to put a note through their door? Wwyd?

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Hello, we've got new neighbours again...

Next door is let and we own. Last year's tenants were fine but one of them played the piano all the damn time and was always the same tune over and over again. Whilst this was very very annoying, I figured they were learning and practising. These tenants have now been replaced with some really annoying, plain noisy people.

I have an 8 month old baby and his room is next to their daughter's room. In the evenings they are really loud. Is it bad to put a note through their door? Or should I try and speak to the landlord instead? I don't want yet another year of putting up with someone else's noise all the bloody time.

@theworldistoosmall The world is indeed too small

Yes, I think ywbu to put an anonymous note under their door.

Go round, introduce yourself and say that you have a young baby whose bedroom is next to their daughters and could they please try and keep noise to a minimum.

I just finished drying my hair with about 10 mins ago and my next door neighbour has children, I wouldn't think that's a problem?

Just explain that they may not be aware but noise really carries through the walls and you'd appreciate it if they could be quieter after X time.

Drying hair with a hair dryer..:doesnt sound like thick walls

If it's every day noise why don't you put white noise in your baby's room?

@civicxx I'm just getting fed up with other people's bloody noise all the time. I'm especially peeved at the moment because the neighbour two doors down is having their roof done or something and it's been 8am-5pm non-stop banging for three straight weeks.

I can't take anymore!

You can't put an anonymous note through their door about noise that's bothering you - it'll be obvious it's you and it's just ... daft.

Are the noise levels really that bad or are you just sensitised to it? Can you hear actual words / can you hear it over your tv?

@OnlyFoolsnMothers We're in Edwardian houses. They are thick walls.

White noise is on until around 8pm because I can only set it for 2 hours (or less) or constant, and I don't want it on all night for him

Yep can hear actual words and over the TV (Handmaid's tale to be exact)

Mention to them that just as you're sure they've heard your baby crying (because they will have, trust me) you hear them.
Though nothing you've said sounds like neighbour from hell noise. A hairdryer at 8.45pm isn't exactly a 50 people rave till 4am.
You mustn't send an anonymous letter. If I received one, I'd go to the police.

Your 8 months old will be a noisy toddler before long. I would do nothing at all, you will be so stressed if you complain about loud talking and hairdryers (neither can really be banned easily) and then your kid starts the howling tantrums.

Is using a hairdryer at 8.50pm really that unreasonable? Surely if they wake up your baby they’ll soon know about it if sound is travelling that well

Also if you put a note through the door they will just come round and knock on your door to talk about it...

Maybe try to catch them but to honest she’s entilited to dry her hair at 9pm

You really can’t complain about a hairdryer at 9pm.

It's their house too. Your baby will just have to get used to it. It's not too late to be drying hair and if the walls are thick how can you hear it? You're obviously listening for it. It seems to me you're sensitive to noise from your comment about last tenant too. If you don't like it then move to a detached house.

I'm not just complaining about the hairdryer  everyone is now just going to berate me for that comment now!

Ok, let's kill the thread. Thank you for the replies. I'll either decide to live with it, or if it gets worse, I'll go and have a chat.

Over and out xx

If it is just normal everyday noise like hairdryer and people shouting to each other is that enough reason to complain? I don't think I would.

Sorry OP but YABU, it is completely normal to be using a hairdryer before 9pm, and a whole family shouldnt be tiptoeing around to avoid disturbing your baby.

I can guarantee that they will be experiencing noise from your side too but doubt they have come to you telling you to keep your noisy baby quiet

If it’s a specific room then consider changing where baby sleeps.

@ballsdeep you're very aggressive.

And we do plan on moving, it's hardly a click of the fingers job now is it. Urgh

Drying hair with a hairdryer ay 8:50pm is not an extreme amount of noise. It's perfectly normal.

Is it not possible to change your baby's room?

8am-5pm is pretty normal work hours for builders. They’re not doing it early morning and they’re not banging at 9pm? Come on...

If you can hear a hairdryer then your walls aren’t thick. It’s also not late to dry hair. Having a shower at 8.30pm is pretty normal too. Hair dryer at 10pm? Not so much.

You’re going to come across as weird and petty if you moan about builders banging at lunch time and hairdrying at kids bed time.

If you can be specific about unreasonable noise then pop round and say “just wanted to let you know that I think the walls might be thinner than you’re used to- the noise travels quite a bit” if they’re good, they’ll apologise and make a conscious effort to reduce it. But you can’t pinch at reasonable noise, that’s the trade off for living in a semi/terrace unfortunately

Reading your other comments I think you're being very unreasonable. The world doesn't stop for you and to hear through thick Edwardian walls you must be sat in silence and they must be screaming?!

After reading the full thread I think you are BU!

Fed up of other people's noise?

Go and live in a cottage somewhere in the middle of the wood? 

I’m a huge scaredy-cat too. I would make a lot of noise myself when I know they were in for a few days so they realise they can hear you so you can probably hear them. It might make them more aware and be a bit quieter. They might genuinely not have realised how loud they were being and how much you can hear. Or they may not be bothered and you’ll have to speak onthen any way...