To correct this?

[TrainsandDiggers]

If your title was Dr and your child’s teacher kept referring to you as Mrs (a fair enough assumption on their part), would you correct them? And if you did, would you sound like you’re a bit up yourself? I’m aware of people correcting to Ms, Miss or Mrs, but not to anything else. TIA

We use everyone titles in at school - we have a lot of Dr as we are located by a major university. So I would say if titles are being used, use the right one.

If I'd worked to get a doctorate I would like it to be acknowledged as my title, however I think you do sound a bit up yourself OP!

I would say, "sorry, I should just say, honestly, please just call me [first name], but if it's a title and surname thing, it's Dr [surname]"

All very British, nice, and light-hearted (!)

And no YANBU. It's your title. Just as you might correct Miss to Mrs, or Mrs to Miss, etc.

No, would I hell!

Crikey NickNacky! Why not? Every day is a learning day and all that!

I said use it as a learning experience because, when I was a lecturer, I would have welcomed it. Mainly as on trips, despite being the senior staff member, in age and as department head, I was often overlooked by all sorts of people, who would look to my younger male colleague for leadership. That assumption annoyed me no end.

And all colleagues who were Dr used their title, always! Why not? It is who they are. Or is that just some idea of 'not showing off' - which sort of make my point!

Adoggymama - really sorry that I’ve come across that way. What is it specially that’s made you think that? I kind of thought i was trying to avoid sounding up myself by even starting the thread! 😕

Surely it’s only Dr in a professional capacity? Unless you’re on duty permanently you’re a Miss/Mrs/Ms like the majority of us when you’re not working.

curious Becuase it’s a school trip. If she had been asked to come in and give a career advice talk then yes, by all means talk about the points you made.

But it’s a school trip that’s not all about the op, so why would she make it about her?

The kids also have their own parents that tell them they can be anything they want to be. I know I do with my girls.

In all honesty, I think this would come across as quite wanky if you made a point of it. As this is not in a professional capacity I couldn't get worked up about it.

She’s there as a helper. Not a career adviser.

I don’t think you sound up yourself OP.

My dad gets scunnered being called Mr and his title is Reverend. My Grannie was Lady xxxx and never used it because she didn’t like it.

It’s up to you to be addressed how you’d like to be addressed. If you go by Dr then you should be called Dr.

Is she teaching girls? It should be good for her to show women can earn other titles. Obviously if it's letter or email, they won't see that, though.

Myself it would only be in a professional capacity. It does sound a bit uppity

I would only use the title in professional situations. I don't know why people feel that it's because they studied and extra 4 years they are special. That someone studied ancient Chinese literature doesn't make them more superior than someone who has work 15 years in social work for example.

Honestly? When I take children out on trips I am usually spending my own time (at least for part of the day if a school day) and energy to do something nice for them. If a parent corrected 'Mrs' to 'Dr' it might be a last straw! You're entitled to remind her, but yes, I would think you were an absolute tit. Sorry.

Thank you.

And oh my goodness! I would be such a hopeless careers advisor! 😂

Look, if someone was going around introducing themselves as Dr so-and-so rather than their first name, then that's wanky.

But there's NOTHING WRONG with having a well-earned title and giving it when asked. Which includes, very very nicely and light-heartedly, correcting it when people have innocuously assumed.

It comes to mind that we wouldn't be having this conversation about a male Dr.

My dad (yes, it happens to men routinely too) did this my entire school life. It was so, so embarrassing and unnecessary and a total waste of the teachers time. It only made him look insecure and desperate to impress and every time he did it I cringed as did my sibling.

So no, I wouldn’t correct them in a million years.

I am a dr and would only ever use that title in a professional capacity . Doesn’t bother me otherwise . Are you a medical dr

I don't think it would bother me enough to want to correct them TBH

Again, just to clarify, I’m not massively wound up by this and will stick to Mrs if necessary (although would prefer less formal). It was just a point of interest really as to what others might do in the same situation.

It comes to mind that we wouldn't be having this conversation about a male Dr. Mainly because most people would accord that man his official title. Very few men ever have to remind people more than once, if at all, in my experience!

My school always used to send mail to my parents as "DR and Mrs" instead of "Dr and Mr". I think it annoying because they'd obviously assumed it would be a particular way round rather than just forgetting entirely. Both DH and I are "Dr" (not medical) but don't mind at all outside of a professional capacity. It would probably annoy me slightly if they remembered his and not mind or assumed mine was a mistake as has happened before.

I think k no matter how you said it, it would sound a bit wanky.

It comes to mind that we wouldn't be having this conversation about a male Dr.

Actually I would think the exactly the same if a male did this.

I would ask children in my class to use Dr if that's your preferred title. It isn't uppity to expect to be called by your own name, and it's helpful for children to learn about people's career achievements. Am also wondering whether a man using the title Dr would be labelled as uppity!

Usually when we have any volunteer helpers I ask them what they would prefer the children to call them.