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Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

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fifithefoof · 09/10/2018 13:07

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting! Confused

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

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AgnesBrownsCat · 10/10/2018 19:45

I think that’s very high ! Your business but as you asked for opinions then yes I’d consider that too many .

PineappleTart · 10/10/2018 19:51

Suspect my number would be 50+ doesn't bother me so don't see why it would bother anyone else. Used to have a little list in the back of a special notebook, gave up with that.

Besides practice makes perfect Grin

LabradorMama · 10/10/2018 20:07

I never bothered counting, I always thought it was a bit of a pathetic, childish thing to do.

theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 20:17

I've fucked loads of guys, in comparison the op's is low. After the last thread about this, I started to write them all down. Made for an interesting list, as some names aren't there just bloke behind bush Hyde Park at 6 pm. Some have been mind-blowing awesome and I played with them until I got bored of them. Others I wouldn't fuck again because they were shite.

I fuck because I enjoy it. As well as still meeting randoms I have an epic amount in my contacts that are FB/FWB's or NSA. I don't hide who I am. They know of each other, some have met. Have had chats with them whilst with another one and it's done openly. The only rules I have is condoms, regular checks even though we play safe and that if anyone gets a main, that's it finished.

I've fucked a guy earlier in the day and later fucked a different bloke. Had 3 and moresomes sometimes with the guys in my contacts. All arranged by either party.

Itsmenotyouisntit · 10/10/2018 20:19

No idea.. 50? 70?? 🤷‍♀️
I don't remember all of them, as in if I try and make a mental list some will be forgotten then I'll see them on fb or remember a certain time in my life and one will pop into my head and I'll be like "oh yeah I slept with him!". Doesnt matter really and i had fun, was safe etc so who cares!?

Cardiganqueen71 · 10/10/2018 20:20

I use them to count sheep.... so I go through the list... hopefully I fall asleep before I remember the bad ones..

AliasGrape · 10/10/2018 20:25

@lornar123

I realise the thread has moved on a little, but in answer to your previous questions around sex meaning something vs nothing I just wanted to say that I don’t think sex ever means nothing, but it doesn’t mean the same thing every time. I’ve slept with a relatively high number of people, according to some on this thread anyway. A fair few casual encounters, which could have meant anything from ‘i really fancy you’ to ‘I’m just feeling horny tonight’ to ‘youre funny and not unattractive and we’ve had a fun date and even though I don’t think we’re going to work out long term this could be a fun interlude’ to ‘can you just fuck me to distract me from some other shit I’ve got going on right now’ to any combination of the above.

I’m in a committed relationship now and even with him the sex can mean anything from ‘god I just love you so much right now and want to do everything I can to express that’ to ‘probably we should because we haven’t in a while and we don’t want to forget how’ to (mostly this these days) ‘neither of us particularly fancies it right now but tough shit because I’m ovulating and we’re trying for a baby so hop on and do whatever’s you need to do to get the job done’. Grin

If he had sex with someone else tomorrow, even if the sex didn’t mean anything about his feelings for her (but it would obviously, because even if it didn’t mean ‘I love you or even I like you’ it would definitely mean ‘for whatever reason I’m prepared to hurt my girlfriend in order to have sex with you), it would mean an awful lot about his relationship with me. It would mean he was choosing someone else over me, it would me he was prepared to betray me, it would mean that he was prepared to jeopardise what we have and the life we have agreed to build together for the sake of a physical release/thrill.

I have sex with my partner because I love and adore him and he feels like that about me and therefore the sex we have is understood by us in that context. That doesn’t mean that any sex we’ve had previously was meaningful in the same way, but it does mean that whilst we choose to be in this relationship we dont get to have sex with other people, that’s the agreement we made and the foundation we built this relationship on. If he said to me ‘actually I’ve decided you can have sex with whoever you want from now on’ that would be as much of a betrayal of ‘us’ as shagging someone’s else would be.

AliasGrape · 10/10/2018 20:27

Sorry for typos, my iPad has decided I need ‘S in all sorts of random places lately.

Llanali · 10/10/2018 20:28

I’m not sure, but not as many as I’d like. 20ish? Between 17 and 20 it was one, then some wild times between 20 and 21....been with DH ever since.

I love my husband and would never cheat, but I do feel a slight fear at the notion I’ll never have a one night stand again, and he’s the only person I’ll fuck again.

yorkrose · 10/10/2018 20:31

Just the one, have I missed out?

Sofabitch · 10/10/2018 20:33

No clue...I don't keep track...I've probably done 30 in the last few months...I reckon it's higher that 500

goingonabearhunt1 · 10/10/2018 20:37

There's a few extremely judgemental posters on this thread. I'd never judge ppl for their 'number' as long as they're practising safe sex and not cheating etc. Ppl do have different sex drives as well.

Beverley71 · 10/10/2018 20:39

I can’t remember either, and I don’t care. I’m 47, been happily married for 13 years and had only slept with 3 when I split up with my first husband at 28. I think it’s somewhere around 20 now

busybarbara · 10/10/2018 20:40

What has quality got to do with it. Can you remember how many movies you've seen or how many bottles of wine you've had? Sex is not much different to that imo, it's just something you do

BrightonGallery7 · 10/10/2018 20:42

Wow. Now we have someone equating sexual encounters to films and bottles of wine. 🤣

VirtuallyConfused · 10/10/2018 20:43

Are we counting phone sex too?

Just asking...

pteradactyl · 10/10/2018 20:43

I think mine is around 30 too but I haven't a clue either

BrightonGallery7 · 10/10/2018 20:43

It must make some feel better about themselves but it is really really not a valid comparison.Hmm

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fifithefoof · 10/10/2018 20:44

Yes @BrightonGallery7 seeing as you're so disgusted by it all why don't you go join the nun thread? Hmm

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Mymomsbetterthanyomom · 10/10/2018 20:44

I've fucked a guy earlier in the day and later fucked a different bloke. Had 3 and moresomes sometimes with the guys in my contacts. All arranged by either party.

Please tell me this person doesn't have children!!!!

busybarbara · 10/10/2018 20:45

equating sexual encounters to films and bottles of wine.

To be totally honest I've had movies that have lasted longer and remained in my thoughts more than most sexual encounters Grin

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fifithefoof · 10/10/2018 20:45

Dear God some of you are pearl clutchy nimby pants.

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theworldistoosmall · 10/10/2018 20:45

Oh if we start including phone sex, that shoots my numbers up into the 1000's. Fucked over 20 guys today that way. That's not including sexting and camchats.

JacquesHammer · 10/10/2018 20:45

Please tell me this person doesn't have children!!!!

Why?

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fifithefoof · 10/10/2018 20:46

To be totally honest I've had movies that have lasted longer and remained in my thoughts more than most sexual encounters

And bottle of wine. Grin

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