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In thinking having more than 5 sexual partners doesn't make you a raging whore bag?

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fifithefoof · 14/10/2018 00:43

Following on from the last thread .....

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Lydiaatthebarre · 15/10/2018 11:24

Fififoof

The fact that you've started another thread on this subject makes me think you cannot get enough reassurance that you're not being unreasonable to have had multiple sex partners, and that anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong.

You're coming across as very insecure about it all.

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 11:30

Or that the other one was full and there was still discussion taking place. You can't shut us down. Sorry. Glitterball

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 11:33

It's not possible for a woman to feel comfortable with herself?

It's not possible that due to so many spiteful comments I think that the discussion needs to continue?

I've said several times that I'm very happy and secure. But clearly I don't know my own, silly slutty little mind. Grin

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JacquesHammer · 15/10/2018 11:34

With the obvious caveat that MN isn't a hive mind, there does seem a core element of people who are incredibly againt women discussing sex.

On another thread when I very reasonably explained why I had a FWB, I was called "tacky", "dirty" which quickly escalated to "whore", "bad mother" and other vile insults via PM.

Lydiaatthebarre · 15/10/2018 11:43

But the other thread wasn't a discussion, Fifi. It had descended into a bit of a bunfight. Not sure why you couldn't have left it there, instead of dragging it onto a further thread.

It does look as if you need a lot of reassurance on this.

DioneTheDiabolist · 15/10/2018 11:47

It would be very interesting to find out what men think. Surely everyone is familiar with the Madonna v whore expression.
Men with a Madonna Whore complex suffer sexual disfunction due to hatred of women. Why do you wish to hear from men with such an unhealthy sexual dynamic BrightonGallery7?Confused And do you think there are a lot of them hanging around MNet?

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 12:01

Off you pop then @Lydiaatthebarre

Don't the the door hit your arse on the way out.

You don't NEED to post on either thread if they irk you. Wink

You can even hide threads you find 'disgusting'.

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Lydiaatthebarre · 15/10/2018 12:16

Oh okay. No one who doesn't agree with you or who questions you is allowed to post on the thread.

I'll depart so, on that note. Tells me what I need to know.

Stillwishihadabs · 15/10/2018 12:32

Surely 2 figures is really normal - a combination of LTR s, ONS, FWB and everything in between. As log as it's consensual-who cares ? 3 figures is a lot, but if you are long term single in your 40's, it's only 5 a year or one every couple of months. Thousands would raise eyes I suppose, but still only 1 a week over 20 years...

Gingerrogered · 15/10/2018 12:35

Not sure, very strict upbringing I guess

My mother was, and still is toxic

The word sex was never even mentioned in my family, let alone talked about

@zukiecat, thank you for explaining. That does make sense, I understand now that it’s something personal to you.

I still don’t understand the comment about seeing other women as a threat though.

Regardless of the number of sexual partners anybody has or hasn’t had, if somebody sees other women as a ‘threat’ then the problem doesn’t lie with the other women, it lies with them and their partner in their relationship.

I think it would be a very sad situation if someone felt so insecure in their own relationship they were rotting up the number of partners other women may or may not have had to make some weird ‘risk assessment’.

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 12:49

You were moaning about me starting another thread @Lydiaatthebarre Hmm

And who are you to disagree with how others live their lives if they're not hurting anyone?

Nobody is judging someone that wants a small number of partners. Why are the people doing the judging all on the one side?

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DioneTheDiabolist · 15/10/2018 12:49

I don't think Zukie said that, I think it was neverendingsummer.

Lydiaatthebarre · 15/10/2018 13:00

I wasn't 'moaning' Fifi, I was questioning.

Anyhow, it's obvious this is going to be another thread of you insulting, attacking or being rude to anyone who disagrees with you.

What's the point, really?

Gingerrogered · 15/10/2018 13:02

Ah, thanks @dionethediabolist

RebelRogue · 15/10/2018 13:09

When all the shagging was going on, I had a very wide social circle. Hometown,uni town, home job,uni job, lived in dorms for a while, old friends(with their own social circle), new friends. The only men I met online were from a game we all played and attended regular meetups.

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 13:18

I've stated the point more than a few times.

You're choosing not to see it.

Why are you posting?

To change our minds about how we shouldn't feel confident and at peace with ourselves and make us realise how vile we really are? 

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 13:19

Does it really bother you that much that some (actually most in these threads) women aren't beating themselves up and slut shaming?

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Belina · 15/10/2018 13:41

no it doesnt this isnt the victorian times

mirialis · 15/10/2018 13:42

At the very least fifi, having now looked at the other thread too, you do seem to have some kind of victim complex going on here. No one is attacking you.

Lydiaatthebarre · 15/10/2018 13:46

Fifi you asked a question, people answered it. But only one kind of answer seems to be acceptable to you and anyone who demurs is 'slut shaming' 'judging' or basically shouldn't be posting on the thread.

So I'm not sure why you asked if you are being unreasonable. Because no one, obviously, is allowed say that yes, in their opinion, your are being. And the only person who used the term 'raging whore bag' seems to be you.

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 13:48

@mirialis people were absolutely attacking me and other posters. Calling us 'disgusting, icky, grim' to mention just a few of the names we were called.

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Belina · 15/10/2018 13:48

seriously who cares who you fuk we all die and nobody rememebers you for having so many partners

being a "hoe whore slut" is all down to opinion

some people think having more than one makes you are whore
or being a stripper
or having a child out of wedlock
or doing disgusting sexual acts like licking a mans ass or getting pissed on

nobody is an angel unless you are a virgin you cannot judge, simple as just dont share drinks with people all i say.

mirialis · 15/10/2018 13:50

Look, a few people think sleeping with 50 people is "grim" and a few people think sleeping with 5 people is "dull". Get over it.

Lydiaatthebarre · 15/10/2018 13:51

Fifi you weren't behind the door in the name calling department yourself.

And posters said that they found it distasteful/disgusting etc that some posters were boasting about having had over a hundred partners, had lost count, had slept their way through a cricket tema etc

They weren't saying you are a disgusting person, they were saying that kind of behaviour including the boasting was disgusting in their view.

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fifithefoof · 15/10/2018 13:58

That's just not true. Re read the thread.

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