Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

It must make some feel better about themselves but it is really really not a valid comparison.hmm

It’s sad that you feel sex is dirty or something to hide brighton where do you think these issues stem from? Why would how many penises another person has had inside them upset you? And why would this hamper their parenting ability?

Well if they are okay they won't be now when I say actually yes. I have 4 children

Hardly a surprise for such a loose woman.

Also, just to add my own number, I suspect it’s in the 50s. I’ve been having amazing sex with my DP of a year but I do miss the lovely enjoyment of seeing someone naked for the first time and experiencing the first encounter. I love that feeling the next day when you keep thinking on it and secretly smiling to yourself on the tube

I’m 65 and during the 60’s and 70’s I had a bloody great time! No I can’t remember all of mine but I’m glad I did it 😉

I really hate this kind of slut shaming. it's utter bullshit.

what's the difference between a woman who has had sex 50 times with one partner and a woman who has had sex once with 50 (healthy and protected) partners?

there isn't any difference other than societal perception.

oh, and for the record - I've had one partner and I'm in my mid twenties, together for 12 years and married for 5. this isn't by design, I just got lucky and wound up marrying the guy I slept with first. however if we ever split up, i would sleep with whoever I bloody well wanted.

Love this thread I definitely don't feel like such a slut now I've read these!

I'm 77 and remember getting a cricket team, then a rugby 15 team .. Blackpoolforever you legend!!

(Mind you when I first read that I thought you meant all at once!!)

@thighofrelief I think making people feel like shit for using the word 'slag' was the intention.

Donajimina, Thank you. (Takes a small bow!)

And Elephant. Not all at once (though one memorable time, three men in one day! - all close friends/ husband!)

🤣 somewhere between going on a mission to fuck all of London I did settle for many years and got married and stuff. So now I’m making up still for the married and stuff years.

Footie and cricket team. Respect. Only bit of claim to fame I have is a semi pro footballer and a rally car driver as fb’s at the moment.

Anyway will have to carry on chatting tomorrow. On my way out. Oh and don’t worry about my kids, the older 3 are adults the younger two are together. 😆

what's the difference between a woman who has had sex 50 times with one partner and a woman who has had sex once with 50 (healthy and protected) partners?

There is a difference. Barrier protection is not 100% effective. You cannot know someone is healthy particularly with casual sex partners. It is a numbers game and not all STIs have symptoms.

I think the number thing is a bit of a myth.
My friend & I are opposite ends to the spectrum with regard to numbers. I am under 5 & she would be closer to 100.
She is 15yrs older than me (50s) & still very active to the tune of someone new each week. I felt a bit awed & jealous of her ability to be so carefree. I imagined she was very experienced.
However about 2 years ago she asked me if a guy had ever given me oral as she’d never tried it/no one had offered (!)
Her viewpoint was kind of set up to serve the guy rather than sex being mutual pleasure. She hadn’t really had a quality sexual relationship with exploration & experience.
From this point I felt really sad for her & a bit mystified.

I counted when I was younger for whatever reason and then I just sort of didn't. If I took an afternoon to think about it I might come up with a number, but as it would include entries like "14, Australian bloke, 15, fireman" it would just remind me of how many names I've forgotten which makes me feel bad for the likes of the Australian and the fireman. . The number is in the same region as yours, op. Definitely more than thirty but almost definitely fewer than fifty.

When I was in my late 20s I had to go to an STD clinic for an issue that arose with my then long term partner (now DH and have 2 DCs).

I was struck by how many seriously good looking people were in the waiting room with me. When I mentioned it to my partner he just laughed and said "Well' welcome to STD clinics!"

He went on to say that if you're young and good looking, you're probably going to have a lot of sexual partners.

So to all those posters worrying about their lifetime tally, we salute you!!

I think it really doesn't matter. 1 or 100, if you weren't hurting anyone, including yourself, then it's nobody's business.
If you were giving a tally of people you'd murdered or maimed then that would be different.
People have no right to judge. Judge yourself if you really want to but it will serve no purpose.

It just doesn’t matter.

This is a depressing and sordid thread.

I hope when my daughter wants to express her freedom as a woman she does so being a woman with depth and self respect, not by boasting on a website about how many notches she has on her bedpost.

Some of you sound like the kind of thick, shallow men we used to despise.

*I hope when my daughter wants to express her freedom as a woman she does so being a woman with depth and self respect, not by boasting on a website about how many notches she has on her bedpost.

Some of you sound like the kind of thick, shallow men we used to despise*

I wouldn’t bandy about the term thick when you are quite willing to equate having sex and self-respect.

When my daughter becomes a woman I hope she has sex as and when she wants. I hope she isn’t coerced. I will be teaching her to be safe. I will be teaching her that her value as a woman and a person isn’t linked to her sex life.

I have depth and self respect. Neither of those things have anything to do with the amount of sexual partners. Slut shaming is thick and shallow, which might be why you NC'd to make your post quipsandquotes.

While I don’t think any of this thread is sordid or depressing and I don’t think women have low self worth JUST because they have sex with a lot of different partners, I do find the hi fiving “a whole cricket team? Respect” a little shallow. It does sound like the sort of men I used to despise, to be fair to old name changer.

I don’t think the number matters, it’s the quality that counts! And sometimes you (one) needs to eradicate a particularly awful shag with a new and better one! 😂😂😂

I don’t know how many either, DH is single figures I think. We didn’t get together until we were into our 30s so I had a pretty high number. Not sure what it is but OP, you’re number isn’t shocking!

I meant to say not knowing your number isn’t shocking nor is the estimate.

No one's slut shaming. Just saying that the tone on this thread is very sordid and depressing and shows a lack of self respect or depth when it comes to sex.

Obviously you are entitled to defend your behaviour, but if you come onto a public website high fiving and bragging about multiple sex partners, then people are entitled to give their opinion. That's not slut shaming, or pearl clutching, it's just stating that some people find such a casual attitude to sex sad and depressing.