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To think this “hilarious” card is actually depressing?

698 replies

Decanter · 05/10/2018 00:55

lovelayladesigns.co.uk/Cards/Anniversary_Cards/up-the-bum.html

I have 2 DDs and hate how this kind of crap is being normalised. Fucking hilarious Layla Hmm

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NotUmbongoUnchained · 05/10/2018 18:42

This thread is hilarious 😂

CiderBrains · 05/10/2018 18:45

The women I have known who have tried anal sex have always joked "they are only allowed to go there if invited.."

In other words their dp is only allowed anal if their girlfriend/partner has said she's in the mood, not him pressuring her into it.

LavendarGreen · 05/10/2018 18:46

@cookpassbabtridge

From all the women I've known, anal is normal to 50% of them and these are women in 30s/40s.

Funny that, because in all the women I know in that age group - very few, (probably less than 5%,) engage in anal sex. Probably because it's not very enjoyable for most women, it's unnatural to them, and they don't want to risk infections, diseases, and getting damaged 'up there.' I don't care how many people say 'it's OK if it's practiced safely!' - it is really not natural, as nothing is meant to go in the bumhole (as quite a few posters have said.) In addition, most women I know of older age groups too, don't engage in anal either!

I am well on the side of the women who are pretty much against it, and I really believe very few women enjoy it. Easy to see why men like it, but I really cannot see why women do.

I also think it's weird how defensive some women are being on this thread about anal sex, and how annoyed they seem to be getting at women saying they would never do it, as in their opinion it's weird and unnatural. Why so defensive? Why do you care what others think?Confused

Moreover, if the things people are saying on here against anal sex puts other women off it; then that's not a bad thing! The world's not going to end if women refuse anal sex FFS! Hmm

No way in hell is anyone putting anything up my bumhole. Never been asked by my DH thankfully.

As for the card, it's horrible. I would send it back to whoever sent that to me!

@CiderBrains

A lot of gay men enjoy anal sex too do to say you don't agree with it full stop (not for yourself but for others too) could be quite offensive to gay people.

Well that's just too bad! People are entitled to their opinions FGS.

And the posters saying 'this thread is hilarious' and 'some people are batshit,' because many posters are speaking out against anal sex, are just coming across as a bit obnoxious and pathetic to be honest. I mean God FORBID someone has a different opinion to you, and doesn't like the same things you do eh?! Hmm

PootrolliumJelly · 05/10/2018 18:47

Anal sex - it's not for pussies.

MediocrePenguin · 05/10/2018 18:47

Surprised so many people have never heard of the phrase?!

It's nothing to do with consent it means no risk of getting pregnant.

Gottagetmoving · 05/10/2018 18:51

So girls need to be protected against their own hormones? Seriously? Because that way the Taliban lie

What a fucking ridiculous statement.
Teenage hormones are natural but they can send emotions all over the place.
Why do you think lots of young girls get confused about who the are and where they fit in?
The point was, even if you have brought up your child to be self assured, puberty and peer pressure can knock that confidence.

NerrSnerr · 05/10/2018 18:51

*From all the women I've known, anal is normal to 50% of them and these are women in 30s/40s.

Funny that, because in all the women I know in that age group - very few, (probably less than 5%,) engage in anal sex.*

Who the fuck is talking about anal sex (or any other sex practices with all the women they know? At the school gate? At work? Asking your mum and your aunties?

I have a few lifelong friends who would discuss it with if I came up but we tend not to talk about shagging our husbands because who wants to hear that?

In my teens and early 20s we'd talk about sex a lot more but I still didn't do a survey on who does anal or not!

Treasure114 · 05/10/2018 18:52

I thought this was a quote from "The Office" (UK version)

karyatide · 05/10/2018 18:53

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OftenHangry · 05/10/2018 18:53

@PootrolliumJelly 😂😂😂 nice one.

It's just old rude-ish saying... Are you going to hunt down every product with text you don't agree with?

Hope you are going after companies like funky pigeon too, not just after defenseless new small independent businesses...

DayManChampionOfTheSun · 05/10/2018 18:54

Anal sex - it's not for pussies

Now I would buy a card with that on it! 😂😂😂

Not to send to dp though, that would be a best friend territory card!

