Earlywalker
That's awful about your friend. Anyone who takes a razor blade to their genitals has some serious problems. The fact that his father still insisted on adding to them, doesn't sound good either.
I think it's quite evident that women transition for different reasons to men. Women seem to be escaping the way they are treated, whereas men seem to be embracing being treated in a different way. There is a subtle difference.
Stephanie Davis Arai has said she has yet to see a woman transition who isn't either autistic, a lesbian or has suffered from some sexual trauma.
So not understanding gender, gender nonconformity, or escaping gender. They all seem to have the same thread.
Women transitioning is less of a problem in terms of sex segregation. Because women transitioning are no real threat to men. So the opposite situation doesn't arise.
However, we do not make laws based on individual people.
Rape laws are not made based on men who don't rape. Or, indeed women who transition.
And no, of course people don't run up to transwomen amd say you're a man, you're a man. But it's necessary to acknowledge that if you are to acknowledge the basis for sex segregation.
People like Sophie Cook who decide that women of colour are a subset of women and we need to have a word that includes both them and transwomen (!), certainly needs telling they're not a woman. And to stop talking on behalf of them.