To want to be fed at birthday parties?

[LurkNoFurther]

I have a 3 and 4 year old, so get lots of invites to birthday parties.

AIBU to expect some food at these parties?

For example, we had a party 12-3pm, food was served to the kids at 1.30pm. All the adults were standing behind their respective DC (small room) watching hungrily while they ate. There was a canteen there but it wasn't close to the party room and we had to be supervising our DC so no real option to get /eat lunch.

I could see some adults sneaking in a cold chicken nugget when they thought no one was looking!

At the end of the party I was so hungry, I ate the cake & sweets from the party bag!

It doesn't happen all the time, but I do myself getting annoyed when it does...

Now I'm not expecting a full on meal, but the hosts could have brought some home-made sandwiches that wouldn't have cost more than £20. Please consider the adults at these lunch time parties!

AIBU?

Because KarmaStar if it's over lunchtime, when are you supposed to eat your lunch? Especially if you're travelling? I don't want my lunch at 10am.

Approach similar minded parent.

I'm dying for a coffee/snack, aren't you? WOuld you mind watching little Johnny whilst I go grab us something, what do you want?

Yep. Simple really.

I always provide food and drink for the adults.

Philomena - take some butties and eat them while the kids are eating?

I don't want my lunch at 10am.

So take sandwiches with you or buy something at the theme park type place?

I always laid on scones, tea and coffee. With some crisps

if it's over lunchtime, when are you supposed to eat your lunch? Especially if you're travelling? I don't want my lunch at 10am.

Have a big breakfast and put some emergency cereal bars in your handbag in case you don’t get a chance to grab food at the venue?

You should eat because this seems the norm. However, I have always made food for adults too.

The happiness at which it's received makes it worth the effort!

If I have a party at home, I do a grazing board thing....a long board with cold meats, cheeses, dips, bread and crisps...bit of salad/olives.

If it's winter I do a slow cooker of curry the night before.

Not hard!

Drinks and nibbles for the adults. Food no.

Surely making a tray of jam sandwiches (say) for the adults can't be that expensive?

It's all academic to me now, I drop and run.

I'm also surprised you ate your child's sweets. You couldn't have waited a few mins and went and bought yourself a sandwicH?

Like I said, lesson learned I will be more prepared next time.

No, I have already said there was no opportunity to get anything, if you left the party you wouldn't know where to find them again. There weren't food places dotted all over the place, the canteen was near the entrance only. it would have been awkward to run off mid-flow! You would also have had to eat your lunch around the farm area

Btw our kids have not started school yet, so there is no talk of 'all class parties' just yet. The parents know each other well.

If you did have an all class party where you don't know the parents as well, then I can understand that attitude a bit more

Bluntness, I was very embarrassed at having to do that

Surely making a tray of jam sandwiches (say) for the adults can't be that expensive?

In this case we are not at home are we though? And event locations might not be bothered about an individual sandwich but they don't typically allow someone to bring in bulk food for visitors.

If you are struggling to provide your child with a party at all then yes, "just a tray of jam sandwiches" can be a cost too much even if the adults will eat them.

Yanbu at all op. I think putting on any event without at least some sort of nibbles for everyone is bad manners.
A homemade platter or two and some coffee/tea/juice would be the bare minimum.

If you all know each other well it's even more of a shame then that you couldn't have asked one of them to keep an eye on your kid while you popped off for a sandwich while they were eating.

We (as in the parties I've been to) might not bother feeding the adults but you can count on anyone, any single person even if you've only met them once let alone a friend, to look out for your kid for 10 mins or so.

Lurk you didn't "have" to do that. You weren't dying of starvation. You could have waited.

I invited some of DS nursery friends to a farm park for his birthday, 11-2ish, was clear I’d be doing a picnic. Had lots of food for the adults and touched almost none of it. I figured it was lunchtime they’d need to eat but non of the mums had anything at all I don’t think and a couple of dads had a sandwich, we ate leftovers for about 3 days. Not sure I’d bother again as they clearly didn’t expect or want to be fed.

I agree.

Went to a party at weekend from 10-1 and lunch was served but only to the kids. We adults were allowed the leftovers.

They could have stuck another pizza in.

I have fed adults at parties--it gets expensive though.

I think it's fine not to feed adults at parties, as long as proper warning is given in advance.

I know that 12-3 is only three hours, but if the adult did not eat beforehand, they might end up going from 7am to 3pm with no food, which is a bit harsh.

Yabvu,I know that it's an awkward time, maybe have a later breakfast of a cooked variety. If it is a pay per head venue, then they usually have a cafe, get something from there.

Strange DrWhy I would have demolished that picnic . Did you tell them to help themselves to the food, that it was for them, they might have thought it was for the kids.

SO annoying these posts of 'platter of olives, crisps, wine, sandwiches' It is a VENUE WHERE YOU PAY THROUGH THE NOSE. You can't bring 'a few crisps and a cup of tea. FFS. You pay ridiculous prices for crap.

I have had small parties in my house with the parents and children and laid on a lovely spread for all, but younger children go to soft play or similar and you DOUBLE the cost for a cup of tea and a 'nibble' for all adults. Honestly, grow up. To 'have' to eat the party bag... greedy person you.

Pathetic.

Haha yeah sorry but take something for yourself if you cant go a few hours without food, If it bothers you do much take your own sandwich or bowl of chips -_- why should they pay for adults too when it already costs a bomb to invite the children. fair enough if all day but 3 hours.... come on !