Grandmother hijacking MY wedding day

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It's my wedding day today - we've all just left the church. So as not to drip-feed, my immediate family have long connections to York, but my very elderly DGM was insistent that we have the service at her local parish church in Berkshire. Fair enough, I didn't object to this.

Normally, I get on really well with her, although she's never been particularly fond of my DM (she and my DF - her DS - divorced many years ago), so I was more than happy to make this concession as I knew it would mean so much to her. Plus, she did very kindly pretty much pay for the whole wedding, so I couldn't really deny her that, could I?

But let's get one thing straight: it's MY wedding - not hers. She had hers decades ago. It's MY turn now - MY big, special day, right? It's all about my new husband and me and what WE want on this one single occasion, no?

Well, everything went really beautifully. We had the service that we'd specifically chosen - hymns and readings that mean a lot to us personally as a couple. All very naice. We were so happy to finally be married and prepared to leave the church as husband and wife.

So you can imagine my absolute horror when, right at the very end - the grand climax of OUR one-off, very special day - I discovered that it had been arranged for everybody to sing a big, triumphant-sounding song that somebody had written quite a while back ABOUT MY GRANDMOTHER and how important SHE is!!!!

AIBU (and I know I'm not) for being absolutely furious that our perfect wedding day was hijacked right at the end by my 'D'GM and, suddenly, my new husband and I were completely forgotten as she made it all about her, her, her?

Just twigged. I had a quick look and I thought Eugenie looked very beautiful and happy and that her dress was gorgeous. It was quite the swan like transformation and I think she outclassed Meghan there. Jack looked very happy too. Fergie and Beatrice both looked lovely and Beatrice’s reading was very moving.

I’ve seen lots of pictures of empty streets. Eugenie has always seemed a rather modest, shy and diffident girl to me, so I can’t imagine she wanted all this fuss and I put it down to the ongoing power struggle between Charles and Andrew about roles for him and his daughters after the Queen goes. Andrew is determined all three of them should have full time roles with all the palaces, parks, security, helicopter, car privileges that come with it. Charles is determined they should have no role at all and find jobs.

Apparently Andrew demanded the fuss for the wedding from his mother (whose favourite he is) because it’s one of his last chances to show how important he and his daughters are to the public and royal family.

Judging by the pictures it’s been an epic fail on that front and I do hope it hasn’t embarrassed Eugenie too much on her big day, because it’s clearly not her preference to go for show. It would have been nice if her father had been prepared to put her before politicking and wrangling with his brother. I hope Eugenie and Jack don’t let a carriage ride around empty streets bother them too much.

I don't think anyone or anything will over shadow you.
Can't say I'm that bothered about your wedding but having checked out the pics, you look absolutely stunning.
Tiara is amazing and so is the dress.
And none of that ridiculously long veil crap either.
Very classy.
Well done!

Are you always this much of a Princess?

Steal the family tiara and flog it on eBay?

Yes and she didn’t even look happy about it did she?

I also think you looked beautiful and your dress is far more interesting than yours cousins wife's dress when they got married.

hahahaaa Love It

Is your new husband alright? He looked a bit peaky throughout.

She has form for this, I’d go NC

Actually, your DGM didn't pay for it all - we were all forced to pay for it and you didn't even invite us to your hen night.....
(not that I would have gone as you're a sponger, just like your dad)

What's bothering me is why you are marrying comedian Lee Evans, why Mum was wearing chopsticks in her hat & why the bridesmaids were wearing my Nans wallpaper circa 1975 as sashes.

The empty streets photos were all taken early in the morning. There aren't huge crowds but they certainly appeared 4 or 5 deep in most places. I am not mad on the whole sucking up to Royals palava, but even I could see she looked lovely and quite a lot of people did actually want to see her.

Well your not quite giving the whole story are you op??
You wore her tiara used her cars and carriages and aren't you hosting a festival in her back yard tonight? At a song is a small price to pay I think!

She has form for this .
Thanks for this thread Op. it's made me smile!

Haha!

Oh..... Thehop that made LOL!!!!

hahahaha love this.

YABU. Your granny lent you her tiara, after all.

LizB, that’s not fair, she’s worked consistently in decent jobs since she graduated. She doesn’t receive any taxpayer money or live in a tax funded home and her bodyguards are private firms paid for by her Dad. Her charity work is small and totally voluntary. What she does is 100% free to the tax payer, so unlike the rest of the royals, when she does that it’s for no reward at all.

Your mistake was letting her dictate where you got married, everything else followed from that. If you chase the money you lose control

Now you are being a bit of a princess about all of this

Stop bitching about your grandmother when you have bigger issues....wtf were those horrible sash things you chose for your bridesmaids and pageboys??

Your grandmother didn't pay for it.

You had me. LOVE IT!

Happens at every wedding in your family, I've seen it before.