Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

If you were sat in bar with your dp and a woman walks in who your partner recognises. "Do you know her?" " Not really but I once shagged her and she is amazing, what a passionate woman!"

I tried to think of an answer to that but I can't because it just wouldn't happen, my DP would never in a million years say something like that to me.

And I said that ime there is some defensiveness about this on MN. Even on threads where nobody has been called rank or yuk.

Even on threads where nobody has been called rank or yuk

Yeah those threads it’s usually “whore” and “slut”

I'm the same but I know exactly how many partners I've had in the past 11 years and that's just the one, my husband. That's the only number I care about now, but I'm glad to read that there are a few more like me out here who can't remember the number from their youth!

If you felt comfortable and enjoyed it then why the hell not make it 50 odd. I am about the same as your 1-5 and I am happy with that being more of a relationship type of person

Call me old fashioned but I think there's a problem if you can't remember how many penises you've allowed inside your body.

I won't make it 50 because for the third time - happily married now.

@FlowThroughIt why is it a problem exactly?

My god I was a teen in the 80’s and I certainly can’t remember how many but I DO remember those AIDS adverts and I shat myself!! I was basically a born again virgin until 1990 and then I shagged with a vengeance 😉..... I’m now nearing my 50th birthday and do I care? Not a jot.

I with some others who think it's quiet high. I'm more of a relationship gal. I have been married twice and single for 7 years now. I'm in the 1-5 club.

I don't remember. It's 20+ but that's as far as I can get.

What's disrespectful about it ? I don't understand, I thought you didn't care ? Would you be....jealous ?

I would say that if you have lost count on how many people you have slept with you are a bit of a slag,either that or you just like a lot of cock ☺

For those with a high number of partners, bear in mind STIs may not have symptoms. Chlamydia can cause infertility. HPV causes cancer.

Condoms are not 100% effective. Even if you don't have symptoms does not mean you are clean. How often do you test? Are you going for regular smears.

Somewhat takes the fun out of the joyous copious sex to have to use condoms religiously with partners you don't know very well and do regular STI testing but I guess it must all be worth it.

What's disrespectful about it ?

What’s disrespectful about talking about someone like a piece of meat?

I don't understand, I thought you didn't care ? Would you be....jealous ?

Suuuuure you don’t understand. But just to break it down. No I wouldn’t be jealous, no I wouldn’t care if partner said he’d had sex with them. Yes I would be annoyed if he spoke like some kind of Donald Trump-esque frat boy.

I’m in the 1-5 club too. In my late 50s, married for 28 years, I was never really into casual sex in my single days.

How often do you test? Are you going for regular smears

Yes I go for regular smears. In fact I’m ahead as they lost my last set of results

When I was sexually active with multiple partners I had tests every 6 months.

blueshoes That's already been spoken about by several posters.

Suggs44 Can you explain to me why women who have had sex with more people than you have are slags? Genuine question.

blueshoes That's already been spoken about by several posters.

So? Worth reiterating.

So? Worth reiterating

Not really. We're all adults who know how to look after ourselves. What makes you think people are out shagging random strangers every night of the week? If you'd bothered to RTFT you'd know that most of us are talking about when we were younger and this was all before we settled down.

OMG! MNs can you read these posts & not see the hypocrisy? It’s not the number that matters. I’m over 70 & can match the original OP - BUT I remember 90% of them. They were/ became good friends or short term good relationships. If the sex is nothing more than a satisfying handshake, then what’s it all for?? Get off your face, have a curry & I’ll take a shag with that thank you. No wonder young people are confused—-

Jacques I envy you in that you never seem to experience jealous or "stingy" feelings when thinking of your partner with other people, I must admit that is odd to me.

This is what I don't really get you make out on one hand like oh sex no biggie shag whoever, but monogamy is important, and you would not be happy with your husband telling you frankly about his sex life. It sort of feels like you are not really honest with yourself about it.

You wouldn't get jealous just be angry about a broken commitment I think you said earlier. Lots of commitments get broken but you never said why sex is a deal breaker ?

And as for being disrespectful by talking about someone as if they are a piece of meat...you are kidding me ? You don't even know a thing about them, how do you know they weren't cheating ?

Jacques I envy you in that you never seem to experience jealous or "stingy" feelings when thinking of your partner with other people, I must admit that is odd to me

No. I don’t see why I would. What people do prior to meeting me isn’t important.

This is what I don't really get you make out on one hand like oh sex no biggie shag whoever, but monogamy is important, and you would not be happy with your husband telling you frankly about his sex life. It sort of feels like you are not really honest with yourself about it

That’s not really what I said. You can talk frankly about your sex life without being disrespectful. We’ve been through the sex vs monogamy countless times so there’s no point repeating for the nth time.

You wouldn't get jealous just be angry about a broken commitment I think you said earlier. Lots of commitments get broken but you never said why sex is a deal breaker?

I didn’t say sex is a deal breaker.

My theory is those sitting in judgment on the 30+ people are jealous they didn't get more before they settled down

I remember every guy I've shared a bed with. Had sex with? Just the one.