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Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

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fifithefoof · 09/10/2018 13:07

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting! Confused

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

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theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 20:46

Please tell me this person doesn't have children!!!!

Who me or the guys I have fucked?

BrightonGallery7 · 10/10/2018 20:49

Some must be “professionals”. Aha, that makes a crucial difference...

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 20:51

I am a professional lol. I don't include them in my number tbh. Most of the professional stuff I do is phone/text/cam and a fuck or two a week. Hence I have fucked so many guys over the phone today.

BrightonGallery7 · 10/10/2018 20:53

Yeah. I worked in out.

BrightonGallery7 · 10/10/2018 20:53

I worked IT

JacquesHammer · 10/10/2018 20:54

I worked in out

That’s rather a lovely typo.

lornar123 · 10/10/2018 20:55

Alias thanks for that, I appreciate you taking the time. So for you it would be the idea that he would choose sex with someone else over you ? Even if that sex is meaningless.

That is how I feel too, but I guess I do see sex as an expression of love which is why I wouldn't have sex with someone just because I had had a bad day and needed a distraction, I understand that not everyone is like me though.

I know lots of women who have been hurt because they thought that they were having sex with a guy who they thought adored them, it seems a common tactic with some guys, only to find out that they didn't. Maybe people would say they shouldn't think of sex as an expression of love, but I guess the trick is to be able to tell.

Because of how I feel I would be very wary about having sex with someone who I knew did not share the view that sex is an expression of at least great fondness if not love Smile

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 20:55

Really should be able to thumbs up posts. Even free boards I go onto have this option.

seeyouhen · 10/10/2018 21:01

Please tell me this person doesn't have children!!!!

GrinGrinGrin
Aaaaannnnd breath, breath, deep breathes. Are you ok?

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 21:02

Guys also get hurt in the same way, they have sex with females who they think adored them. Hence why I now let the guys know we aren't exclusive, we won't be and for me, it's just sex. Recently dropped a fb because he was getting too attached.

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 21:03

Aaaaannnnd breath, breath, deep breathes. Are you ok?

Well if they are okay they won't be now when I say actually yes. I have 4 children Grin Grin Grin Grin

JacquesHammer · 10/10/2018 21:06

Well if they are okay they won't be now when I say actually yes. I have 4 children

They used 4 exclamation marks first time around...cannot imagine how many they’re going to have to utilise now Wink

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 21:11

Oh, I know.
I'm not sure what relevance it actually has if I have children or not. Unless they assume I drag my kids with me, which actually gives a great insight into the world of that person. Hmm

AeolineReed · 10/10/2018 21:16

No judgement at all, but I am just wondering how and where anyone would find all these partners?! Even if they were just one-nighters. I am a slow mover (DP is my third, and I'm nearly 50 - and I wanted to shag him for many years before I finally did).

As I say, I'm not asking in a judgy way. More a wondering way.

I don't think there's any 'right'. I spent about 5 years wanting to shag DP before he finally made a move on me (I was married until then). He is the greatest love of my life (apart from my DC, obvs). As we are oldish, it doesn't always work out. But that is fine. I would rather hold his hand in bed than shag anyone else as long as I live. How does that figure in the bed-count?

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 21:24

Before the days of apps like Tinder and Happn, in clubs, supermarket (although picked up a few in the past year like this), public transport, and just being out and about really. Picked up various guys whilst just going about my daily life.

winniestone37 · 10/10/2018 21:25

I can't remember either but guess it's much the same as yours, who cares.

Purplegecko · 10/10/2018 21:27

Around 20 people but I can't remember an exact number. It's just never mattered to me. I have a friend in her mid 20s who's slept with over 100 people and I think that's a lot but not in a judgemental way, just a lot for her to have fitted in in 26 years!

seeyouhen · 10/10/2018 21:27

AeolineReed

For me it was always just on nights out when I was single. So from 21-24 I was single and had nights out almost every weekend, so I slept with about 20 people in those 3 years...I had slept with 5 previously. Then I was single again when I was 30 for another 2 years. Slept with about another 10ish, maybe more. Met DP at 38 and it's only been him for the last 7 years.

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 21:30

Not really when you think about it. It's only one a week over a year. How many people fuck 2 or 3 times a week. Just instead of it being with the same person, she's been with different people. So if they were all one-night stands, she has probably fucked less than someone her age who has been in a relationship for a couple of years.

Not aimed at you. But that's what all those judgemental people seem to forget. If actual fucks were counted, they would have done it more times than someone like your mate, myself and many others on this thread.

DioneTheDiabolist · 10/10/2018 21:32

AeolineReed, I slept with about 30 men. I met them on nights out, holidays, through friends and family, at work and at events and music festivals.

30 men over 10 years is only 3 per year on average. I don't think that's excessive.

bubblegumunicorn · 10/10/2018 21:33

Nah I don’t remember exactly but it’s about 15 I’ve been with DH since 21 and lost my virginity at 17 so that was in less than 5 years some people out a higher amount of pressure on sex than others I wasn’t that protective over my virginity lol

bubblegumunicorn · 10/10/2018 21:34

Also in that I was with my first BF for 1.5 years so that was from 18.5 -21 so 14 in 2.5 years

Blackpoolforever · 10/10/2018 21:47

I'm 77 and remember getting a cricket team, then a rugby 15 team, then lost count. But you remember the ones you wanted to sleep with but didn't! Quote from "I don't know how she does it" (Alison Pearson) "Unrequited love is the only one which lasts" I still dream about my Great Love when I was 17 - totally unfulfilled apart from a bit of groping!

donajimena · 10/10/2018 21:53

Blackpool you rock!

AeolineReed · 10/10/2018 21:55

Thanks, seeyouhen and Dione. As I say, not judging. Just wondering. And, yes, theworldistoosmall, the actual number of fucks may be completely unrelated to the number of partners. I went for at least 10 years with no sex when I was married, as XH was abusive and there was no way I was having sex with him. Now I have sex with DP about 3 times a week, but would be happy to have it three times a day with him, as he is shaggable and loveable (the latter makes all the difference to me) in spades.

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