In thinking having more than 5 sexual partners doesn't make you a raging whore bag?

[fifithefoof]

Following on from the last thread .....

I guess I am looking for a life partner at my stage of life all be it unsuccessfully at this stage !

I can't imagine that I will feel as philosophical about as you do.

You'll look a looooong time to find a man that NEVER even glances at another woman or finds them attractive.

That doesn't lessen how they feel for you. Or mean they'll cheat necessarily.

How old are you @lornar123 ?

Butterfly? Fuck I’ll tell him he’ll piss himself. He’s 30 😂😂😂

Attractiveness and sexual attractiveness are not really the same thing. I can see someone and think they are attractive, without feeling any sexual urges about them whatever. I can see them in an abstract way.

My DS is 15, and has a couple of friends who I look at and think that they are going to develop into handsome young men. To me, it's just a dispassionate thought about what they're going to look like in a few years

I have a friend who is absolutely gorgeous and Dh is adamant that I must think he's sexy. I can appreciate that's he's stunning looks wise but he's such a dopey git I have absolutely NO sexual attraction towards him at all.

Multicolour that’s it exactly. Attractive in a dispassionate sense. Nit sexually attractive. Not at all.

*not

I just turned 28.

I don't expect they won't find other people attractive. What I would hope at my age is that I can find a man with whom we can both have the best experiences. Sex and the connection sex brings is important nto me and I would be unsettled at this age if sex with a new partner was just not as good as with an ex. I do also place a certain value in feeling like I can drive my partner wild with desire however cringey that sounds and would be gutted if he felt a stronger sexual connection with an ex than me. I suppose maybe this is not completely healthy or realistic but it is what is.

But it’s not just about the sex. A relationship is so much more than just the sex.

So what if you were a whore bag  keep it safe and fun

The thing with unhealthy views is that they tend to bring heartache. Hopefully you can find what you're looking for without any of it.

@surferjet

Even in 2018 a woman with multiple sexual partners will be judged a lot more harshly than a man. That’s just the way it is.

Men loved women who liked lots of sexual partners, but they wouldn’t marry them.

I know a lot has changed, but even today there’s very few people who wouldn’t raise their eyebrows at a woman who’d had 100 partners. I think going from partner to partner is the complete opposite of ‘cool’ - it sounds depressing.

Completely agree with the above. 100%. The women on here can blather on about how many men they've shagged and claim no-one judges them, but if they DO tell anyone that they're very promiscuous, they WILL be judged. Whether they admit it or not! (Then again, in real life, most women would not brag about fucking loads of men...)

@Lornar123

Don't believe you sorry. If your husband said x was much better at sex than you, but I still want to have sex with you, you wouldn't care.

I don't believe a word of it either Lornar, but this is the parallel world of mumsnet, where things happen to people that never would in real life! No way in HELL would anyone in real life not be bothered by their partner saying 'Bertha Biggs who I dated for 3 years in the early noughties, was a way better shag than you! Had firmer boobs and a nice looking ladygarden and everything!'

No WAY is any women going to be happy with her man saying that.

Similarly, no MAN is going to be happy to hear something similar from a woman. 'You're not as good at shagging as Dave who I dated from 1999 to 2006! He had a bigger dick and everything!'

It's utter rot to say people would not be upset to hear something like this!!!

As I said though, this is the parallel world of mumsnet, where some women have shagged 300 men in 7 years, and everyone who knows them doesn't think anything of it (including their current man!) they tell their man he is a crap shag compared to Phil from accounts, (and he is FINE with it!) and they are perfectly OK with their man saying 'Rachel, who I dated 5 years ago, was a much better fuck than you!'

Nothing to do with anyone being a 'special snowflake,' or a 'wee butterfly,' you would have to have no heart, no soul, and no feelings to not be a bit offended and pissed off at your partner saying you're a crap fuck compared to an ex of theirs!!!

As I said, I am not buying any of what some people are claiming on here.

No WAY is any women going to be happy with her man saying that

Who the FUCK has said that would or has actually happened?!

Do people actually read?!

Who ever said they told their partner he was a crap shag?

I have had 7 partners in 54 years and only one in the last 20 years, I dont feel like a whorebag...

What's with all the hyperbole?

Shouldn't be judged= no judges ever
Had better sex once = crap at sex
Had better sex once = big dick/ boobs.

Tbh you look rather silly ,not only twisting words but applying your own prejudice and misconceptions over what good sex is. Some of the worst sex I've ever had involved big dicks. There have always been some pretty awesome sexual encounters that had nothing to fo with the state of my "lady garden" and it's definitely why they were memorable(for both of us).

The bloke I had the best sex with wasn’t over endowed in the dick department but sure don’t let that get in the way of a good story.

Hyperbole? I'd say more like utter fantasist bullshit!

Have we been reading the same thread???

If people are going to completely fabricate whole conversations then it kind of kills any intelligent and balanced argument.

🤣

Where has anyone on either thread said they'd told their partner they were a "crap fuck" or "had a smaller dick"?

Ugh. And we're the grim ones?

We need a new thread - How would you feel if your partner told you their ex had better reading comprehension than you?

@fifithefoof i was trying to be nice goddamnit!!

😂😂

If good sex is incumbent on the state of my lady garden then I am fucked. Or rather, not.

@ftfoawygtfosm Haha! I remember having a total wax once and DH being so so traumatised. He's a fan of an unkempt lady garden thank god.