I've just run a half marathon and im fecking tired

[Oneandoneontheway]

DH brought the kids ds 3 and dd 1. They watched at the finish line with Bil and then we went for food after the run. I'm super tired. We got the train home, then he sorts out dinner for the kids. Smashing, however I equally sort fire out, change dd into pj's and pop to bed. Then go for a bath. Whilst in the bath, dd starts wailing, so I shout to dh to get her. He then rants that he's tired etc and can't I help. Jeez!! I'm in the bath and I've just run 13.1 miles!!!!!!

It’s not just about the number of hours, it’s about the thankless task and logistical nightmare it is taking young kids to support a runner then the adulation they expect afterwards. Evidenced by the posters who seem to think it was a piece of piss for him just sitting in a pub.

OP, I walked bow legged for days after a 10k run so you have my utmost sympathy.

Your husband is twat. And I still think the MRA have stuck their greasy nose in this thread

No woman can be this obtuse.

I’ve been on both sides of this so this scenario is quite familiar in our house.

My DH complained he was tired after a day watching me do an ironman at which I laughed but when we checked his watch we realised he had walked almost twenty miles supporting me that day. We both slept well that night!

Similarly I took the kids with me to support him at a half a few weeks ago and was surprised how tired I was from all the tramping around keeping them occupied.

I’d say you’re both tired from the day, just try and be kind to each other. You will need him to be speaking to you the day after tomorrow when doms sets in and you can’t get downstairs by yourself.

YABU. DH has fone a stupid half marathon today. This weekendhe has managed 3 hours with me and DD out of her total waking hours of 26. And 1.5 of those were supervising at softplay. He went for lunch with friends too. We were left expecting him at 2pm so had a sandwich beause we thought we were going for a meal. He came if at 5pm. At least you managed lunch with your family I guess.
How would you like being left all wet weekend whilst your DH did a hobby?

Ridiculous posts on here

Ffs it's what? 2-3 hours to run a half?

Stay in the bath. Well done op!!

I can assure you I am a woman with a runner DH who knows not to pull this kind of shit and does not expect young children to be bored senseless at a finish line. If the roles were reversed I’d like to think I would be the same. Nobody wins in a competitive tiredness battle.

stripper she's left with the kids mon-fri

She took 2-3 hours out for herself!!!

OP,

You pursue a hobby which keeps you in good shape and you enjoy, and you get child free time.

Who paid for the childcare while you trained?

And, as for the ‘for charity’ bit, that is always really sickening. How many hours do you train? How much did the childcare cost? How much did you raise? If you really care about charity, cut down on the running and do some volunteering, and donate the saved childcare costs directly to charity.

A hobby is not a job, in fact quite the reverse.

I am also a SAHM. I am here all week too.

Lots of bitter couch potatoes on this thread!

Can't believe no one has thought to ask OP how many marathons her DP runs or how many hours she spends taking care of the kids while he does his hobby. For all we know, this might be her first marathon!

Hardly anyone is ever prepared to give an OP the benefit of the doubt of being fair. Sad, really.

Annoying idiots more like

I’m no couch potato .

Who paid for the childcare while you trained?

Family money paid, LARRY.

A half marathon is 2 hours' exercise. It would be more tiring to look after children. The charity thing is rubbish sorry. You can donate to charity without expecting others to pay for your run.
You spent time doing your hobby now it's time to give your husband some downtime.

Lots of bitter couch potatoes on this thread! Grin

Very annoyed couch potatoes Anona

OK, to clarity a few things
My husband works away during the week.
I paid for childcare a couple of evenings a week to train.
I also work 12 hours a week.
They were not stood in the ran for 3 hours, just 30 mins
They then went to the pub where I met them after.
The charity is and was important to my husband and me, as in it really touchs us personally.
I just wanted a bath?!!!
Why are folks so cross??!!!!!

Because people post crap

Less to do with you op

People are cross because you have shown absolutely no insight into how difficult it is to manage small children at a race and seem unwilling to listen to posters who do have insight into it.

Antigon,

‘Family’ money is earned by someone and that can be tiring too.

I like running, have run several 10ks and a half, but I recognise it as an indulgence and not a job which should be applauded.

YADNBU op.... most people here think you did a great thing today!

Which half did you run?

So he has 5 child free days and nights a week and is complaining about having to parent on a Sunday? He really is a twat.

Of course working away can be full on

I’ve found time to do exercise but it is a luxury for me

Your reply is nasty and sickening larry what a disgusting attitude.