To think this “hilarious” card is actually depressing?

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I have 2 DDs and hate how this kind of crap is being normalised. Fucking hilarious Layla

You can be as offended as you like, it doesn't make it untrue. And nobody's said those things about sex per se, just one sexual practice. I do wonder why you're so angry and defensive about this and can't just accept that not everyone has the same sexual tastes.

It's individual taste.

Just like porn.

Or smoking.

Many may find it quite disgusting but others don't. As long as the sender is careful that the recipient is going to appreciate the humour then I see no issue.

I wouldn't buy most of them myself as it's a bit try hard but each to their own.

What about your terrible sex with terrible men comment? Judgemental, patronising and insulting. At least have the decency to admit it when you're wrong.

Let's face it, its not women asking men to do it caz it's so enjoyable.

Well, from my experience, quite a few women did ask for it. I personally am not too fussed about anal, but I reckon just about half my partners in the past actively instigated or bluntly asked for anal sex. There was no coercion, badgering or sulking on my part to get my way. Usually it took several 'are you sure's' from me before we got on with it. They were women who enjoyed anal and were not just putting themselves through extreme discomfort to satisfy me. To be honest the only pleasure I got from it was watching the women in question enjoy it. I appreciate my experiences are anecdotal but there is an awful lot of quite patronising projection on this thread. Chatting to my female friends over the years there seems to be an even split between 'ugh, no way' through to 'I love it'. As I say, just my $0.02

And honestly can we please stop with the “well I don’t know any gay people so who cares about them” attitude?

Surely, it's not the case.
It's different from most of us are heterosexual so we tend do discuss issues from a heterosexual point of view. Possibly because we can't speak for gay people, nor do we pretend that we can.
Are you proposing that we, heterosexuals, should speak for gay people?

Why are you saying that to me, and not the people saying sex is wrong and abnormal and dirty and only for the mentally ill-adjusted?

Perhaps you could point to those pp to help us out.

A quick search of the thread has only found you mentioning mentally ill-adjusted or even "adjusted" or "mentally".

Except for Earlywalker, who called us all mental.

Making comments like “all anal sex is men demanding it of women” is queer erasure.

Again, could you help out where that is said?

In any case, do report the posts that are so bad.

As long as the sender is careful that the recipient is going to appreciate the humour then I see no issue

This.

You buy cards tailored for the relationship you have with the recipient surely, with full knowledge of their sense of humour.

Thanks for the apology, karyatide. Maybe LGTB forums where nobody would disagree with you might suit you better.

I've enjoyed reading this thread. I am not into anal sex myself, but I absolutely support anyone who does participate and would never judge them. I have been saddened to read about how many teenage girls are feeling pressured into it though. It didn't happen in my experience, which was some time ago, I admit. It's been interesting all round, this thread. I don't believe in censoring the cards though. I have quite an irreverent sense of humour though.

Dunno why people are being so precious about some people thinking anal sex is dirty - it's literally a shithole.

There's such a thing as confirmation bias.

karyatide... who is bullying you?

Kary I've been commenting from the beginning and I've replied to some of yours as I don't and I'm not straight either!
You've been completely dismissive about misogyny to the extent where you've denied it exists, rather than acknowledging it's a huge problem in society, all because it doesn't affect you personally. Despite myself and others giving anecdotal experience. Then you've had the cheek to compare the perceived treatment you've received as akin to racist threads. You're the narrow minded one here.

Oooh, there have been a number of deletions. Including a post by Karyatide.

I knew I should save these threads. Now I don't know what they said.

Some of your posts as I don't agree*

karyatide - I've personally been taking issue with the content of your posts, not your sexual orientation, as how would I even know that?

You've only just revealed it in the last few posts.

My comment about lesbians not having anal sex wasn't a contradiction. You said lesbians have anal sex, and I corrected it to 'some' lesbians have anal sex.

The fact that you've now revealed that you're gay suddenly makes your contributions to this thread much more understandable - since you clearly don't have any idea about how straight women are navigating this particular issue with men.

You're completely erasing our experience in your rush to say this is an activity which some gay people like to do.

Great. As I've repeatedly said, they can crack on.