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burningsage · 06/10/2018 08:47

My brother is getting married in a couple of years. I'm not particularly close to his fiancé, she is quite a bit younger than me and we don't have much in common. She's been pretty bridezilla about her wedding so far (no plus ones for single people like myself, all guests must stay at her chosen hotel, spending a ridiculous amount of money on the day paid for by loans) but that's only my opinion and each to their own.

She is choosing her wedding dress in a few months and my mum has mentioned that she's been invited to go dress shopping along with brides Mum and her 5 sisters. Obviously I'm not invited and didn't expect to be.

I've been single for years, plenty of boyfriends but not a chance I'll be getting engaged in the next decade (if ever) so I suppose it might be my Mum's only chance to do 'wedding dress shopping' but I feel really odd about it? I don't have any sisters. My mum and I haven't always seen eye to eye but she's still my Mum and although I'm not really 'into weddings' I always imagined it would be something we would do.

AIBU to be feeling weirdly jealous about this or am I being ridiculous?

(Expecting to be flamed if I am being silly by the way).

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ClaireAnne1976 · 08/10/2018 10:46

If nobody is allowed a plus one unless they’re in a serious relationship then there will surely be a singles table at which you’ll be sat. Maybe there will be a single hottie for you 😉

I totally understand that they can’t pay for all the single people to bring a friend. I couldn’t and didn’t for my wedding. I’m sure if you get a boyfriend between now and then they will allow you to invite him. You’re giving mixed messages because you’re annoyed at them for assuming you won’t have a boyfriend then but you said yourself it’s unlikely.

I personally think it’s kind of her to invite your mum to the dress fitting and she has to draw a line somewhere.

Unfortunately it sounds like you’re a bit jealous of her.

I do get how hurtful it is when you’re excluded from things. My SIL didn’t ask me to be bridesmaid (she asked her other SIL) and I was upset but you have to allow brides to make their own choices.


Bananaramamamama · 10/10/2018 09:16

I think my mum went to see SIL's dress before the wedding and this was before I got married but I am not sure any of us thought about it. It wasn't an issue at all.

I was single at my brother's wedding. We never even thought about a plus one. They put me on a table with people I was close to, mainly couples. We had a great time.


AamdC · 10/10/2018 09:26

The weddings two years off yet anything could happwn i was single for years i met dh in the febuary married him in the August pregnant the following aprill had ds1 the following december so within two years i had met somone got married and had a baby ....

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