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Grandmother hijacking MY wedding day

151 replies

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 12/10/2018 12:25

It's my wedding day today - we've all just left the church. So as not to drip-feed, my immediate family have long connections to York, but my very elderly DGM was insistent that we have the service at her local parish church in Berkshire. Fair enough, I didn't object to this.

Normally, I get on really well with her, although she's never been particularly fond of my DM (she and my DF - her DS - divorced many years ago), so I was more than happy to make this concession as I knew it would mean so much to her. Plus, she did very kindly pretty much pay for the whole wedding, so I couldn't really deny her that, could I?

But let's get one thing straight: it's MY wedding - not hers. She had hers decades ago. It's MY turn now - MY big, special day, right? It's all about my new husband and me and what WE want on this one single occasion, no?

Well, everything went really beautifully. We had the service that we'd specifically chosen - hymns and readings that mean a lot to us personally as a couple. All very naice. We were so happy to finally be married and prepared to leave the church as husband and wife.

So you can imagine my absolute horror when, right at the very end - the grand climax of OUR one-off, very special day - I discovered that it had been arranged for everybody to sing a big, triumphant-sounding song that somebody had written quite a while back ABOUT MY GRANDMOTHER and how important SHE is!!!!

AIBU (and I know I'm not) for being absolutely furious that our perfect wedding day was hijacked right at the end by my 'D'GM and, suddenly, my new husband and I were completely forgotten as she made it all about her, her, her?

OP posts:
Strongmummy · 13/10/2018 19:07

Get off mumsnet and consummate your nuptials ffs!!!

Strongmummy · 13/10/2018 19:08

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 just got the joke

di2004 · 13/10/2018 19:23

Your Gran paid for the whole wedding and you're complaining about a song for her at the end?
I think you need to cut the old lady some slack and get on with married life.

Tweez · 13/10/2018 19:23

Fab, love it. Gave me and husband a laugh Grin

Singlenotsingle · 13/10/2018 19:26
Grin
Cookies2015 · 13/10/2018 19:42

Omg I'm soo slow

Sasstal67 · 13/10/2018 20:02

Mumsnet posts regularly give me a giggle, but this really cracked me and my grumpy old git up. Well done.

Accountant222 · 13/10/2018 20:10

I'm intrigued why Auntie Cam wasn't there, can you shed any light OP

cheval · 13/10/2018 20:45

Lol. Always thought those sisters were rather annoying. As for the parents...But bride has come across rather well showing off her scar and all. Not sure about the £2mill bill for police security though. Did Zara Phillips do that?

NotBeforeCoffee · 13/10/2018 21:19

After party at DGM’s house!

joanslegs · 13/10/2018 21:48

I thought this was about Cher in Mamma Mia. I'm caught up now Blush

mumoy · 13/10/2018 22:06

Took me a minute................Grin!

Member745520 · 13/10/2018 23:17

Have you cashed the cheque yet?

Cawfee · 14/10/2018 05:21

Hilarious!

Deadbudgie · 14/10/2018 08:49

Bloody hell op she’ll be expecting you to curtesy to her next. I’ve see pictures of your wedding dress and quite frankly I thought it was one of the nicest wedding dresses I’ve ever seen. You looked absolutely stunning. Word is your ceremony was far classier than the last one in that church. Maybe that’s why your grandma was so insistent you got married there, to try and erase that day from her memory and bring back happy thoughts about the place. At least you didn’t have a random preacher making the day all about him, at least your DGM paid for the privilege.

2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney · 14/10/2018 11:14

I read this to my DH , he did not twig and thought the song they all sang was “Grandma we love you....”
Grin Grin

busyhonestchildcarer · 14/10/2018 11:16

Yeah she paid for your wedding and the taxpayer a large amount too.need to stop hangers on from doing this.dont want to pay for everyone royal to have grand expensive weddings

YetAnotherSpartacus · 14/10/2018 11:29

Beats Grandma got Run Over by a Reindeer.

PurpleFlower1983 · 14/10/2018 11:33

Love this! Grin And especially love how long some people took to get it! I was just about to post a response when it clicked Grin

Pieceofpurplesky · 14/10/2018 16:50

Zara's wedding security cost £500K. I don't mind contributing to keeping anyone safe. They paid for their wedding and sadly due to the world we live in security is needed.

Great thread you looked gorgeous and I'd let granny off

Mymomsbetterthanyomom · 15/10/2018 01:26

Ok,I'm from the US and it took me reading a few comments to get it.
Loooove it 😂😂

Catdogmum · 15/10/2018 09:07

Just heard that your ‘D’Cousin and his wife also decided to announce their pregnancy on YOUR big day! I’d go NC with the lot of them!

SheilaBruce · 15/10/2018 09:17

Yep, catdog, those families!

Always stealing the wedding day thunder.

Grin
Shoobydooby09 · 15/10/2018 11:01

Thought you would have been more annoyed with your cousin announcing his big news on your wedding day.... don't think he really likes you. He gets HIS wedding first at YOUR venue, a much longer parade and then he announced his wife is pregnant on YOUR WEDDING DAY. Are you not a teeny weeny bit mad OP???

YoThePussy · 15/10/2018 11:56

Don’t worry OP, you are a real princess and very classy. See a certain Duchess tried to make it all about her on Friday. Didn’t succeed you rocked it.