Not remembering how many people I've slept with?

[fifithefoof]

Was on the other thread about do you wish you've had less or more partners and wondered whether others can remember exactly how many people they've slept with.

Is it horrific I can't! Not that I've forgotten any as much as I stopped counting!

I'm trying to make a list and think it's at around 30-50!

Is this an unusually high number! I didn't think it was but on the other thread it seems most people are at around 1-5!

Ohluckyme you are making the mistake of thinking your experience is that of other peoples!!!!!

Some people have shit married sex, some people have great one night stands, some people don't need to be in love to have mind-blowing sex, some people do. Why can't different people have different approaches and it not be "yukky" as you described it? Why the judgement?

Just get yourselves checked because it so easy to pick things up! Even with condoms. Remember there’s no such thing as safe sex 😂

You sound like the nuns at my senior school! And precious little they knew about sex.

MargoLovebutter the judgement comes from the spread of sti’s. You’re more likely to have an sti if you have sex with lots of people. So I wouldn’t want to risk having sex with someone who has had multiple partners. Beyond that I don’t care what people do.

Just get yourselves checked because it so easy to pick things up! Even with condoms. Remember there’s no such thing as safe sex

Thank goodness someone with as much intelligence was here to help us all out 🙄

Like I’ve said in two other posts everyone is different! Just my personal opinion!

Ohluckyme

Oh get you. You must have missed my posts about being in a committed relationship for years and having great, meaningful sex with my very experienced partner. Luckily I had an absolute blast before I settled down.

JacquesHammer Well lots of people do catch std’s! Are you telling me that not one person on this thread has caught and std?

Why does having sex with multiple partners mean that you’ve had a blast and then settling down is not fun? It was the complete opposite for me.

Are you telling me that not one person on this thread has caught and std?

If I was able to tell you that, I would do the lottery.

What I am able to tell you is I have never had an STI. I have practised safe sex and it is working just fine for me. That’s all that matters.

It was the complete opposite for me

Different people in enjoying different things shocker.

JacquesHammer I glad it’s worked for you and you are happy.

Hacking sex with the same partner is brilliant because you feel free as you feel so comfortable with one another. And being in love makes sex so much better

Yeah we know...because we're in or have been in relationships and if you had bothered to RTFT you'll see that's already been spoken about in the thread.

I know like I’ve said previously everyone is different 😂 I though that’s what this thread was asking for, you know people’s opinions? 😂 I think some people completely miss the point of AIBU

seeyouhen Well if you agree that sex is better in a relationship then I’m glad I haven’t much experience with shagging around!

I think some people completely miss the point of AIBU

Uh huh. You mean like people who make the same point repeatedly?

The difference between you and me as I see it, is however much you purport to say “cool yeah as long as you’re happy”. You see the way you’re doing things as right.

Whereas I see the way I’m doing things as right for me.

I have never had an STI

You can’t really say this with 100% certainty I don’t think... Genital warts can be passed on even with condoms, not everyone who has them has symptoms and there is no test. I think I remember being told that 1 in 3 sexually active people have it.

www.fpa.org.uk/sites/default/files/genital-warts-information-and-advice.pdf

Most people with HPV infection won’t develop visible warts and the virus will go away on its own. This means you may not know whether you or a partner have the virus.

But I’m being very pedantic here.

It takes time and lots of practise to have an increadable sex life

Hahaha. Oh, bless your heart. It really doesn't have to. Sorry that's been your experience though. Just my opinion!

JacquesHammer Of course I think I’m right because that’s the right way for me to live.

I don’t think you are wrong and you have every right to be happy and live the way you choose.

However, I wouldn’t want to live like that because I would be scared of catching something nasty. The though of it makes me feel sick.

peachgreen I’m not ashamed as a 19 old to have taken time to know my body and understand what I like and don’t like.

That's fine, but don't assume that your experience is the same as everyone else's, and don't preach about something that, objectively, you have very little knowledge of.

peachgreen Well I’m allowed my opinion about my body and what I am prepared to do with it. And I’m glad I haven’t slept around. Fine for other people but for me!

Some very touchy people on this thread 😂

So many primitive, narrow-minded judgements on this thread.

If the OP has had consensual sex then there is no issue.

You can’t really say this with 100% certainty I don’t think... Genital warts can be passed on even with condoms, not everyone who has them has symptoms and there is no test. I think I remember being told that 1 in 3 sexually active people have it

I have regular tests. I have never had an STI. I’m also incredibly familiar with my body and give myself check ups for any symptoms etc.

Of course I think I’m right because that’s the right way for me to live

That’s my point. It’s right for you. You can’t extrapolate that as being right for everyone. If you can’t understand the nuances there...