Grandmother hijacking MY wedding day

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It's my wedding day today - we've all just left the church. So as not to drip-feed, my immediate family have long connections to York, but my very elderly DGM was insistent that we have the service at her local parish church in Berkshire. Fair enough, I didn't object to this.

Normally, I get on really well with her, although she's never been particularly fond of my DM (she and my DF - her DS - divorced many years ago), so I was more than happy to make this concession as I knew it would mean so much to her. Plus, she did very kindly pretty much pay for the whole wedding, so I couldn't really deny her that, could I?

But let's get one thing straight: it's MY wedding - not hers. She had hers decades ago. It's MY turn now - MY big, special day, right? It's all about my new husband and me and what WE want on this one single occasion, no?

Well, everything went really beautifully. We had the service that we'd specifically chosen - hymns and readings that mean a lot to us personally as a couple. All very naice. We were so happy to finally be married and prepared to leave the church as husband and wife.

So you can imagine my absolute horror when, right at the very end - the grand climax of OUR one-off, very special day - I discovered that it had been arranged for everybody to sing a big, triumphant-sounding song that somebody had written quite a while back ABOUT MY GRANDMOTHER and how important SHE is!!!!

AIBU (and I know I'm not) for being absolutely furious that our perfect wedding day was hijacked right at the end by my 'D'GM and, suddenly, my new husband and I were completely forgotten as she made it all about her, her, her?

And that bloody Ayda Field turning up in white!!??
WTF?
Now that is very UNclassy!
What a bitch.
You are allowed to trip her over later with the train of your dress!

Ha ha very clever :-)

That took me a worrying length of time to twig on to

Your cousin's wedding was better.

At least my DSis wore much nicer head-attire this time - a jaunty sort of purple bandana (think Rambo batik). At a family wedding 7 years ago, she wore this monstrosity of a hat thing - it looked just like a toilet seat complete with wavy whiff-lines streaming from it.

Well, personally I’d let it go. She’s got a lot on her plate as it is, and at least she took the day off work. She was cutting it fine with her arrival though, talk about making an entrance! 😁

Get thee to the Stately Homes thread. Your GM sounds like a narc and you should go NC at once. Or after the reception perhaps.

Dopey Naughty!

Miggledey I was going to mention the Stately Homes thread but Granny owns a fair few of them so OP has likely had a look around a fair few.

I can't tell if some posters seriously didn't get the joke... or were replying seriously yo be funny themselves

It’s your wedding day today and you are here posting on MN? Have you not got anything else to be doing? Not meaning to be unkind, just genuinely puzzled....

Sorry I did spend my time looking for the Grandma, and she was gorgeous as usual.

This has made me smile

But on a more serious note:

Andrew is determined all three of them should have full time roles with all the palaces, parks, security, helicopter, car privileges that come with it. Charles is determined they should have no role at all and find jobs.

Well if this is true then good for Charles. For once he seems a bit more in touch with popular opinion I would say.

Op I think you should be careful before you comment on what was worn 7 years ago wasnt your finest hour either

I mean, in all fairness, I think you've been a bit crafty with the details there - the song wasn't written especially for your GM was it? It just happens to be about her right now. One day it'll be about your uncle, then your cousin ... Same happened at my DSis's wedding, we had a classic local tune 'about' our DF played at the disco. I haven't seen your wedding pics, but I'm sure it's a similar scenario.

Love this thread, OP. I often read good posts out to my DH who threatens to hide my tablet (but secretly loves the posts) and I shall read this one and see if he gets it...…….!!

Well I hope you appreciated the money I chipped in towards the cost of all those uniformed attendants. Will I be getting a thank-you card? No chance.

You needn't expect me to pay for you to live in luxury for the rest of your life either. Get a proper job.

OP ...pop over to the Stately Homes thread....oh ...

What a load of nonsense. Especially as the Queen and Sarah get along well.

superb!!!!!!!!

Great thread!
So now I know how to pronounce your name.
You looked beautiful, the dress really suited you. Do you get to keep the stunning tiara?
Now enjoy your wedding day and, more important, your marriage.

One teeny thing - if your DS plans a wedding maybe she could skip the Tour de Windsor and the complimentary security. £2 million could buy a lot of police time to help keep hoi polloi safe.

very funny, got it from the title!

Bit mean of your Dad not to write his own FoB speech!

OP I'd be more upset at the fanfare as she arrived if I was you.

You should have screamed at the top him if your voice that it's all about meeeeeeeee