If I sent you this message, what would you do?

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Message was "help migraine pills drink help please"

I sent it to my sister after waking up with the worst migraine I've had for a while. I never ask for help, ever. I sent it at 12:20. She's still out shopping and I've had no help from her or my parents. Just managed to make it downstairs to get a drink.

I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself and quite fragile so I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable in feeling a bit annoyed and upset.

Unless I was already in the house, I’d do fuck all.

So she isn’t even in the house? Then you are being unreasonable!

If she is in the house then when asked politely then I would have.

You managed to post this.

If it was that bad you could have phoned her.

Hope your migraine goes soon.

She may be busy.

She may not have her phone on her, or it may be set to silent...?

Do you live together?

If you can create this thread you don’t have a migraine.

It would depend on how well I knew you (as I am not your sister so don't know your medical background.

At the very least I would have rung to see if there was anything I could do (assuming I wasn't in the same building or just next door)

Unless I lived with your probably nothing of I’m honest.

I don’t tend to respond to demands for pills and drink when I’ve got stuff to do.

Also if you’ve got a migraine, like actual a proper one instead of a headache. Get off the bloody screen tis not going to help....

I’d have text back with ‘Eh? What’s wrong, as that made no sense.’

Honestly?

I’d probably think you were attention seeking.

If she isn’t in the house I’m not sure what you want. I’m sure she will come and check on you when you’re back but honestly an adult should be able to deal with a migraine themselves. Shuffle downstairs, get water, find pills, shut curtains and hit sofa/bed. People who live in their own have to do this for everything.

If it’s that you want her to buy some pills or something when she’s out then I’d call her as she may not have seen your message or may have found it a bit rude.

I’d ring to see if you’re ok. I’d assume you can get a drink yourself.

Also if you’ve got a migraine, like actual a proper one instead of a headache. Get off the bloody screen tis not going to help....

This is a good point- looking at your phone is asking for trouble

I would think you pocket text me and do nothing probably.

Nevermind the message, reading this I would think you're not that bad? Surely if you had a migraine you'd not be using a screen?

I'd be really worried if I got that message from any of my friends/family, the fact they hadn't/couldn't even write in full sentences would be a massive alarm bell. So I would at least ring to see what I could do to help.

But, I don't always look at my phone if I'm out somewhere (esp with other people) so I might not have seen it for a while!

If I was in the house i'd think "WTF" but I'd come and give you a glass of water.

If I was out of the house I would do absolutely nothing.

You've sorted yourself out and managed to post on MN. I think you're ok.

Totally agree with karriswhiteoak, the last thing I'd do if I had a migraine would be to use my phone, I wouldn't be able to see it anyway.

If I wasn't home I'd not rush back. It's a migraine not a heart attack. And I say that as someone who gets migraines.

If you're prone to them I'd be keeping my "migraine pills" beside my bed with a bottle of water.

It's a wee bit dramatic and attention seeking.

Was she in the house when you sent the message? If she was out shopping, it would be unreasonable to expect her to drop everything and come back to get you tablets and a drink.

If she went out after receiving the message, that's a bit mean.

I'd ignore that - DD2 gets migraines but is still able to request her pills & a drink in a coherent & polite manner

If I was home I would bring the drink and tablets. If out I would respond- sorry out right now. If close to home I would return if possible.

Having suffered migraines I wouldn’t leave anyone with one to fend for themselves if I could help.

Did you know she was out shopping when you composed and sent your remarkably-well-written-and-error-free-for-a-migraine text?

If so, were you expecting her to rush home to fetch you the pills?

If someone sent me that text, I'd assume that they wanted me to buy them migraine tablets (and possibly a bottle of Irn Bru) when I was out and about on my shopping trip and hand them over when I got home.

I get migraine and if somebody sent me that message I would definitely roll my eyes and not respond TBH.

Have you thought about keeping your medication in the bathroom cabinet so you don't need to go downstairs when you feel poorly?

Hope that you are feeling better now.