In thinking having more than 5 sexual partners doesn't make you a raging whore bag?

[fifithefoof]

Following on from the last thread .....

Some people are bizarrely prudish about sex. A friend of mine left her DH (who she married far too young after a long distance relationship) for the OM a week before DH and I got married. She lived in a small and traditional community and got a lot of abuse for it, her own mother said she shouldn't do a reading at our wedding because God would strike her down with lightening . So she called me up to talk about it (my reaction: don't believe in God so I doubt that will happen, still want you to do the reading but probably best to come without a partner considering how excitable people are about it) but she then said to me 'well, I might have had an affair but I've still only slept with 2 men which is less than you' .

Jacques I had a FWB relationship years ago before I met DH. It was the end of my final year at Uni, we were going to different places and we wanted different thing. So a relationship was never on the cards. But the sex was great and I have very fond memories.

I think FWB are a great honest adult 'relationship' that acknowledges we don't all want a LTR. If anything happened to DH that's as close to a relationship as I'd want. Wouldn't want another man in my house with my kids and definitely would never marry again because that would reduce my kids security.

But you wouldn’t miss seeing less of your friend? Aaaah or would you just still see each other as much but without the sex?

No idea. I imagine we’d chat. But judging but some of the comments on this thread (and others to be fair) it’s possible a new partner might not like him speaking to a casual ex, so would happily respect that and cut all contacts.

I think FWB are a great honest adult 'relationship' that acknowledges we don't all want a LTR. If anything happened to DH that's as close to a relationship as I'd want. Wouldn't want another man in my house with my kids and definitely would never marry again because that would reduce my kids security

I couldn’t have put it better. This is exactly the way I feel.

I think, for me, there’s FWB and then “fuck buddies”. I wouldn’t miss the latter, but I would definitely miss the former if I suddenly had to see a lot less of them.

I understand that. I’ve never made a distinction between terms really but see how and why you could.

Because for me a FWB is a friend who you happen to have sex with whereas a fuck buddy is someone you only see for sex.

X post. You already got it.

I guess for me there’s no distinction in this situation because it’s a distance thing so although I’d say we were friends we don’t spend time together outside this arrangement.

Indeed stonebake. Criteria are that they must be a friend. I would miss my friends if they said I no longer want to see you. Second thing they must be single, third attractive, fourth willing to have a sexual relationship with someone without developing feelings, fifth wants to actually shag you. And yet there are no shortage of such men ? Smoothes beard. Again.

And yet there are no shortage of such men

Do you think it’s hard to find men who want no strings sex? Because it really isn’t!

Nope. No shortage. Been there done that several times,without much effort.

I agree that I can’t imagine there being any shortage of men looking for this arrangement. Never fear jacques! If you ever get ‘broken up with’, you’ll be grand . I almost guarantee it, even without ever having met you.

There are so many apps and websites dedicated to no strings sex, which seems to prove that there is a huge market for it.

Slut shaming is a way of sublimating sexual jealousy into a critique of women's sexual expression. It also plays a massive part in victim blaming. When women slut shame they are displaying their own internalised misogyny.

Yeah, I mean, does it even need to be said? Women slut shaming other women is 100% a display of their internalised mysoginy.

There are so many apps and websites dedicated to no strings sex, which seems to prove that there is a huge market for it

I’m all about the old-fashioned way

jacques. You’re so antiquated with all your ‘in person’ liaisons and everything! Next you’ll be saying you met through friends, you dinosaur .

I know there are loads of men who will shag anything with a pulse. I don't doubt you could find one who would shag you. That's not the criteria I listed though which you have ignored, nor does it resemble what you have.

'I know there are loads of men who will shag anything with a pulse.'

Nice. Why so spiteful? I honestly don't get where it's coming from. @lornar123

"Anything with a pulse" in comparison to "special" I assume.Mhm...

nor does it resemble what you have

Golly if I was able to know with such certainty how someone I didn’t know ran their private life, I’d be taking a punt at the lottery with my all-knowing brain

stonebake I know! The old ways are the best.

I listed several criteria. At least address the points. Jacques has a boyfriend, she just won't call him it !!

At least address the points

Do you understand what irony means

You might be absolutely desperate for me to have a boyfriend because you’re so obsessed with the idea of being in a relationship. I don’t need a partner to give my life worth.

I can only assume happily single women scare you because they’re such a threat?

Ha !

One nerve. Touched.

Tbh, I think Lornas spite is coming from the fact her DH cheated on her. She has amalgamated all the women on here who enjoy having sex with the OW, who enjoyed having sex (with her DP).
That’s where the comments like ‘anything with a pulse’ are coming from.
At least I think anyway (armchair analysis over).