If I sent you this message, what would you do?

[QuestionableMouse]

Message was "help migraine pills drink help please"

I sent it to my sister after waking up with the worst migraine I've had for a while. I never ask for help, ever. I sent it at 12:20. She's still out shopping and I've had no help from her or my parents. Just managed to make it downstairs to get a drink.

I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself and quite fragile so I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable in feeling a bit annoyed and upset.

Although many migraine sufferers myself included can barely see let alone post on a website, presuming all migraines are the same is like the often quoted saying
on here, "you have met one person with autism......"
That being said I think you have unreasonable expectations.

I wouldn’t do anything if I was at work or out. Because. It’s a migraine.

You can post here. So it’s not that bad a migraine.

I expect my 16 year old to manage her migraines in her own.

I'd think you were an attention seeking idiot.

My sister is perfectly sensible.

If I got that from my brother, I’d go round to his flat to help.

But he’s a proper naice grown-up, and he doesn’t ever ask me to do his shopping- so I’d know he was in dire straits and in genuine need of help if he was desperate enough to send me a text like that.

Not saying you’re not, mind. I’ve never met you.

Depends on the sister:
One sending me a message like that I would assume her toddler found her phone and and it autocorrected to random words.
The other is a total drama queen and I'd not believe her for a second.

There's no way I'd cope with the screen glare if I had a migraine that bad. YABU

So you managed a weird attention seeking 6 word text message but then a much longer perfectly coherent post on MN? This must be a reverse

Mmmm. 1) if I had a migraine I wouldn't even consider reading, texting or Internet using. 2) if you can keep the water down, have more. 3) keep some appropriate pills with you at all times just in case. 4) don't assume she's received or read your text,. 5) sorry, I think YABU.

I assume you have form for attention seeking. Giving that you have a migraine, sent that barely comprehendable text, then wrote this post on mumsnet.

You say this is the first time you've sent a text like this, but she probably knows you have form for "calling wolf".

Not everyone looks at their phone constantly.

I keep having to remind people this. If I am at home my phone charges in the kitchen which is a long way back from the living room. If I am out it is in my bag. I do not have my phone set to ping for every single message or notification.

If someone needs me urgently they should call my mobile/land line.

um if you sent me that text whilst i was out, i wouldn't see it for hours, i don't look at my phone that often, only really when i'm needing to call someone or have a specific reason to check... she's busy out so i'd assume the same?

Are you always such a drama llama ?

And yet you’ve managed to start a thread on mumsnet?

Fucks sake, 0/10

I would phone to make sure you were ok but would assume you could sort out the tablets and drink yourself.

As a migraine sufferer, I keep tablets EVERYWHERE. Also couldn't consider looking at any kind of screen, even when the zigzag/tunnel vision starts to clear so wouldn't be able to text for help anyway!

Seems like you’re feeling better since you’ve managed to write a coherent message on MN to complain that your incoherent attention seeking text didn’t get any attention

I wouldn't have the foggiest what you meant so would text something like 'eh?'

It depends of how you are ok enough usually.
If I knew you are not the type of make a fuss for nothing and you are prone to bad migraines, I wouod ring you to check on you.
Whether I wouod come or not wouod dépend of how you would sound like over the phone and what are my own ‘needs’ (if I’m at work, can I go away etc...).

@KarrisWhiteOak Bullshit! Granted looking at screens or any kind of light is painful and traumatic when you have a migraine, it's not impossible

I get migraines. I would not be able to text with a migraine. Tablets and water are usually no use either because I vomit. The only thing you can do is lie down in a dark room

I get the odd migraine. I once woke up with one and couldn't reach the first aid drawer. It took me an hour to get to it. Since then I have kept them in my bedside cabinet and always have a glass of water by the bed.

I think it would depend on a number of things, like where I was, what I was doing, what mood I was in, if I fancied fucking off from work, and what my opinion of the texter is when it comes to being dramatic or being sickly.

I’ve worked my shift in a bar while going through a migraine. You’re over reacting.

*I assume you have form for attention seeking. Giving that you have a migraine, sent that barely comprehendable text, then wrote this post on mumsnet.

^This

You woke up at 12 noon (ish) and text your sister about the worst migraine ever, but 3 hrs later you are posting on mumsnet and getting annoyed at your family.
I get migraine I understand they are on a scale with some being far worse than others.
But I don't understand how you can be posting 3 hours later, looking at a glaring screen - Ouch! Let alone having the emotional energy to get upset at your family for not giving you enough attention.

How very dramatic. I’d probably do the same as your sister tbh, ie nothing.

I suffer from migraines and cluster headaches and depending on how bad the migraine was and at what stage it was at, I could probably post a coherent message on MN at some point.

What doesn’t make sense is that you couldn’t post a coherent text message but could post a perfectly fine post on MN some time after when clearly the migraine hasn’t got any better, considering you only ‘just made it’ downstairs to get a drink.

It doesn’t add up.

If I got that message I’d be next time try:

‘I have a terrible migraine. Are you free? I’d really appreciate it if you could grab me some painkillers whilst you’re out, if you can’