Does anyone else just feel like crying over their messy house?

[Iliveinazoo]

I'm soooo sick of it.

We're a fairly typical household, me, husband, two young kids (one preschooler), both dh and I working.

I swear trying to clean up with kids and a husband is like trying to shovel snow in a blizzard.

I can't even be bothered to go into the mundane details of it all, but things like.

You sweep and mop, they eat one meal, you may as well have not bothered.

You clean the bathroom, the toddler goes to the loo, misses, yay pissy floor.

You wash every single towel in the house, 3 days later every single towel in the house is screwed up in a damp pile in the corner of ds1s bedroom.

You clean mirrors, windows, glass doors, one hour later fingerprints all over said surfaces.

I try to fold washing, toddler tried to throw it all around the room like it's the best game ever.

Husband 'helps' by loading the dishwasher, nothing comes out clean because guess what darling husband, plates down come clean when they're crammed in on top of each other.

Apparently I'm also supposed to be ironing and washing bedding weekly, I don't.

I've tried everything, nobody notices or cares apart from me.

The Organised Mum Method.

I live by it and always being told how nice my house is. X

Yep organised mum method. You'll probably need a week to get on top of everything initially but then it's really easy to keep on top of

Feel your pain. 3 kids and a husband who does help but on his terms, so will do the washing but not hang it straight so I have to iron where I wouldn't normally and never puts anything away.

I long for a minimalist home.

We are clearing out the attic ready for house renovations and I found a box we'd brought with us from our previous house labelled sentimental crap. It hasn't been opened for 10 years. I wanted to throw it. He wouldn't. And the bloody lego. Just everywhere....

What’s the organised mum method?
Yanbu . Lol at yay pissy floor, I clean this every.day. In fact I’ve started insisting junior sits to pee I’m so fed up. How can such a little thing be so tricky to control. Just how?

YANBU

Came on to also suggest the organised mum method. It’s actually changed my life.

Someone please explain what The Organised Mum Method is 🤔

I do - I'm embarrassed by it.
I've been pretty unwell since June - still having daily wound dressings by a nurse and frequent hospital appts. I can barely cope with the basics - just keeping up with washing dishes, and washing clothes (which I struggle to hang on the line)
I can't lift anything so hoovering, bucket of water for mopping etc impossible. I feel a complete failure - my house is a tip And it's got to the point I dont even know where to start with the things I can manage.

Yes.
My DH is a pathological hoarder. I despair because there is no answer.

My mum paid for some cleaners for me as I've been ill.

I took the kids out while they were working.

I came back, saw the man cleaning the glass patio doors, and the second he had finished DS (19 months) shoved his two grubby sticky hands on the door and at dinner he lobbed a full plate of cheesy pasta onto the pristine floor, rendering it greasy and horrible. I tidy things away in cupboards and drawers and he literally follows me round, pulling them back out again. Drives me in-fucking-sane.

I googled the organised mum method, it sounds great expect I'm struggling to see it working when everyone else is reigning havoc around me. I.e I could be in one room cleaning the toddler will be literally destroying another.

He actually does sit down to pee, but manages to somehow aim it under the toilet seat, over the edge and it runs nicely down the toilet base into a little puddle on the floor.

I started my DS cleaning up his own pissy floor at 5. It made him more mindful of making a mess. He's now coming up to 12 and automatically clears up if he does miss a bit, but it's no longer full on puddles like when he was little.

But I need to look up this organised mum method. I'm desperately trying to declutter enough to get a weekly cleaner in.

I turned my nose up at the whole Mari kondo thing but finally read the book and it’s been transformative.

Right, that's it, I'm off to tidy up, the utter shambles in the house has been doing my head in this week.

TTFN

A messy house is a lived in & happy one 😊

Sodthebloodylotofthem that is literally my toddler.

I'm certain he's going to work in demolition when he grows up.

Hi! This is my life, too

I have this problem. The cleaning itself wouldn’t be an issue, it’s that I have to tidy so much before I can even do the cleaning. By the time I have finished the tidying, there’s no time for cleaning!

Not helped by the fact we are mid renovation so there isn’t a home for everything yet.

I've just had to lower my standards for now I'm afraid, otherwise I was going to make myself ill with worrying about it.

I do a job each day e.g clean bathroom, hoover through or change the beds, so everything is kind of on a 10 day revolving thing if that makes sense, and I just have to be content with the fact it's done that often, if it gets messy inbetween then that's how it stays, unless something special is happening like having guests round etc.

Two things I would work on alongside the housework routine...

1. declutter so there’s less stuff to tidy

2. discipline and consequences for ‘literally destroying’ a room.

Mine are older now and I’ve always been very firm about tidying up behind themselves and pitching in with housework. They are now teenagers/nearly teenagers and very helpful and capable.

I totally agree about the cleaning/tidying thing. It's as though by the time I've picked up everyone's discarded crap and done the basics, washing, dishwasher, cooking, lunches, there's no time or energy left to clean things.

We're also doing work on the house so ongoing jobs don't help.

I’m the same
I hate it
It makes me so fed up
I need a week off to sort it all
I also know next day it would be same old

My house is also a bombsite caused by a 6yo and a 4yo (and two messy parents). There is green slime stuck to the upstairs hall ceiling in 3 places because 4yo DS thought it was a great game to see how long it stuck for.

Exactly the same thing with the pissy floor around the toilet - and he jammed a penny under the edge of the loo, which I can’t get out, and it is rusting brownish yuck that looks like poo.

DD aged 6 knocks glasses or bowls of cereal flying all the time because she’s not watching what she’s doing. Also she loves crafts so I’ll come back into a previously spotless room to discover tiny bits of paper cut up, or silver foil everywhere or something.

The organised Mum method can just fuck off!

Ugh yes, speaking of cereal, what is it with bastarding Rice Krispies, ds is incapable of pouring a bowl of them that doesn't result in my stepping on the fucking things for the rest of the day.

Two adult DDs living at home here.

It doesn't get better.

The "You just need to wait for them to move out" method works best.

Soz.