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I've just run a half marathon and im fecking tired

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Oneandoneontheway · 14/10/2018 18:25

DH brought the kids ds 3 and dd 1. They watched at the finish line with Bil and then we went for food after the run. I'm super tired. We got the train home, then he sorts out dinner for the kids. Smashing, however I equally sort fire out, change dd into pj's and pop to bed. Then go for a bath. Whilst in the bath, dd starts wailing, so I shout to dh to get her. He then rants that he's tired etc and can't I help. Jeez!! I'm in the bath and I've just run 13.1 miles!!!!!!

OP posts:
RainbowBriteRules · 14/10/2018 21:04

Sorry, I shouldn’t have said you put her to bed badly. I more meant that you got straight into the bath when if I put a baby to bed I would expect them to wake multiple time and to go back into them if i had been the one to put them to bed. I’d give it a good half hour before getting in a bath. Still, it came out wrong and was not helpful.

Antigon · 14/10/2018 21:08

This thread is not about you and me but, if you care to read my posts critically and carefully, my beef is with the sanctifying of running as if it were a job to be applauded (no comma again).

I'm not even sure you realise that you're making a comparison between running (OP's hobby) and a job (DH's job). Unconscious bias, perhaps.

In any case, it's very clear that OP is a casual runner (she says this is her first half-marathon), so not sure why you had to imply she (or we?) are sanctifying running.

Pissedoffdotcom · 14/10/2018 21:10

MarshaBradyo

Wanna bet? If someone had given me a choice between working away all week & knowing that DD was safe etc, the housework was done, the washing etc....or doing the sole parenting thing as well as working? I know which is more mentally exhausting.

DP used to work away one week out of four until beginning of the year....he would agree that his week working away was mentally & physically easier than the week i had at home alone.

Antigon · 14/10/2018 21:12

Antigon I’m not explaining it well. I’m trying to say that of course she can and should have a hobby, and her DH should look after the kids whilst she does that. My point is that it would have been a lot easier and less tiring looking after them at home than taking them to the event.

skinny i see, thanks. But I still think that as OP is the one who takes care of them at home and out and about 5 days a week, that it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things if the DH takes care of his DC at an event one day.

And as OP said, this is her first half-marathon. She's hardly doing one every other week!

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:12

Well you know Pissedoff so I believe you

I know after travelling for work no way - and that was all lovely hotels, dinners and business class

Being at home is far better for me fir sure - even with an under 1 who us always near me (and two others)

skinnyamericano · 14/10/2018 21:14

Totally agree - first half marathon, you make the effort to go. Subsequent ones... not so much!

Original poster
Oneandoneontheway · 14/10/2018 21:15

@LARRY.Nope not expecting sympathy, just wanted some chill out time and the response has been 50/50. Bit confused by the level of comments about shouldn't have a hobby etc. But generally feeling like a me folks get my point!

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Pissedoffdotcom · 14/10/2018 21:16

But it shows that your comment of 'nobody would choose to work away' is crap. Every family set up is different. Just because you would rather be at home doesn't mean that parents who find being away for work easier are somehow inferior!

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:16

Ok you
1 person
Any others?

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:17

Every week away from the family

Pissedoffdotcom · 14/10/2018 21:18

OP i'd use this to make a point. Tot up how many hours he works. Then how many you work. Then how many hours you have the children. How many hours you clean, wash, cook etc etc. Take away your hobby hours. Bet in terms of 'hours' you still up him!

AnotherOriginalUsername · 14/10/2018 21:18

@Oneandoneontheway I'm not a hobby runner either (can't think of anything worse!) my runs have also been for the purpose of charity fundraising so I get where you're coming from. If you're anything like me, you'd probably rather have been at home with the kids than out training anyway!

I'm a cyclist now. Much more fun than running Wink

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:18

Also when the op first posted it didn’t have all the details

So my post was a more general comment about enjoying running and thinking about the support the other person offers you

Pissedoffdotcom · 14/10/2018 21:19

every week away from the family

Then moaning about time looking after the kids...it's such a hardship. How on earth do single parents cope working AND parenting? Hmm

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:20

As I said go for it if you want

It’s nit worth talking about

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:20

Not

Pissedoffdotcom · 14/10/2018 21:21

Not worth talking about...but worth beating OP round the head with. Whatever floats your milk carton!

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:21

Oh god
Ok

Antigon · 14/10/2018 21:23

Also when the op first posted it didn’t have all the details

Oh, here comes the back-track! Grin

PissedOff and I had just as much info as you, Marsha, but we weren't quick to judge OP.

You've been talking about this for hours but suddenly it's not worth talking about. Right. Grin

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:24

I stand by it

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:24

Seriously how annoying are you Grin

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:25

The Grin as you seem to like them

Antigon · 14/10/2018 21:25

Ah, here come the personal attacks. It's like clockwork Grin

Pissedoffdotcom · 14/10/2018 21:25

About as annoying as you it would seem, seeing as you also keep coming back to comment Hmm

MarshaBradyo · 14/10/2018 21:25

Pissed off should go and work away

And you should read posts properly as you were wrong

Ok now am off