Is having a hen do for a vow renewal cheesy as fuck?

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Friends seem all for it but I'm not sure, would you think it's ridiculous?

Renewing vows is when they have been broken by one or both parties. Whether you like that or not , that’s what many people will think.

Gosh, not in my home culture. It's exclusively a thing done by some quite elderly couples as part of a celebration for a golden wedding anniversary or the like, usually organised by their adult children -- I would see it as a ploddingly respectable old person thing to do. At the ones I've been at, one or both of the couple have been in wheelchairs and/or with zimmer frames.

No suggestion whatsoever that vows had been broken! I've only come across that on Mn, and think it's hilarious.

I probably wouldn’t mind a reasonably priced night out, but I would resent shelling out a few hundred quid for a weekend. I paid quite a lot of money for my friends’ hens partly because I knew it was a one off!
Also I wouldn’t expect to pay for ‘the bride’ - Drinks etc.

Not cheesy at all. I didn't have one before we got married, nor did we have a honeymoon. It was a very frugal time.

If we ever renew our vows, it will be hen party and honeymoon.

I don’t get why people are saying it’s cheesy and they wouldn’t go? It sounds like the OP has friends who want to do it for her so does it even matter?
If your friends are “all for it” and you like the idea then have one!

Never mind what anybody thinks, your friends want a party so have a party! Maybe ditch the hen paraphernalia but if you want to make it relevant to your vow renewal why don’t you use as your theme photos and memories from the best parts of the marriage you’re celebrating?

SondheimFan that’s presumably not the U.K. though?

Here if your mates decide they’re having a renewal after only a few years marriage (talking anything less than massive milestone anniversaries here) it is pretty much assumed that somebody has been an adulterer.

It can be dressed up, but you can’t polish a turd. Party, vows, dresses, flowers. It all means that somebody fucked up big time and they’re trying to convince the world and themselves that they’re still in love.

I still say relate is a more worthy investment.

Sorry OP sounds crap to me.

I would assume someone cheated if a vow renewal if him the "bride" probably needs a night out. I don't know anyone that's done a vow renewal except unfaithful celebrities

I’d be delighted to attend. I think it is fantastic when a couple have gone through some really tough and turbulent times (such is life) and come through it, still committed to each other.

There are so many relationships which don’t survive the tough times that I think it is great to celebrate when they do. We don’t usually hear the success stories. Think it is time for people to be proud when their relationship survives the storms.

Cringe.

No . If you need to renew vows do it privately. It is cringetastic .

My PILs did it ( he had affair ) and asked all the grand daughters to wear bridesmaids dresses.
Just awful .