To correct this?

[TrainsandDiggers]

If your title was Dr and your child’s teacher kept referring to you as Mrs (a fair enough assumption on their part), would you correct them? And if you did, would you sound like you’re a bit up yourself? I’m aware of people correcting to Ms, Miss or Mrs, but not to anything else. TIA

If it's to refer to you in front of the children, then definitely use Dr. It's a good example, especially to little girls aspiring to be doctors

DD1 is in the process of applying to Uni. She is sick of people assuming she wants to be a Dr just because she is a science minded girl. Teachers etc have been trying to pigeon hole her down the Dr route since she was about 10 - if she didn't have me as an alternative role model it would be a difficult presumption to rebut.

ElectricMonkey Our names sound awful double barrelled so we agreed against that! In hindsight maybe picking a new family name might have been a better option.

I've never understood why the default option is to give children their father's name

Patriarchy.

“Ah, good evening Mrs Train, do come in” smiles
“Actually it’s Dr”
“Oh I’m so sorry, do come in Dr Train” thinks “twat”

I am a Dr and have not taken my husband's name . In a formal letter I would expect to be called Dr Anotherbooboo. in everyday life and particularly when in the role of generic parent I wouldn't mind what title was used. My experience is that it would be a mixture of Mrs Anotherbooboo, Mrs DC's surname and Yikes ( by children who know me) . All ok. I wouldn't embarrass anyone by correcting them and really don't mind.

Amongst my friends/acquaintances I know ‘mr justice x, his/her honour x, lady justice x, sirx , lady x, professor x, dr x. Most friends are without those titles btw !

None would ever make an issue of their title being used in the context described as it would simply be inappropriate/irrelevant/distancing. None except for one of the drs (male) who does insist on the title in very odd circs which is just tiresome.

I do think women with such titles should use them to challenge patriarchal assumptions. How brilliant for kids to see more women role models identifed really clearly ( and not just those with bestowed or earned titles obviously). But not as a volunteer parent on a school trip.

I do understand the lack of title in other contexts where it indicates assumptions, lack of recognition etc would be infuriating.

The his/her honour Xs are not so far as I know trans/gender fluid judges although my post grammar/punctuation may have indicated I was outing some 🤔

OP, I think if you’re a medical doctor it’s okay to say very politely something like “oh, Ms Teacher, would you mind calling me Dr Trains? To me Mrs Trains is my MIL”.

If you’re asking on the basis of your PhD, I wouldn’t. It’s accurate, but kind of wanky to insist on it.

Could you ask for Ms as a compromise? The teacher might be used to that kind of correction.

Hilarious!!! I'm 'Dr' but never really use it except when trying to get a better credit card deal and at work (and even then, among colleagues, I prefer to drop the title and just be first name! Save the doc for letters and meetings and stuff where I need it!)

To insist my sons teachers called be 'Dr...' !!!!! that would be totally wanky!

I've not long attended a wedding when the bride and groom walked in as Mr and Dr Smith (not their actual name). There were plenty of eyes rolling!

I'm a Dr. I get Mrs a lot at school. I haven't corrected the primary school, although on every piece of paper where they have my details it is clearly Dr. None of the teachers ar the primary are Dr so it isn't a title used. There are actually quite a few mum's who have doctorates at our primary (three of us out of 24 kids in my daughter's yet, and four out of 26 of us in my son's year). And a couple.of dad's, but I know them less well. None of us correct the school when we're interacting with them as parents.

My son has just moved to secondary school. Where some of the teachers are Dr so and so.....I might correct them if they Mrs me.....I'll wait and see!

I've never been called anything but 'Wonkylegs Jr's mam' by teachers at DS1s school and I've helped out loads.

My husband never uses the title Dr outside of work he's always Mr

I wouldn't correct it, but I sympathise as am in the same boat! I prefer Ms or Dr - I hate having to admit marital status. I am married as it happens but why tf should that matter to anyone? Plus men dont have to admit it. Grr.

None of the teachers ar the primary are Dr so it isn't a title used.

Bet they can avoid placing an apostrophe in a plural, though...

My husband was 'Dr' (through having a PhD), then 'Professor' when our kids were at primary school, but rarely got anything but first name or 'Mr Paint Box' from staff. My son once announced 'My daddy's a woodcutter!' which didn't do much to establish his academic credentials. Since 2008 I've been Reverend, but if people find that out in a non-church context they often go really wobbly and starttalking like Hyacinth Bouquet and apologising for swearing. So 'Mrs Paintbox' is preferable to me unless I am acting in the context of being ordained.

I am a medic and PhD and I think asking to be called Dr is a bit up yourself - sounds like you are insecure and feel the need to prove a point
Mrs / Ms Police is fine by me
I also find people who feel the need to put hundreds of letters after their name are generally arses as well