To ask if you have children how often do you go out socialising with friends ?

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As the question says....

Around twice a month I'd say. Plus every week i go out to a group. I almost always get children to sleep before I go as they go to bed at 6:30.

It fluctuates. I already have 4 big nights out planned in December but didn’t go out at all in August for example.

I regularly go for drinks/dinner. At least twice a month.

I think it depends on the age of the kids, the support network you have around you, how much spare cash you have and how busy you are with work.

So we have no family nearby, both work FT and so rarely go out as a couple because it's difficult to find babysitters and we are bloody busy the whole time. That's a bigger issue than going out with friends.

With friends I go out a few times a year but I'm nearly 50 and we were no longer at the 'go out dancing every weekend' stage even before we had kids. We are at the 12 people come to our house for Sunday lunch stage and spending every day at Sports Facilities watching the kids training and chatting to other parents stage. And since my friends are either workmates or other parents it means I see people regularly without having to go out clubbing.

Once a month, and they come with us.

Just friends a few times a year

With our children once or twice a month

That’s enough for me

By dd is 2.5 I've been out twice. My dm offers to babysit all the time but I'm too tired and just can't be bothered.
I had her at 36, so I had 20 years of going out before she came along!

They have been good nights though one a concert and a day and night in Paris!
I've a night away booked for February too, I'm off to Berlin!

Once a week... sometimes twice.

About 3 times a year. I’m a single parent and their dad doesn’t have them overnight because he’s too self absorbed. So I only go out if my parents want to have them overnight.

Once or twice a year. My kids are now older but youngest 2 are 10 and 12. I work full time long hours so my evenings and weekends are family time with the children so I don’t want to go out then otherwise I would hardly see them. They are busy with friends but they are usually in the house or I’m
Dropping them off places. I have no family nearby but oldest 2 are on hand to babysit should I wish to go out. I never went out at all really and I’ve only started thinking about it in last few years now that the first 2 are 18 and 17. I’m still in my 30s. My husband works evenings so he’s always been with the kids during the day before they started school and I’ve always picked them up from nursery after school club after work and taken them home to get tea bed time etc sorted. Been too tired for years to even think about going out. Lol.

It varies. Sometimes 3/4 times a month, sometimes nothing for a month, sometimes (like this week coming) I'm out three times a week. Meeting up with friends is quite cyclical.

With DH, about once every three months as we have no family nearby. When we visit grandparents, we also try to sneak a quick pub visit in.

When I go out alone, they're usually in bed so I don't feel I'm putting myself before their needs.

Once or twice a week? My dad babysits for free, and we go out without each other too.

When my Dad can't (he goes back to our home country from time to time) we have to pay a babysitter so probably only go out together once or twice a month in that case.

We also have people over to ours regularly.

I think this year I have been to one 40th birthday party (kids came too) and one wedding reception (no kids). That's quite typical.

I have a two year old. Once a month, if that, but that's also because a lot of my friends live quite far away. There will be the odd month when I have 1-2 gigs though. DP, on the other hand, is out at least once a fortnight. Together, once every 2 months usually.

Usually once a week hanging out with friends in “social mum” group, ie our kids are friends and we are friends so we all get together for wine and pizza. Catching up with friends outside that group, once a month, probably. Plus at least a couple of nights out a month with work, but often I see friends at work events as many of my fronds are in the same industry as me.

Never.
I last went out without the dc's three years ago. I've had about ten nights out since I became an LP a decade ago. Family who could babysit have all moved away now and to be honest I'm so worn down and tired I don't think I could go out.

Probably once a week

With my own friends 2-3 times a months with DH at least once or twice a month at night with joint friends or on our own, when DH has a day off in week we always go out for lunch etc

We've never yet! Dc 12 and 7.

My twins turned 2 in September. I’ve been out at night with friends twice since they were born, and out with DH for dinner twice - all of this has been in the last six months. I am mainly too exhausted by the evening to go anywhere but I don’t really miss it.

Ooh, annually if I'm lucky.

Couple of times a year with friends.
Perhaps once a year with DH if we can get a babysitter.

Once a week ish, spread between old friends, NCT friends, school mums and book club and random events. DH and I also socialise as a couple 2-3 times, often the same women as above including their partners, or some couple friends we have.

Once a week usually. Dd goes to her dad’s and I use that time to catch up with everyone. I’d go slightly mad if I couldn’t, I’m very social, so the isolation when dd was tiny was very hard. Much better balance now!

A few times a year on my own, a few more times with DH. Combination of money being tight, babysitting In-laws not being well and neither of us being that social. I went ti If we both have a day off in the week we go for breakfast and do the food shop together (and daytime sex if we're up for it!).
I'm looking forward to the freedom of my 40s when DCs will be at uni/work and I'll have the money to go out that I didn't have in my teens.