To think this “hilarious” card is actually depressing?

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I have 2 DDs and hate how this kind of crap is being normalised. Fucking hilarious Layla

Ugh, I have seen this brand advertised before and actually think the majority of them are revolting. Maybe I’m a prude, but I find their sense of humour somewhat misguided. YANBU!

Those who say it is unnatural hope you don't give blowjobs...technically goes against nature's intended use of the gob 😝

Shady to be fair I was like that with drugs. All my friends were doing them in my teens etc but I never touched them.

It's normal for teens to make out "everyone " is doing them but I actually feel quite proud I was strong enough to not conform to peer pressure and not do them.

Kary my thoughts exactly. A lot of homophobia on this thread 😟

There isn't a lot of homophobia. There are a few homophobic posters, but they are talking absolute bollocks so best ignored.

Being completely closed off to others having anal sex is homophobic. If you don't fancy it yourself then that is absolutely fair enough. But to be repulsed by others having it and to think it's completely wrong pretty much alienated gay people all together in their mind..

Really not sure what the problem is here (apart from the card not being amusing at all and some of the views expressed on here)

If you like anal sex, do it. If you don't, then don't.

Stuff like this always brings out the narrowminded MNetters.

Btw, I actually find these there quite interesting.

Hearing opinions from people who view what I consider normal sexual practices, as deviant or pervy.
I feel quite sad actually that people are missing out on a whole load of pleasure by being so narrowminded, judgemental and prudish.
Horses for course I guess.

But anal sex isn't pleasurable for everyone. It's downright painful for some people, so they're very possibly not missing out on anything at all.

Anal isn't pleasurable if a guy almost forces the issue and does a "dry run" 😟

Being aroused, inviting him, being wet etc and gentle to start with is a completely different experience.

As Samantha in Sex and the City says "With the right guy it can be fabulous!"

Surely the same goes for PIV sex???

I wasnt necessarily talking about anal sex. Just other experiences that it seems sadly a lot of people on MN find distasteful.

Obviously any bedroom action should be consenting and comfortable for all for it to be pleasurable imo.

Hasnt MN changed. What happened Friday night bum sex, oxo tower or centre parks?

Sorry what is PIV sex?

In my 30s I've opened up to lots of different sex (with long term dp) and it's been fabulous. I'm far more relaxed and open (no pun intended) than I was in my teens!

PIV = penis in vagina

@CiderBrains penis in vagina.

Being aroused, inviting him, being wet etc and gentle to start with is a completely different experience.

Again - for some people. Not everyone likes or enjoys the same thing, no matter how much some people struggle to get their heads around that.

Thedow completely understand it's not for everyone x

Ciderbrains

Being aroused, inviting him, being wet etc and gentle to start with is a completely different experience.

@TheDowagerCuntess

Again - for some people. Not everyone likes or enjoys the same thing, no matter how much some people struggle to get their heads around that.

Exactly. Some people seem to be struggling to get their heads around the fact that many women do NOT like anal, and have no interest in engaging in it. As I said earlier, I can't fathom why they are defensive about it. Makes me wonder why. Who are they trying to convince? Are they trying to convince themselves ? Or are they trying to convince us?

They are certainly not doing the latter, because no way in fucking hell is anyone sticking anything in my bumhole. And I think this pathetic and arrogant attitude that some anal-loving posters have on here, (towards people who dislike/don't fancy anal) says more about them to be honest.

LavendarGreen

@ciderbrains

what is PIV sex?

You're not actually serious. You don't know what PIV sex is?!

😂

I see all the kink shamers have come out in force, typical for mumsnet tbf.

Exactly. Some people seem to be struggling to get their heads around the fact that many women do NOT like anal, and have no interest in engaging in it. As I said earlier, I can't fathom why they are defensive about it. Makes me wonder why. Who are they trying to convince? Are they trying to convincethemselves? Or are they trying to convince us?

Pretty sure nobody is trying to convince you to do something yoy don't want to do. People are pissed off with the anti-anal squad trying to make out that those who enjoy it are somehow twisted, disgusting, unhinged for participating in 'dangerous' activity.

Don't like anal? Fine. Don't do it. But trying to belittle people who do it is pathetic. I find 'normal' sex in the missionary position boring as hell but I bet if I made a sweeping statement that anybody who only does it that way is a prude, i'd get lashed. People need to stop being so judgemental

The 'don't like it, then don't do it' stance is way too simplistic.

Some people love anal sex. Some people find it incredibly painful - no matter how many of the right steps are taken for it not to be.

Teenage girls - one of the cohort of human beings least likely to feel able to stick up for themselves - are being pressured to do it, whether they like it or not. Whether it's being done under conditions that will make it less painful, or not. And it's being done to them by inexperienced boys, who have no idea of the fact that it might even be painful, and/or what needs to happen to give it a snowball's chance in Hell of not being.

There is nothing wrong with feeling concern about this - especially if you're one of the people who does find it unbearably painful, and who recognises, even as a middle-aged, confident adult - how shameful if it can feel to be a 'prude', or to make it seem as if you're not 'up for it'.