To think this “hilarious” card is actually depressing?

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I have 2 DDs and hate how this kind of crap is being normalised. Fucking hilarious Layla

It's crass and childish school boy humour but it doesn't offend me. I genuinely wonder how people find the energy to be constantly offended by things, to think that they mean more than they do, to campaign against them because they condone this or normalise that. It's exhausting. Just relax and bring your children up to be confident in their choices rather than susceptible to all these terrible terrible things in the world, out there, just waiting to get them. It's like you want to bubble wrap the entire world for them.

Rackhampearl I’m sorry that happened

plenty of other women will be quick to label them uptight, frigid, pearl clutchers and snowflakes if they disagree with it or choose not to do it.

No one here said any of those things because ‘you choose not to do it’. I haven’t seen one poster here suggest anyone is ‘frigid’ for not having anal sex, so either show examples or stop twisting words to fit your narrative.

As for ‘disagreeing with it’, I’m yet to see any posters giving any examples of why it’s such a terrible sexual practice. Yes, those who engage should take extra care, but that doesn’t make it unnatural or ‘disgusting’ as described here. As with all sex, people of ages should be educated, understand the good/bad, understand consent and stopping, the risks to your health, etc. Other than that, it’s very simply a case of ‘don’t like it, don’t do it’.

It can also increase the risk of STDs, so no harm in getting pregnant, but possible harm in getting HIV/hepatitis/chlamydia/syphilis.

*But, as others have said, it can be made safer. Or not, if by ignorant and inexperienced boys/men.

All that can be said of unprotected penis in vagina sex though.

Actually, no it can't. Anal sex is unsafer than vaginal sex for STDs. There's a risk for both, but it's higher for anal sex.

I personally love Love Layla cards and regularly send them! I sent my DH one on our anniversary saying, “after all this time, you still make my minge twinge” he thought it was hilarious and sent me a birthday card saying, “happy birthday, I’ll let you come first”.

Each to their own, no one is going to look at a card and think you know what I fancy right now a bit of bum fun....

Christ I don’t want crime series and think you know what now I’ve watched Criminal Minds I feel pressured into going and committing some crimes.

If by receiving a card someone is influenced into doing something they don’t want to...I feel that says a lot about a person

I think the cards are funny but I have sense of humour and can take joke.

If you look at all their other cards this is clearly a women's brand and several cards refer to the bum being "out of bounds" so I don't see the problem. If you're into anal buy this card. If not get one of the negative ones. Men are not browsing girlie card brand sites like this.

Nobody is calling folk pearl clutchers or prudish for not wanting to do anal sex??? They are being called that because they are judgy as hell about consenting adults getting enjoyment out of it. Big difference.

This

I have bought from this company and I will buy again. Not this particular card, but others. I actually have few in mind right now for DH’s upcoming birthday.

I also enjoy anal. My DH doesn’t pressure me into it and nobody else ever did. In fact, almost every time in my life I’ve had anal sex, I asked for it. Even when I was 17.

So, this is my personal experience. I understand that it’s anecdotal evidence, but so is “I would never do it and nobody I know either”.

“after all this time, you still make my minge twinge”

Ain't love grand . Love it!

Actually, no it can't. Anal sex is unsafer than vaginal sex for STDs. There's a risk for both, but it's higher for anal sex.

Yes, as the anus is more likely to tear and let infections in, I did pretty much point that out, and it’s quite common information for those who look for it. However, that means taking extra steps to lubricate and take it slower rather than ‘anal sex means you’re all going to get chlamydia or worse!!’.

I’m just looking forward from sales of tampons rising thanks to us all having to walk around with them up our arses thanks to the prolific rise in anal just from this card

Do people getting worried about a card pressuring girls into anal worry about food adverts pressuring them into eating? A card/advert/leaflet is not the issue when it comes to being pressured. Other people are. Teaching your kids - boys & girls - that it is their body, their absolute choice is what should be happening. Kids (and adults) will meet pressures daily. Giving them the strength & confidence to go 'you know what, that isn't for me' is the way forward. And obviously coming down hard on any wanker that thinks coercion or force is how you get your end away!

Other than that, it’s very simply a case of ‘don’t like it, don’t do it’

Absolutely.

I have never done and never plan to do anal, but I have no problem with this card so that others who do enjoy anal can have a laugh with their partner.

Anal sex has been a legal sexual act between consenting adults for some time now!

Hmm don't know where the strikeout came from ignore that

It can cause cancer so can vaginal sex.

Failing to see any harm with this card at all. Could be given to a gay or bisexual man, no idea why the immediate thought is inherent misogyny . Also, I am a woman that enjoys anal sex. I don’t watch porn, nothing to do with me wishing to be a pornstar . I enjoy it, it’s fun. This thread is incredibly oppressive.

rather than ‘anal sex means you’re all going to get chlamydia or worse!!’.

Did anyone say that?

It is still true that like for like (and particularly for teenagers avoiding pregnancy but not wanting to wear condoms ), anal sex is more dangerous than vaginal sex.

Anal sex is unnatural

So is driving a car, now fuck off.

Hummm up the bum no harm done?

Tell that to the elderly women suffering from anal problems stemming from their husbands historic use of anal sex as a birth control method.

Or those thousands of young women, teen girls who end up in hospital due to anal prolapse, fissures, weakening of the anal sphincter, etc

The pro-anal posters calling...pearl clutchers

Pearl necklace clutchers? Sounds like material for another dirty card

anal sex is more dangerous than vaginal sex.

Really? Because I would imagine more women have died from long term results of unprotected vaginal sex than anal.

Arguing that anal is bad become some dickheads have used it as a form of control over women is ridiculous. Men use 'normal' PIV sex as a way to control or abuse women...does that mean 'normal' PIV sex should also be discouraged? Does it bollocks. The issue there isn't the type of sex, it's the wankers thinking they have the right to force it

Anal sex is unnatural

So is driving a car, now fuck off.

Laughed out loud on the train at ^

All sexual activity carries some risk (including oral) - it's up to all of us to be educated about it and make our own choices, whilst being non-judgemental about what consenting adults do in their own homes.

If people are going to be influenced by a card, they would have done it anyway.