Does anyone else just feel like crying over their messy house?

[Iliveinazoo]

I'm soooo sick of it.

We're a fairly typical household, me, husband, two young kids (one preschooler), both dh and I working.

I swear trying to clean up with kids and a husband is like trying to shovel snow in a blizzard.

I can't even be bothered to go into the mundane details of it all, but things like.

You sweep and mop, they eat one meal, you may as well have not bothered.

You clean the bathroom, the toddler goes to the loo, misses, yay pissy floor.

You wash every single towel in the house, 3 days later every single towel in the house is screwed up in a damp pile in the corner of ds1s bedroom.

You clean mirrors, windows, glass doors, one hour later fingerprints all over said surfaces.

I try to fold washing, toddler tried to throw it all around the room like it's the best game ever.

Husband 'helps' by loading the dishwasher, nothing comes out clean because guess what darling husband, plates down come clean when they're crammed in on top of each other.

Apparently I'm also supposed to be ironing and washing bedding weekly, I don't.

I've tried everything, nobody notices or cares apart from me.

Eep I’m so glad I found this thread and I’m not the only one thinking this. I have a toddler and a newborn and to be honest I’m just crap at cleaning anyway, always was. My MIL loves to remind me how she had three kids but her house was always immaculate and she was able to entertain two toddlers, shush a baby in a sling, get the washing on and stir the dinner pot all at the same time. She’s superwoman and I’m supertramp. I struggle to even shower most days because I’m stuck under a cluster feeding baby and trying to stop toddler from injuring herself all the time! I think some people are just better at this kind of crap than others. My mum wasn’t a ‘mumsy mum’ or a ‘good housewife’ either!

Oh grief OP - your post made me laugh. Throw in a spaniel rather than a second child and you have exactly what you describe, shovelling snow in a blizzard!

Bless mumsnet for telling it how it is and not making us all feel inadequate 🤦‍♀️

Wrong emoji - 😊

Although now I’ve read TOMM 🤦‍♀️ this is just what I do anyway. How do we love in a society where this is a book? My days!

Why are none of the other homes I go to for play dates as messy as mine-they all seem to live on show homes ffs!

I'd be grateful if someone could direct me to an allowance of clothes for children & adults! I feel like if I have an acceptable amount then I can add 10-50% to it & get rid of the rest! Doesn't help that I'm bigger than ever so have many sizes stashed away to get back into 😳 then feel guilty for spending time at the gym as I should be sorting the house!

So many gifted clothes for dc which is lovely but just have too many & both at school now so mostly in uniform!

Yanbu.

I sometimes just think “what’s the bloody point?!” But then I guess it would be a hundred times worse.

DH does far more than me around the house but it’s never ending.

What’s got me exasperated today is I can smell cat wee really strongly downstairs but I cannot find where it’s coming from! It’s disgusting and driving me insane.

Doh! Zombie thread - sorry!

My children started doing jobs around the house linked to their pocket money from when they started school. The job types & expectations increase as they get older.
DP & I are on the same page on this & if the jobs aren't done/are not up to standard then the dont get (all of/any) pocket money /allowance.
There are 6 of us in the house & for it to function we all have to pull our weight.

Me! Me! Me!!!!!

I have the disorganised mum method. I look at the mess and decide to leave it and do something more fun, or shove it all into one small area. It miraculously does not clean itself but eventually we tackle it and congratulate ourselves with a take away.
Oh and get a cleaner every 2 weeks, you'll go on a 2 hour panic tidy/laundry putting away sesh. Then your house is not only clean from the cleaner, but tidy from your panic.

What worked for us, was a massive, Marie Kondo de clutter and all of us chip in with tidying, kids and dh too.

We have a cleaner, but as everything is v tidy, she can get to all the areas she needs too.

I had a huge cull when we moved just over a year ago. Then I did the Marie Kondo method room by room. Everything now has a home and I think about where to store something before I buy it. Once it's minimalist and tidy then cleaning is much easier. I have also worked on my kids and DH so they are also better now at keeping rhings3in thwir place and cleaning. Good luck!

Houdebwas easy to keep clean when the first one was a baby and not mobile. I would clean every room and Hoover daily then deep clean on Saturday, but once DS1 started crawling and getting into things it became near impossible except the bathrooms and kitchen which he didn't spend much time in. I went and am going through a tough bit with 3 boys under 5 now. I can't get on top of my ironing. The boys and DH thankfully always have clean ironed clothes and I iron mine as I go. I've stopped trying to have a perfect showroom house like mum did when I was growing up. I have to take into account we had a nanny and full-time housekeeper so the house was pristine and there were consequences for messing things up, meanwhile in comparison to mum, I work longer hours and don't have any help so the chaos will continue