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Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

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fifithefoof · 09/10/2018 13:07

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting! Confused

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

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JacquesHammer · 09/10/2018 18:40

How is the reasoning unintelligent ? Either sex means something or it doesn't. If it didn't matter, then it wouldn't matter if your current partner had sex with someone else ? He doesn't need to care about them

Why are you confusing multiple sexual encounters and infidelity?

Would you trust a guy who's shagged hundreds of women when he tells you your special? Give over

It’s not something I’m interested in. I don’t care whether a partner has slept with 1/100

lornar123 · 09/10/2018 18:40

Sure, but the fish doesn't get upset when I decide to eat something else for a bit and then go back.

Flashingbeacon · 09/10/2018 18:42

Literally everyone has said they have a faithful partner. There’s no back and forward.

lornar123 · 09/10/2018 18:46

Yeah but why does it matter if they are faithful if sex is not important to you ? It sounds like you are saying love is not to be judged by sex and yet that is exactly how you judge it.

JacquesHammer · 09/10/2018 18:49

Yeah but why does it matter if they are faithful if sex is not important to you ? It sounds like you are saying love is not to be judged by sex and yet that is exactly how you judge it

That makes next to no sense.

But just to answer what I think you’re getting at.

I enjoy sex. A lot. I don’t have to be in love with someone to enjoy sex.

When I am in love with someone I have sex with only them.

Enjoying sex and multiple previous partners and fidelity to current partner aren’t mutually exclusive.

Flashingbeacon · 09/10/2018 18:50

Sex doesn’t mean love, but neither does splitting the electric bill and I’d be equally pissed if DH was doing that for someone else every month. If sex was the only difference between relationships that would be sad.

Livedandlearned2 · 09/10/2018 18:54

I genuinely have no idea how many I have slept with either. I estimate about 40 or so. Although when I sit with my friends we try and remember all the men we've been with, there's always a few we remember about each other that make us laugh and cringe Grin

Justwanttoweeinpeace · 09/10/2018 18:54

Same here. I've been monogamous for a decade since I met DH. The ones before were mainly just fun flings and aren't all that clear in my memory.

Wouldn't change a thing Smile

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fifithefoof · 09/10/2018 18:55

I don't even have to like someone to have sex with them. Grin Grudge/hate fucks can be brilliant.

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0ccamsRazor · 09/10/2018 18:56

I lost count, but probably over 100, had an absolute ball when single. Always with condoms though and was checked for std's before I did naked cock sex with both my xh (13 years) and my now dh of 7 years

I can honestly say that sex with dh is the most amazing sex, but we are quite geeky and very much in to Tantra.

Sex is an important part of my spirituality and my pagan practices, so that's my excuse and I am sticking with it Grin

poorlybutlearning · 09/10/2018 18:56

Nah, mines about the same, it was low single figures before went travelling in my 20s after 2 abusive relationships and I learned how to live and be a woman of the world! Life is for living (responsibly), back off judges.

Pickupthephone · 09/10/2018 18:58

I can’t remember. Not because it’s a ridiculously high number but because I’m 32 and married and have been with my DH since we were 23, it’s just not relevant information that I keep in my brain.

Weirdly though, 90% of my conquests will have taken place between the ages of 16 and 18. Which means that 90% of the sex I’ve had has been really crap tbh.

0ccamsRazor · 09/10/2018 19:02

fifithefoof I read that as grunge not grudge! I thought for a moment that your sex involved dm boots, long floaty skirts and rainbow hair, whilst swiging from a lemon hootch bottle Grin

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fifithefoof · 09/10/2018 19:05

@0ccamsRazor a lot of it was! Grin

I went through a big grunge phase where I went out wearing nighties and bleached my hair like Courtney Love's. It was more mad dog 20/20 we were drinking though. Envy

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Mummadeeze · 09/10/2018 19:07

I have slept with 100 people exactly and the only reason I know that is because I documented all of the experiences in a note book. Have been with my partner for 15 years, and the book is safely hidden away in the attic! One day I might need it if I decide to write my memoirs ;)

lornar123 · 09/10/2018 19:11

So you regard your husband paying half his mates electric bill a couple of times equivalent to him shagging his wife a couple of times ? Crazy. If it genuinely meant nothing to him except sex, where is the problem ? Is it ego ? He could have sex with me but chose her ?

I can think of little worse than a man telling me he had shagged 59 women this year, but I was the best. What do I get, a badge ?

PookieDo · 09/10/2018 19:12

Also purposefully ignore mine and have no idea anymore Grin
It has dried up significantly in recent years so surely can’t be too bad

AamdC · 09/10/2018 19:14

I think your deliberatly misunderstanding people lornar why is that?Hmm

lornar123 · 09/10/2018 19:15

"When I am in love with someone I have sex with only them."

Interesting. Is there anything else you do exclusively with the person you are in love with other than sex ? Sharing a bit of money seems a pretty poor comparison.

JacquesHammer · 09/10/2018 19:18

Interesting. Is there anything else you do exclusively with the person you are in love with other than sex ? Sharing a bit of money seems a pretty poor comparison

I didn’t mention money. If you’re not intelligent enough to differentiate between posters, the cap fits.

Isn’t this faux naïveté tiresome. It makes you look such a ninny.

lornar123 · 09/10/2018 19:18

I'm not trying to misunderstand people, im trying to get at why people who have had great sex with some one they don't even like let alone live would get upset if a partner did that too while with them. They still "love" you they just had sex with someone else, so where is the problem here ?

Purpleartichoke · 09/10/2018 19:22

I’m intensely curious about people’s ages on threads like these. Coming to sexual maturity at the height of the aids crisis had a big impact on myself and my peers.

SilverHairedCat · 09/10/2018 19:23

@lornar123 You're misunderstanding and conflating love and sex. They are not the same thing. If you love someone and are in an exclusive relationship with them, you're not going to have sex with someone else, whether you've previously had 200 or 2 sexual partners in your life. That's trust, respect and love right there.

jarhead123 · 09/10/2018 19:24

I've only slept with 2 people - I'm 33. Married at 22.

flumpybear · 09/10/2018 19:24

1-5 is probably ok if you meet your 'one' early in life .. this is me ... yawn Wink

5-50 = it took a while and / it you've had fun and that's ok

More ... hmm perhaps either a sex addict or terrible luck Wink

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