CiderBrains · 05/10/2018 18:56

It's not "normal " for men to have anal sex too. But as I'm not homophobic I can accept that that is what gay men enjoy..

CiderBrains · 05/10/2018 18:58

It always makes me laugh on threads where women claim to know so much about their friends and family's sex lives.

Like on the pubic hair shaving threads, women claiming to know the status of their friends and family's fanjo hair/no hair! Grin

NotUmbongoUnchained · 05/10/2018 19:00

I imagine the kind of people who can’t fathom talking about sex with their friends will be the kind of people who wouldn’t be enjoying anal and all sorts.
Everything is “normal” in the bedroom if it’s consensual.

PootrolliumJelly · 05/10/2018 19:06

Like on the pubic hair shaving threads, women claiming to know the status of their friends and family's fanjo hair/no hair!

www.filthysentiments.co.uk/ourshop/prod_6498863-HAIRY-FANNY-PERSONALISED-CARD-PER90.html

When your best friend has a hairy fanny and it's her birthday! The greatest banter cards!

To think this “hilarious” card is actually depressing?
PootrolliumJelly · 05/10/2018 19:07

I hope I never receive a hairy fanny card - it may set me off on a lifetime of waxing down there that I have hitherto avoided.

Yerroblemom1923 · 05/10/2018 19:12

The card is grim. I don't like that the porn industry is normalizing it. Blokes seem to like it. Women don't.( However in the world of porn women are happy to fake the noises so men believe it's actually a good thing! )
What's in it for them??? That orifice is an exit not an entrance! I don't see with however much time/patience/love/consent etc etc it's ever going to NOT feel like some medical examination?!

NotUmbongoUnchained · 05/10/2018 19:14

SOME women don’t. HTH.

ShadyLady53 · 05/10/2018 19:15

Ugh. I hate that card and can’t see what’s humorous about it or for what reason someone would be interested in buying it tbh. Horses for courses, I suppose.

This thread brings up some interesting points though. When I was in my teens and twenties, I really didn’t want to have anal sex and the idea of me doing it made me feel really uncomfortable and anxious. There’s no way I would have got any pleasure from it back then. I think it was due to a mix of abuse early in life and health conditions (IBS, Coeliac Disease and more) which made me feel like it would be degrading, painful and too sensitive given my symptoms.

I’m no prude and when I would mention to friends whilst chatting about sex that anal was probably off the cards for me, I was totally and utterly shamed by them. I was told I would be dumped, that no one would want me/love me, that I was being unfair/cruel/inviting being cheated upon, that I just needed to get over it etc etc.

I felt like there was something really wrong with me and started to believe it was true that no one would want me. I felt like I was the only person who wouldn’t have anal and like I would always be less than other women.

Looking back now, I just find it so sad. I’m only going back 5 years that I had to deal with that kind of attitude. I can see it’s still prevalent amongst a lot of women on here too.

Wether you think anal is disgusting or you think women who don’t do it are uptight, can’t you just keep your judgment to yourself? Why the need to shame others over their sexual preferences? Focus on your own sex life and doing the kind of stuff you enjoy but don’t pick apart other women who prefer doing things differently to you.

DayManChampionOfTheSun · 05/10/2018 19:20

ShadyLady53 I just think you need better friends tbh. I often talk about stuff like this with friends, I have no desire to practice anal myself and not once have I ever received any of these comments. Not from people who like or loathe it!

One friend said I was missing out, but in a she apparently really enjoyed it kind of way. Nothing ever resembling being told I would invite cheating or that it was unfair on dp

CiderBrains · 05/10/2018 19:21

It's each to their own. Some women like it, some don't. It's not wrong either way, it's what you do/don't like.

No need to judge others either way!

Conseulabananahammock · 05/10/2018 19:23

I laughed.... am I a bad person? Hmm

ShadyLady53 · 05/10/2018 19:24

They’re no longer my friends but the thought process/judgement was there with most people I encountered throughout uni and through work. I work in the Arts though so people are generally very sexually liberal and outspoken about their own and other people’s sex lives!

Conseulabananahammock · 05/10/2018 19:24

And about to get flamed.... But knock it until you've tried it. Butt plugs are also fun.....

hides behind couch

Conseulabananahammock · 05/10/2018 19:24

*Don't knock it