To ask if you have children how often do you go out socialising with friends ?

[Peachsnowpop]

As the question says....

[justwantcheesee]

Never

[Gammeldragz]

A few times a year with friends, a few times with DH.
We don't have the money or easy access to babysitter. Also neither of us are that social any more, when we were young socialising was dominated by drugs and we aren't doing that these days - unfortunately many of our old friends still are. I went to a party a few weeks ago and left at 9 as there was too much drug taking going on!

[Brainfogmcfogface]

My daughter is 4, and I’ve never been out to any social events without her (so nothing in the evenings or adults only) have no childcare so completely impossible. Adult, childless, company is a myth in my world.

[SputnikBear]

Never. Babysitters cost too much.

[ChipsAreLife]

Maybe 1/2 a month but occasionally more if there are birthdays, weddings etc. Have a 2 and 3 year old and they are tricky to get to bed so it really puts off - but we often do stuff with them with friends.

I work most evenings till late (own business) so come the weekend I like to catch up on my crap TV and veg. The thought of going out is knackering. We used to go out an awful lot before kids so I got it out of my system for sure.

[Mummyshark2018]

About once a month (out our), then would meet up about 1-2 tines during the day for coffee etc. Also have about 4 girly weekends away a year, often abroad

[superram]

It depends buty husband does sport every wed and I usually go out on Thursdays as he does school pick up-sometimes I just work late. We get out together about once a month and use babysitters or drag our parents 300 miles.....

[dangerrabbit]

Once a week

[InstagramPork]

Out for dinner probably once or twice a month (either a restaurant or a friends house), a night out out (bars/nightclub) once a month.
And probably every 6 weeks a night out with DP (restaurant/bar/cinema)

[InstagramPork]

My kids are 8 and 4

[StarShimmer]

For us, socialising has really changed since we had kids. I had my first at 36, so we had yeeeears of going out under our belts and don't really miss restaurants, bars and clubs. We're just at a stage where we are happy to socialise together as a family, so lots of meeting up with friends at kid-friendly places, going to each others homes during the day.

We go to our neighbours for a party on a Friday evening every couple of weeks. We drink and dance, the kids run riot, everyone has a blast, then its 12 steps to home at midnight. Every couple of months we have a drinking session with just the ladies in our neighbourhood. Those go on until 3am and everyone's blinds are drawn the next day! Out out to a restaurant or a club, maybe 3 or 4 times a year, if that. With DS1(5) I didn't go out for the first 13 months of his life. I just couldn't bear to leave him. With DS2(10 weeks) I've already been out with the ladies for a couple of hours while DH wore DS2 in a sling. I was right next door though for any emergency feeds (he's EBF). I've got a 40th I am going to next week so DH will have to attempt his first bottle of expressed milk if he wakes! I'll only be 10 mins drive away so I can get back if he won't take one.

I'm happy with the level of socialising we do. Between playdates (either with DS's friends or my friends' children), family events, meeting up with other families and our neighbours, I feel we are never in!

[Chocolatecoffeeaddict]

Never without the kids. I only socialise with my kids at things suitable for them. I've got four kids, three very young and close in age and one has SEN, so I wouldn't leave them for a whole night and I'm often too tired to want to go out.

[AnnaNimmity]

2 or 3 times a week. I'm a single parent though and like to go out or I'd go mad.

[CurlyhairedAssassin]

Not very often but I don’t mind mostly. I’m a bit of an introvert. I work full time so see work colleagues all day and get my social fix that way. OccasionalLy (once or twice a year) me and a work friend go out on our own but we’re busy with our own families at weekends so that’s why it’s not often.

Usually go and visit family at weekends so more socialising that way but it’s with the kids.

The one thing I don’t like is not going out with DH much. Grandparent babysitting is difficult at the moment. Last went out with him in June. Time before that was this time last year.

Kids are nearly af an age where we can go out of an evening without them though. But for the moment any socialising is usually done with them involved.

I barely see a couple of friends who I went out with regularly before I had kids. They don’t have children, and I couldn’t afford to socialise much when mine were little. We carried on socialising in each other’s houses for a bit but it got a bit difficult because they moved away. I guess I’m not good at keeping up friendships though. Some people make more of an effort than me.

[TokyoSushi]

On my own, 2 - 3 times per month, with DH 5/6 times per year!

[Ragwort]

Depends what you mean by 'socialising', my social life has always revolved round my volunteering which is where I spend my time with friends so easily a couple of times a week, DH is the same so when DS was younger we took it in turns to stay in. We also paid for a babysitter if we wanted to out together, perhaps once a month and I also used to 'swap' babysitting duties with another parent with children the same age which worked really well, the children would sleep over at each other's houses which they enjoyed.

Having time to do 'my own thing' has always been hugely important to me.

Ironically now that DS is a teenager he is out more than me but it means I get peace and quiet at home which I cherish .

[Breadfoam]

Never.
Not once since dd was born 3 years ago.

[thecatsabsentcojones]

Once a week, but it's usually to see friends who also have kids so they have a good social event too.

[tigercub50]

I hardly go out at all & that needs to change. DD is incredibly challenging at times so when DH & I are on our own, we tend to just collapse! Also finding it very difficult to meet up with friends as everyone works different days etc. I can’t remember the last time we even went out for tea & cake. When we have our Christmas meal, some of us may not have seen each other in months.

[WonderTweek]

Oh never. My son is almost two but quite challenging and not a great sleeper so we’re always knackered. Also don’t have childcare so that’s the main thing. We went to see Metallica a year ago though and seeing them again in June so maybe that will be our time to shine. 😅

[ChilliHobnobs]

Once in the last 20 years.

[IceTippedMountains]

I remember years ago I barely socialised during the evening for the first 3 years of DD's life because my ex worked nights (although there were the odd lunches here and there). Anyway at my leaving do when DD was about 4 I got absolutely shit faced (I only had a couple!) because I hadn't had a decent night out in 5 years

When I became a lone parent I only managed a few lunches during my lunch break with close friends. I think I managed the annual Christmas Do...

As DD became a teenager I did have a few evenings out at the pub / restaurants with friends, but tbh I prefer the lunches!

[Bugsymalonemumof2]

I havent been out child free since december 2015 :|

[IHeartKingThistle]

I go to my hobby once a week and DH and I go out with friends every so often, maybe once a month. DC 11 and 9.

I have a lovely friend with DC the same age who will not leave them. If DC aren't invited to an evening event she just doesn't go. It's her choice of course but IMO it's not done any of them any favours.