every 1-2 months, with DH every 2-3 months. Tbf we could probably go out more but we're always busy doing something with DS at the weekends.

[kaytee87]

I do go and get beauty treatments done every 3 weeks but I don't count that as socialising, I suppose it's 'me time' though.

[Barbie222]

Maybe twice a year? I've never got round to organising babysitters as I don't know any who will look after kids below about 8.

[Barbie222]

Been out alone with dh once since eldest born - wouldn't do it again as mil has a lot more issues now. That's a bit shocking isn't it!

[Brokendown18]

It does get easier as they get older

[bellsbuss]

Once or twice a month with friends , once a month OH and I and once a month OH and I with other couples.

[KnitFastDieWarm]

Two or three times a month - love, love, love my girls nights with a few cocktails or a bottle of wine, a nice bar and a good catchup

[stopgap]

Children are 4 and 7, and we go out every Saturday night with friends to a bar and then dinner, and each go out with friends once a week. For me this could be a book reading, the movies, going to a friend’s house with takeaway, as well as out to dinner or drinks. I can’t do hangovers with small children, so hardly drink, but my husband has a greater tolerance.

[Purpleartichoke]

Once or twice a year.