Grandmother hijacking MY wedding day

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It's my wedding day today - we've all just left the church. So as not to drip-feed, my immediate family have long connections to York, but my very elderly DGM was insistent that we have the service at her local parish church in Berkshire. Fair enough, I didn't object to this.

Normally, I get on really well with her, although she's never been particularly fond of my DM (she and my DF - her DS - divorced many years ago), so I was more than happy to make this concession as I knew it would mean so much to her. Plus, she did very kindly pretty much pay for the whole wedding, so I couldn't really deny her that, could I?

But let's get one thing straight: it's MY wedding - not hers. She had hers decades ago. It's MY turn now - MY big, special day, right? It's all about my new husband and me and what WE want on this one single occasion, no?

Well, everything went really beautifully. We had the service that we'd specifically chosen - hymns and readings that mean a lot to us personally as a couple. All very naice. We were so happy to finally be married and prepared to leave the church as husband and wife.

So you can imagine my absolute horror when, right at the very end - the grand climax of OUR one-off, very special day - I discovered that it had been arranged for everybody to sing a big, triumphant-sounding song that somebody had written quite a while back ABOUT MY GRANDMOTHER and how important SHE is!!!!

AIBU (and I know I'm not) for being absolutely furious that our perfect wedding day was hijacked right at the end by my 'D'GM and, suddenly, my new husband and I were completely forgotten as she made it all about her, her, her?

I would imagine she didn’t arrange it and it was a surprise for her too. I wouldn’t have been thrilled but I would have let her have her moment then done the match out of the church and got on with enjoying the rest of my day.

Please don’t tell me you spent the rest of the day stewing about it and it ruined your day?

If you did you’re silly for doing that. You couldn’t change it and staying cross about it only ruined it for you.

Would you even be having a wedding today if she hadn’t paid for it? The song is a bit OTT but it’s hardly hijacking your wedding. Let it go, have a glass of champagne and enjoy your day, it goes so fast.

Dude, you’re on mumsnet and it’s your wedding. Something will always go wrong on your wedding. OK, that was it. Stop thinking about her and enjoy having a fantastic party with your lovely new husband and all your friends and family. Put your phone away.

Hahaha, took me a while to get this

You looked beautiful btw

Well, she is 92, and probably felt it was her right.

I loved your tiara.

God save your dear GM

slaps forehead Groan!

I thought your super rich husband would have paid for it.

Ah yes, read it again, and I get it now.

Go back to her castle house and have the party. That'll teach her when she's git the clearing up to do

Hahahahahaha

Chuck your tiara at her, that’ll show her

I've only just clicked what this is about brilliant

Yeah, you are really overreacting. If she had died on the spot would that have pissed you off as well? Juat wondering.

I think you should get off Mumsnet, and concentrate on your wedding, E.
You'll be posting next that the last wedding in the family got more talk space on the family WhatsApp

Took me far too long 😀

I think your grandmother looked lovely as usual, and is so fabulous she's entitled to hijack your wedding. YABU.

Love this.

hahahahah typical Princess

She's got form for this, hasn't she?

Your tiara looked amazing, OP!
For the rest - considering you live from her money, just get on with it.

Take a deep breath and get on with enjoying the rest of your day. You'll laugh about it at your 25th wedding anniversary, be grateful that she paid for it all and regret that she's no longer with you.