Is having a hen do for a vow renewal cheesy as fuck?

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Friends seem all for it but I'm not sure, would you think it's ridiculous?

Ridiculous but why not? Any excuse for a party! It does seem a bit weird to celebrate the end of your freedom when you are already married though!

Yes it's ridiculous to have anything called a hen party in those circumstances. Just have a party and if you want female-only guests, fine.

Depends on if you’re talking a night out in town or a £300 weekend away type jobby

Are you having a vow renewal to start again?

If so yes you could go for a hen do and start your marriage again so to speak.

In a word - yes

It does seem a bit weird to celebrate the end of your freedom when you are already married though!

Maybe that's why - I always wonder who cheated when I hear about vow renewals.

The point of wedding vows is that you make them for life; they don’t need renewing. If you’re already doing that then having a hen do again makes no odds.

My husband organised one for me when we renewed our vows because I never had one the first time round!

Yes.

But I think vow renewals are as cringey as fuck anyway.

Whole weekend- OTT
Night out - no cheesier than a vow renewal. Go for it

Maybe that's why - I always wonder who cheated when I hear about vow renewals

My aunt and uncle renewed their vows as she lost about 10 stone and wanted to wear a smaller wedding dress.

Others I have been to have normally been down to the couple being able to afford a big do years after eloping

We eloped the first time around that’s why we renewed ours. A shame people might think that one of us had cheated.

As long as you don't treat it like a hen night where everyone absolutely has to attend, and it's expensive and people pay for the hen. If it's just an excuse for a girl's night out with no pressure applied then go for it.

Sorry it yes, and I agree with pp I would assume the marriage had been on the rocks due to cheating etc if someone I knew did a vow renewal, otherwise what's the point?

Depends on the style of event.
Piss up with blow up doll/veil/penis straws - fucking cheesy.
Weekend away - I wouldn't go.
Meal out with close friends - why not?

Just have a night out (or whatever) with your girlfriends.

Calling it a hen do and making it all about you is immensely egotistical.

It makes me sad to think people assume someone cheated. Even if that's true for some couples it's still something of significant and celebration for them.

I think calling it a hen do makes it cheesy but a party, why not!

Cheesy but could be great fun.

About as cringy as vowel renewals. Sorry but the only ones I know personally who've done it are attempting to start over following an affair. It immediately springs to mind when I hear of couples renewing now.

Not cheesy but totally bizarre. I'd think this was really self-interested tbh, like someone celebrating a half-birthday - it's a non-event.

Vow renewals are cheesy. It’s as if you’re saying you didn’t mean them the first time. So therefore a vow renewal hen do (which is to celebrate end of single freedom) seems even more cheesy to me.

That said - live and let live so go for it.

Renewal after a difficult time yes. Thanks for input - no weekends away but a few cheeky banners and the like x

I think if you are doing a vow renewal it should be very low key and should be about the vows nothing else .

Yes very cheesy and pretty pointless but then I don't get the point if vow renewals either

Yep but so are vow renewals.

TBH if it was purely a vow renewal I would assume that someone had had an affair and this was to celebrate rebuilding the marriage, if a vow renewal with hen do etc I’d assume that it was because the person just loved being the centre of attention. Either way I think that few people take vow renewals very seriously

I knew someone who arranged their ten year vow renewal three years in advance, booking the same venue and everything.