Daughter in law putting grandson into modelling and film work. AIBU to talk to her about it?

[DaisyandLiam]

Hiya

My grandson is a gorgeous 6 month old but I really don't like modelling for babies. My daughter in law seems to think it's a great idea but since hearing about it I'm really not keen. My son doesn't really like it either but wouldn't dare upset her he did 2 jobs so far and they don't sound enjoyable for him at all!!

Would it be wrong of me to help my son talk to her about it?

Yes, it would be very wrong because it's none of your business.

Yes. Only offer your opinion if you're asked for it.

Personally I think it’s a bad idea to get involved, it will only cause tension and maybe backfire on you.

Yes. Keep your nose out. It’s nothing to do with you and he’s a big boy who can talk to his wife himself if he wants to.

I don’t think you should interfere.
The money earned could be useful for his future.
I doubt it is stressful for him at all. Why would you object ?

It's none of your business.

My son doesn't like the idea either so it's not completely not my business. I'd talk to her about it with my son. I'm worried about his wellbeing, the work sounds really not enjoyable for a 6 month old

No you need to stay well out of it and instead of agreeing with your son that his wife is getting parenting all wrong you need to tell him to talk to her.

My daughter in law seems to think it's a great idea but since hearing about it I'm really not keen.

This isn't your decision, is it?

Not your child. None of your business

It’s none of your bloody business

It doesn’t matter if “you don’t approve”

It’s not your baby!

It's still not your business.

Your son is a grown up and can speak to her himself. Don't interfere, I promise you it won't end well.

Stay right out of it, OP. It's between your son and your DIL, they're his parents and if your son doesn't like it then it's up to him to say something without any input or prompting from you.

If your son doesn’t like the idea he’s capable of talking to his wife himself. It is completely not your business.

How would you “help [your] son talk to her about it?” Has he asked you to help him? Does he not know what to say?

It’s really none of your business, this is something between his parents.

It’s none of your business.

If DS doesn’t like it, he should talk to his wife, not you. Okay to talk to him about it, but he should then talk to dial.

YABU.

Nothing to do with you at ALL.

I wish your son and DIL and grandchild the best. Hope he forges a good career in film and modelling.

My son doesn't like the idea either so it's not completely not my business. I'd talk to her about it with my son

Oh dear. This would not go down well in my home. If my DH wanted to talk to me, his wife about a parenting decision, but brought his mum along, I would go apeshit.

It’s for your son to discuss. You can’t intervene. He’s a big boy, he doesn’t need his mum to speak to his wife on his behalf surely?

Your son is not a child. Don't interfere.

I'd talk to her about it with my son

Look at it from the other side - "DH and his mother ganged up on me..."

It's their child, their marriage, and absolutely none of your business unless specifically asked for your opinion (and even then you should try your best to stay neutral or at least diplomatic when giving it).

So you're going to gang up on his wife! That'll go down well!

Omg, you think the fact that your son disagrees with his wife is your business?

It wouldn't surprise me if she's doing it precisely because you don't like it!

If your son has issues about his own son he should of course discuss it. But you need to stay out of it.

Can’t speak for modelling but tv and film work is extremely highly regulated for child performers especially of that young age. The whole set revolves around them. So it’s hardly an unsavoury place unsuitable for children.