In thinking having more than 5 sexual partners doesn't make you a raging whore bag?

[fifithefoof]

Following on from the last thread .....

Can any men on here chip in? (That's the first time I've asked for a man's opinion on mn grin ).

As a husband of twenty-something years I neither know nor care how many sexual partners my wife had before we met. As a father, I'd much rather my daughters had casual flings to satisfy their sexual needs than endure a LTR with a man who is anything less than 100% right for them. Finally, anyone who uses terms like whore, slut, hussy, slag etc or judges women for being sexually active has no right to have their opinion respected.

I'm in the late 30 numbers so I must be a professional escort by their standards. Jeeze.

Their lives must have been full of dull sex.

Thank you fifi.
These virtual, lady flowers are making me really happy.

Dying at the thought of a neighbour reporting you for having sex with your husband.

What on Earth kind of noises were you making???

Honestly my neighbour is insane.

She’s also reported us/me for

Maliciously watering the garden (!)
Shutting our front door

And

Threatening to kill her cat.

She’s absolutely, completely insane. Stands in the lane where we live in pink velour pyjamas 3 sizes too small with a crutch and shouts absurdities at the world. She’s also obsessed with me; stands behind me in the playground, follows me to the shop and watches me. My friends call her my girlfriend

She’s just barking mad. We don’t make ‘unusual’ Sex noises! Have three kids in the house and next to no time together so we are usually pretty quick about it. I imagine her up against the wall with a pint glass the crazy woman.

It's funny (funny weird not funny haha) that Zukie (and maybe others on this thread) see having very few (and you don't get much fewer than 1) as desirable. Growing up I hoped to have a good range of sexual partners before deciding who to settle down with. I believe (really not my area) that people who have "played the field " have happier and longer lasting LTRs. Also it's quite nice knowing what you are doing and what to expect when you meet someone new. MY number is somewhere in the low double digits ( not that I have forgotten anyone but what counts- just PIV ?) And if anything I wish it were higher, I met dh at 22 and was a bit jealous of the whole dating scene in my 20's and early 30's.

So I think regardless, someone is going to think you’re naughty. It’s why there is such a weird vibe in ultrasound waiting rooms, everyone knows everyone else has had sex

There’s no guarantee of that these days either! Sex is definitely no longer an essential prerequisite of pregnancy.

It’s weird that someone asserted women envy those with a low number and are threatened by them.
Shouldn’t that mean we are all envying and threatened by virgins?

My number would have been 2 had things worked out with my very serious 1st boyfriend. It didn’t and I had fun and played the field. I’m happy with that. I wouldn’t judge someone who had a long term relationship with their first sexual partner though. Each to their own. I’m happy with my past.

As I said @missillusioned* these women meet these men online.

Must do, as there is no way they would meet so many men who want a shag.*

'These' women don't all meet men online , I have no idea how many men I've slept with , it must be around the 40 mark though and I haven't met any of them online .

I would imagine a lot of the people posting (including myself) with high numbers are actually in monogamous relationships now, but had a lot of fun in the past. If you were single for 6 years of your life, that's 72 months. Just one partner every 6 weeks gets you up to 50. You don't have to be arranging hook-ups on Tinder for it to tot up really fast. There was no Tinder in my day! You just meet people while your out, don't you? Especially at uni and that.

@thisneverendingsummer

I've only just seen your post but I'll reply.

Wanting to go out and "get done action" as I jokingly put it, isn't desperation on my part. I'm simply going to to do something I want to do. I left an abusive partner after a very long time. I had low self esteem, but this is now rising really well.

I simply like sex (just not with ex any more), and I want to experience sex with other people. And in my area, I do hear women bragging about their numbers.

Re. the high numbers:

So if not online, via internet dating, how? By hanging around in pubs or clubs or by propositioning male colleagues?

I've already said once in this thread and twice in the other @BrightonGallery7

For me it was that I was involved in the London club scene so knew and regularly socialised with a lot of people.

I had a very wide circle of friends.

Riiiight

Certainly creates a new definition for “socialised”.

@BrightonGallery7 riiiiiiiiiiiight

What exactly do you mean by that? You're a peach aren't you? An uptight, judgemental peach.

I've no idea what your benchmark for "high" is.

However I met previous partners through playing sport, working for a professional sports club, nights out, friend with partners in a band, uni etc.

Why the special request for men's opinions here? As if they're going to pop up on Mumsnet and say "yeah, actually it would bother me if my wife/gf had slept with 10+ people" and who cares either way anyway?

It's not a "value judgement" to say that sex is tied up with self-esteem for many people. I didn't do ONS/FWB when I was single because I knew my self-esteem is not such that I would enjoy the aftermath. You could interpret that as low or high self-esteem. I orgasm very easily so who knows, maybe all the oxytocin makes it worse but I know I have the potential to get attached to the most unsuitable of blokes after having sex with them.

I do question what is going on with the self-esteem of those who sleep with 1000 different people - that's not simply about liking sex.

Uptight? Preferable to being...well, let’s not go there. Lol

It would be very interesting to find out what men think. Surely everyone is familiar with the Madonna v whore expression.

Surely everyone is familiar with the Madonna v whore expression

Can you elaborate please?

Brighton - why do you care so much what men think?!

The men have have chipped in on this thread have ALL said they don't give a shiny shit.

I personally wouldn't marry someone who has such an outdated and creepy attitude about women staying clean, pure and non icky.

Thank you PavlovianLunge and TooTrueToBeGood for well-rounded views from the male POV.

High numbers here (well it was the 1990s ) and then the same DH for 20 years & I hope many more. I judge nobody as long as it's consensual and nobody is playing mind games.