To ask if you have children how often do you go out socialising with friends ?

[Peachsnowpop]

As the question says....

[Purpleartichoke]

Once or twice a year.

[stopgap]

Children are 4 and 7, and we go out every Saturday night with friends to a bar and then dinner, and each go out with friends once a week. For me this could be a book reading, the movies, going to a friend’s house with takeaway, as well as out to dinner or drinks. I can’t do hangovers with small children, so hardly drink, but my husband has a greater tolerance.

[KnitFastDieWarm]

Two or three times a month - love, love, love my girls nights with a few cocktails or a bottle of wine, a nice bar and a good catchup

[bellsbuss]

Once or twice a month with friends , once a month OH and I and once a month OH and I with other couples.

[Brokendown18]

It does get easier as they get older

[Barbie222]

Been out alone with dh once since eldest born - wouldn't do it again as mil has a lot more issues now. That's a bit shocking isn't it!

[Barbie222]

Maybe twice a year? I've never got round to organising babysitters as I don't know any who will look after kids below about 8.

[kaytee87]

I do go and get beauty treatments done every 3 weeks but I don't count that as socialising, I suppose it's 'me time' though.

[kaytee87]

On my own every 1-2 months, with DH every 2-3 months. Tbf we could probably go out more but we're always busy doing something with DS at the weekends.

[Choosausa]

Easier said than done I'm afraid, to everyone saying parents identity is important too and socialising is a must or they'd go mad. These of us who have No inlaws no grandparents no friends no spare funds that simply can't go out must all be going mad then. ! Anyone agree?

[Cumbrianlass66]

Probably once a month with friends once or twice a year with DH as no sitters.

[CantSleepClownsWillEatMe]

DH and I don't get out just the two of us all that often, maybe every 8/10 weeks. We both work ft so at weekends we tend to do family stuff, days out with the dc, socialise with other friends or family and their dc. Or just veg out at home.

I have lunch or dinner out with dm and dsis once a month or thereabouts and with various friends 2/3 times a month though that could be twice in one week and nothing for a fortnight...

Agree with Ragwort about having an identity that's not just about being someone's mum. I think it's fine and actually good for dc to see their parents as individuals who have their own interests and friendships as well as being the dcs parents.

[Rebecca36]

Long time since had young children but have to say, I didn't very often. What is funny is I used to regularly babysit (taking small child with me), for neighbours :-). I only once asked them to return favour and it was a very big deal for them.

Occasionally though, I did go out and thoroughly enjoyed.

Nice to have a circle of friends whom you trust, who babysit for eachother.

[VenelopeVonSweetz]

Mine are 2 and 3 and I probably go out 3-4 times a year but I’m cool with that.

I got all my going out out of my system in my twenties, I prefer a night in with wine and a book now.

[Brokendown18]

Once a year with dh. Once a month with my own friends. Can’t afford a tenner an hour for babysitters

[babbscrabbs]

Once or twice a month with friends

Every 2-3 months with DH

Once every couple of months with work friends

[topsyanddim]

If you have a partner, and sufficient funds, how can it be hard to socialise with friends?

I go out without my husband once a week on average. Maybe every two weeks if a quiet period.

We go out together without kids probably every couple of months.

We ‘go-out’ together with friends (stay over or put them to bed there and taxi home later) usually every other week. Often much more - over the warm summer at least once a week!

[QueenOfMyWorld]

Once a month

[Ivgotasecretcanyoukeepit]

I go out once a week with my friends and we go out for drinks and I am normally home 2am ish. My DH and I also go out together on date night once a week.

I would go crazy if I didn’t.

[mindutopia]

I go out maybe 1-2 weekends a year and my dh probably somewhat similar, though maybe more like 3-4 a year as his is more combined with work. We live in the middle of nowhere so by 'going out' I mean we go away for a weekend and stay with friends or in a hotel/airbnb near where we're going. There's nowhere near here to 'go out' otherwise. But we have friends come to stay with us probably 2-4 weekends a year as well. We rarely go away together as we don't have any family help for overnights so we take it in turns while one of us stays home. Frankly, we don't go out often, it's expensive and takes about 4 months of planning just to peg down a night when one of us and our friends are free. We'd rather just sit at home and snack and drink wine without the hotel costs or taxis.

[EggysMom]

Out? Socialising? Friends? What do these words mean?

I think I manage once per year, if you discount the works xmas party.

[Lethaldrizzle]

Once or twice a week

[MrsHandles]

Ah, well in that case I’ve not been out since DS was born...

[Howdoyoudoit31]

@MrsHandles

Going to the dentist doesn’t count

[Xmasbaby11]

At least 2 or 3 times a month in the evening and also some in daytime. I love seeing my friends. Kids are 4 and 6. When they were younger i went out less but for financial reasons.