To think this “hilarious” card is actually depressing?

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lovelayladesigns.co.uk/Cards/Anniversary_Cards/up-the-bum.html

I have 2 DDs and hate how this kind of crap is being normalised. Fucking hilarious Layla

This reminds me of a joke about three gay men in a cab and letting out wind. Long story short, it ends up with the three calling the cab drIver a virgin.

The anus is not lubricated nor as expandable as a vagina. Fact.
Use it for sex if you want it. Opinion.

surferjet i have never heard that in my life...i have some very frank and absolutely hilarious conversations with my gay buddies. Is this something an actual gay person has told you???
If gay men require tampax up their arses then women must do too...

I was also coming on here to say that it's an old rhyme replaying to not getting pregnant. I was a teenager in the 1980's and heard it then.

Both me and my dh never fancied the idea of anal so have never done it. I've certainly never been pressured into it. In fact no-ones ever even asked. Each to their own.

Anal sex is normal. If you don't like it, that's perfectly fine. If you do like it, that's perfectly fine too.

FFS.

Replaying = refering

Some actual data and (apparently) professional opinion.

retroflexions.com/the-informed-patient/is-anal-sex-a-good-idea-thoughts-from-a-gastroenterologist/

"Up yer bum" was a catch phrase in a film about the early life of Cynthia Payne called "Wish You Were Here", it came out over 30 years ago.

It’s a bit silly! But can see that it’s some people’s sort of humour!

I hate the idea of anal: it sounds so painful.

I Love anal sex (misses the point of thread completely)

I am a heterosexual 41 year old woman. My dp loves it too. Should we stop doing it

Bored yes, yes you should. How very dare you get enjoyment out of something that pearl clutchers find so abhorrent. Shame on you.

hoping you pick up the sarcasm

It can also increase the risk of STDs, so no harm in getting pregnant, but possible harm in getting HIV/hepatitis/chlamydia/syphilis...

www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/sexual-health/does-anal-sex-have-any-health-risks/

But, as others have said, it can be made safer. Or not, if by ignorant and inexperienced boys/men.

I don't think the card is anything to do with non-consensual sex. From that point of view, it's totally unobjectionable. And I couldn't give a monkeys what people do in bed.

However, I'll never understand why anyone buys cards with any sort of sexual reference on them, whether it's Up The Bum, No Harm Done or In The Vagina, Nothing Finer, or whatever. What has any of it got to do with birthdays? Why is it funny? I just don't get it. It's coarse af and if I ever received a card like this I'd be completely bemused. Still there's obviously a market as there are so, so many of them on the shelves everywhere you go. Who is buying them?

I took ‘no harm done’ to be in relation to risk of pregnancy.

It can also increase the risk of STDs, so no harm in getting pregnant, but possible harm in getting HIV/hepatitis/chlamydia/syphilis.

But, as others have said, it can be made safer. Or not, if by ignorant and inexperienced boys/men.

All that can be said of unprotected penis in vagina sex though. The increased risk obviously comes from possible tears whilst not using condoms and lube, however these things can also be the case when inexperienced people have PiV sex.

It actually means no harm done as in you can't get pregnant. But I agree it's not funny, I've ordered from there before they're usually quite amusing. Agree with pp though I don't like the wine bottle one

Actually - gay men do have to wear tampax up their anus to stop themselves passing poo when they sneeze - or so I’ve heard anyway.

Do you actually believe that?

Why and how do gay men like this?

Because men, unlike women, have prostate gland that is stimulated through anal penetration.

What do women get out of anal sex?

Nah not getting it, not for me yuck!

Crikey, I've just looked at the rest of their site. A suggested anniversary gift is a fridge magnet saying "Back Off, Fatty". Just imagine.

It’s half of a rhyme. The next bit is “one in the fanny, your mum’s a granny”. That’s been about for years.

I don’t thunk it’s anything other than bad taste humour.

And gay men do not need tampons up their bum. Catch yourself on.

I think the no harm done refers to no risk of pregnancy rather than rape but fuck me is the gross and creepy in equal measure. Rhymes about anal sex should not exist.

Back off, Fatty i need that magnet on my fridge!!!

Didn't we used to have Bum Sex Friday threads on MN?

I was sodomized by an ex and it caused me a lot of damage. If I were to receive this card from a friend, say somebody who didn't know about what happened to me. I wouldn't be offended. Not everything deserves a reaction. But I have to agree that it's merchandise and 'humour' like that this that is possibly normalising this kind of treatment towards women. My ex has this kind of humour so I'm not sure he understood that what he was doing was wrong. My DH is the complete opposite. We were having sex in a relaxed, loving environment and decided to try anal. As soon as he penetrated me, I threw up everywhere and my body convulsed. Think it could have been my body's reaction to what had happened to me but it's totally scarred my DH, he will never go near my butt again and he's totally fine with it. He was heartbroken when he thought he had caused me pain. I don't know where I stand on this at all. It's clearly not meant to cause any harm but whether it does or not to impressionable young people is another matter.

Nerr. I know, who’d have thought hey!