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To think this “hilarious” card is actually depressing?

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Decanter · 05/10/2018 00:55

lovelayladesigns.co.uk/Cards/Anniversary_Cards/up-the-bum.html

I have 2 DDs and hate how this kind of crap is being normalised. Fucking hilarious Layla Hmm

OP posts:
Earlywalker · 06/10/2018 15:39

Would you say these things about a man who enjoyed it? Or is it just that woman aren’t allowed to have sexual preferences without Being ‘try hard cool’

Lweji · 06/10/2018 15:42

Again...
The issue is not any preferences. It's the message that "my preferences are better than yours".

Bluelady · 06/10/2018 15:44

Can you imagine a young woman trying to coerce a man to have anal sex? Seriously?

Lweji · 06/10/2018 15:46

Also, I can only imagine a man coming to this thread saying
"I'm a man. I enjoy anal sex. You women should also do it or you're prudes"

No amount of popcorn would be enough to follow the rest of the thread. Grin

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 06/10/2018 15:49

early I think you need to work on your reading comprehension. There’s a massive difference between cool girl wittering and stating sexual preferences which has beem explained several times on the thread.

Earlywalker · 06/10/2018 15:50

Lweji - you mean like everyone else (yourself included) who jumped on to say my sex life must be shit which is why I did anal? Does that not scream ‘my preferences are better than yours’ to you? Grin

Mandarine · 06/10/2018 15:54

If a man enjoys anal or whatever then that’s up to him.

Yet again Early - it’s not the practise itself - it’s the attitude that goes with it.

Surely you can see the difference here? Confused

For instance Early - If a man comes on and says he likes being pissed on, then he can knock himself out as far as I’m concerned. Each to their own. But if he comes on and says, “I enjoy being pissed on and if you’re not, like me, cool and open to trying it, then you’re intolerant and a prude and have a weak sex life” - well, then he’s a wanker isn’t he?

Menarefrommarsitwouldseem · 06/10/2018 15:55

Ive not read the entire thread but I personally think Love Layla are great.

Maybe that makes me a distasteful, vulgar idiot but I don't care. I think lots of them are hilarious. Maybe not the kind you'd send your Aunt Doris but they have their place.

Last year to my closest friends their Christmas cards read; " He knows when you've been wanking", Merry Christmas Tinsel Tits" and " you put the ho in ho ho ho"

I received a birthday card this year from the Love Layla thay said " in dog years you'd be dead"

I find them funny and I don't even like anal... I'm more of a fisting kind of girl GrinWink

karyatide · 06/10/2018 15:57

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Lweji · 06/10/2018 15:57

@Earlywalker

Yet again... In reply to...

Surely someone is in clear need of feeding. Not sure it's worth anymore. Iyswim.

Earlywalker · 06/10/2018 16:00

Mandarine I completely agree with your statement, can you point me in the direction of where I’ve said anything that would offer a different perspective? If you exclude the 1 sentence in my posts that I’ve explained was a joke (that was quite clear) and where after a lot of abuse i said I’d bite back.

BlancheM · 06/10/2018 16:06

Early not everyone jumped on you. Most people, like myself couldn't care less about your sex life. I would never judge you on it, this thread isn't about you. You've personalised a much wider topic rooted in culture, misogyny and social norms to the extent that you're offended and are now insulting others.

Earlywalker · 06/10/2018 16:10

BlancheM I know but when a group of posters make personal comments including that my sex life is shit and that I’m a submissive woman that does everything for her husband whilst at the same time making out like you’re the one who’s been insulting, obviously you feel the need to defend yourself.

However, I’m out now. I’ve said my point.

BlancheM · 06/10/2018 16:15

Some people reacted to your statement, if you intended it to have a certain tone then you should've taken the responses in the same way. Otherwise it accept your joke wasn't really in keeping with the tone of the thread.
You're not a victim, you can't play the shamed woman card. It would be patronising to pretend we don't all know that grown women can and do have preferences and own it.

Bluelady · 06/10/2018 16:22

Bringing up or suggesting are not the same as coercion, as you've admitted but women are coerced into performing sexual acts they'd prefer not to.

Can you imagine a young woman questioning a stranger on their sexual preferences and refusing to meet them based on their reply? Because that's what one woman has experienced.

Gottagetmoving · 06/10/2018 16:23

It's perfectly ok to have anal sex if you want. I don't think most of us care what you do in private but we should all be concerned about young people who may be pressured into anal sex by people who, like those on here, suggest you should try it or do it again until you 'get it right'
If you feel you have to defend what you do, and claim to love doing, by calling those who don't do anal, uptight or frigid or unadventurous or boring, then you just sound like those people who DO try to make others feel they should be doing something that they don't want.

thisneverendingsummer · 06/10/2018 20:03

Do you women who enjoy anal sex, have husbands/partners with smaller than average penises?

Serious question.

The reason I ask, is because I tried it with my husband some years back, and it was very uncomfortable, and really hurt, (and that is why I never did it since, and he has never asked me since.)

And he has a 'bigger than average' penis.

I knew a woman at the time who had had anal with her partner, and she said he has a small penis.

So I am guessing that the women who enjoy it, and don't feel any pain or discomfort, have men with smaller than average penises.

thisneverendingsummer · 06/10/2018 20:04

Do you women who enjoy anal sex, have husbands/partners with smaller than average penises?

Serious question.

The reason I ask, is because I tried it with my husband some years back, and it was very uncomfortable, and really hurt, (and that is why I never did it since, and he has never asked me since.)

And he has a 'bigger than average' penis.

I knew a woman at the time who had had anal with her partner, and she said it didn't hurt her. She said he has a small penis.

So I am guessing that the women who enjoy it, and don't feel any pain or discomfort, have men with smaller than average penises.

TheDowagerCuntess · 06/10/2018 20:12

Ooh, you've put the cat among the pigeons now...

thisneverendingsummer · 06/10/2018 20:24

Nah, serious question dowager. Smile

A woman I knew who said it never hurt her, said her partner has a small penis. My husband has quite a large one - larger than average...

So I can only surmise that the women who don't feel pain or discomfort, must have a man with a smaller than average penis.

Not sure why my last post up there went on twice!

ConcreteUnderpants · 06/10/2018 21:01

thisneverendingsummer
Seriously? Your summation is based on what 1 woman told you! And yet you deem it ok to insult the partners of those that like anal sex.

In a similar veinthen, from your post it could be said your husband is just crap at anal sex, or perhaps you have an extraordinarily small arsehole.

See?

There really is no need to cast aspersions and insults about the size of men's penises.

NotUmbongoUnchained · 06/10/2018 21:31

summer

I was actually thinking about this last night! My husband is much larger than average, but the only partner I’ve been with that doesn’t hurt. He just knows what he’s doing. The most painful experience I had was with someone who was only about 5 inches.

Bluelady · 06/10/2018 21:36

Oh dear, Summer, you really hit a nerve there!

Gottagetmoving · 06/10/2018 21:37

There really is no need to cast aspersions and insults about the size of men's penises

I don't believe she insulted anyone. She asked a reasonable question. Are you saying a small penis is something to be ashamed of?

TheDowagerCuntess · 06/10/2018 21:38

or perhaps you have an extraordinarily small arsehole.

To be fair, I don't think that is really an insult, after all, nobody aspires to have a large one. Shock