To avoid women who do not like women

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If another women thinks women in general are bitchy, gossipy and much prefer men as she thinks they are more straightforward, then no I am not going to want to talk to you or spend time with you. If you show contempt for women in general, why would I want to talk to you?

Yes I’m the same. I have ‘masculine’ hobbies - outdoors/music - and I have non girly girlfriends to share them with. There are so many women out there, don’t write off an entire gender.

I found the comments on here extremely hurtful.

I have Aspergers and I have always found men more straightforward to work with.
I do not have contempt for women, it’s not internal misogyny or anything else suggested here. It’s just the way my brain works. If anything, I find groups of women very intimidating.

And this thread makes me more intimidated and more isolated. How would you reach those conclusions? I have never set out to upset anyone yet these are the conclusions some people reach about me. I find it genuinely puzzling.

So that’s the view from the other side of the fence.

I was a bit like that as a teenager although I had female friends. I honestly think it’s just because generally blokes want to talk to you one on one and give you focused attention (probably because they want in your knickers) and with girls you tend to have to talk to them in a group until they’re your best friend and I’m far less confident in a group than one on one.

seniorschoolmum the op basically is assuming that we all hate women if we get on with men. I wouldn't listen to it. I am with you and find male company much easier and stress free. Please don't feel intimidated or isolated.

die can assure you not one of my male friends has ever tried to get in my knickers. What an absurd thing to say

Wanting to and trying to are two very different things.

Completely agree, OP.

In particular, never trust Queen Bee type women who want to be the only woman in otherwise all male company. I've met too many of them in the workplace who are the very opposite of supportive to other women.

I like straightforward people as well and can't stand anyone high maintenance - plenty of women are like this. I have a good friend with autism who is straightforward to the point of bluntness, she is easy to get on with.

If you are young and very attractive men may be kinder to you - there is a reason for that.

And of course if you don't like women that comes across. You think we can't see that you treat men better than women?

I have one of those women as a colleague. She is the most gossipy back stabbing sneaky person on the planet - clearly she judges all women by herself. In a lovely twist her friends at work are three almost-as-gossipy men, you could not trust any of the four of them with anything, nasty people the lot of them.

YANBU, avoid the silly cow, she's welcome to her vastly superior world of straight talking upright menfolk. It's an imaginary world, so easily avoided by the rest of us mean petty gossipy wimmins.

okay so if a women were raped, and now she is uncomfortable around other men (apart from family) then is she a man-hater? is she wrong for preferring not to be around them? should she suck it up and remember that not all men are the same and going to rape her?

Im not saying rape and bullying are comparable, but im highlighting that someone having a bad experience with another human, resulting in a distaste for that particular group of people, is incredibly understandable.

I don't like forming close relationships with other women, I am not rude or dismissive of them, its not a thing that you should be offended about, its just my personal opinion and how i choose to live.

Sarah I would probably really like you. I like straightforward women, there are plenty of us about.

I find womens company much easier and stress free as men tend to want something from you! And often cross lines..

I would definitely be vary of a women who doesn't like women..

Also if you worked in a male dominated industry you would know that men gossip like mad!!! And are not as straightforward and drama free...I also find that most are very arrogant and convinced how great they are when in reality they are average..Women, on the other hand, tend to lack confidence even when they are actually great!
I prefer working with women for that reason..won't bullshit you they know it all when in reality they know nothing

I had (note past tense) a friend like this. She actually said once "Women hate me because their men love me because I'm beautiful".
She wasn't.

Other women didn't like her because she constantly tried it on (and more) with their partners or husbands.

But OP, you sound like you don't like other women much!

Whole heap of judgement being thrown about on this thread. You are claiming that "we" are not to be trusted and we are the sort of women who are this and that, and that we hate all women. By enforcing these stereo types upon women like myself surely that makes you no better? You are in fact stating you dislike all women who prefer men.
Hypocritical much

Waits patiently for the claim that us women who prefer male company are home wreckers... 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I had an absolutely awful relationship with my mother, right from birth until I cut contact at 29. I don't feel able to trust other women, that they won't hurt or bully me.
I had a fantastic relationship with my father and my brother's. Generally I prefer to be in the company of men, not because I'm a flirt or remotely attractive. Just for my own mental well-being. However I have a few women friends who are great.

The OP doesn’t like anyone high maintenance? Pot-Kettle much?

Seniorschoolmum the vast majority of people will not be reaching that conclusion about you.

The OP doesn’t like anyone high maintenance? Pot-Kettle much?

That statement makes no sense to me at all.

I do understand that there can be past experiences that make it hard for some women to trust other women.

But as a woman I want to talk to and spend time with women who like other women and don't hold negative stereotypes about them. I think women can be bloody amazing.

Goodness.

I don’t care who anyone is friends with and but I do find the idea that men are somehow more honest and less like to gossip/talk behind your back/be two-faced hysterical.

It’s like some people have never sat and listened to a group of boys or men chat!

Not liking women who don't like other women means you also don't like some women.

can assure you not one of my male friends has ever tried to get in my knickers. What an absurd thing to say

"Try" and "want" are two different things. I'm a generally misanthropic male, if someone fit the sexual profile of "would if I could" I'm more likely to talk to them. It's not that at a conscious level I have any belief this will lead to anything, it's just that somewhere below decks in my brain the officer in charge of testicle-emptying has triggered an alert in vocal cords control room telling them to leap into action. The officer in charge of verbal diarrhoea doesn't know why the alarm has gone off, his job is to obey orders, not question them.

Madeleine Where did I say I liked all women? That would be ridiculous to like 52% of the population just because they are women. But there are many many brilliant women as well.

I don't dislike women. I get along with plenty of women. I just choose not to allow many in as friends.

As others have said I've had too many bad experiences with bullying, bitching and back stabbing. I generally now don't have the time or energy to waste on letting other people in my life now. Male or female.