If I sent you this message, what would you do?

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Message was "help migraine pills drink help please"

I sent it to my sister after waking up with the worst migraine I've had for a while. I never ask for help, ever. I sent it at 12:20. She's still out shopping and I've had no help from her or my parents. Just managed to make it downstairs to get a drink.

I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself and quite fragile so I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable in feeling a bit annoyed and upset.

I would do nothing unless I was in the house.
If you’re well enough to write this thread then you’re well enough to get yourself pills

""I’ve worked my shift in a bar while going through a migraine.""

Good for you. I couldn't stand, without throwing up, when I've had migraines.

If someone text me, please help, especially someone who I was closely related to, i'd check back and help if I could.

Do you live with your sister and parents, OP? I am assuming you do otherwise how would they get in to get the drink and pills to you? Would you normally be in bed all day on a Thursday?

If you don't normally ask for help in that manner what made you do it this time - something other than the migraine really? If it is something other than the migraine it's possible they felt it was some kind of test and they may resent it (and therefore ignore the message). I'm getting the sense that there is some kind of backstory here!

I get migraines (much less since the menopause, one benefit there!) and I know the feeling of not wanting to move, even to get up and take a painkiller. Having said that, I can usually move quick enough when I know I'm going to be sick! Screens are an absolute no-no for me as well.

If someone I loved and cared about sent me that text, needing help, then I'd go and help, even if it was a bit attention-seeking.

I know what it's like to feel so rotten or in pain you can't even think about moving, and I'd like to think someone would help me too.

YABU

I'd tut, roll my eyes and nip into Costa for a coffee.

help migraine pills drink help please

I've had migraines for years and know they can be wretched, but I wouldn't dream sending anything like this.

I can't believe you expected people to come home from shopping/work/whatever to help you.

I don't doubt that you feel awful, but that message is 100% drama and wouldn't elicit much sympathy from many people.

Glad you're feeling better. Keep a bottle of water and Migraleve with you/in your room for next time.

Assume you were od'ing or something

If I saw the message and was able I would phone you back. Depending on what I was doing and where I was, I would get you some medication . It would depend entirely on your relationship with her and your previous behaviour tbh. If you have cried wolf before for example or if you're a drama queen. If she has seen it and not replied it says more about your relationship. Not sure how your parents could have helped if you only sent it to your sister.

If you sent that exact text then I'd wonder what on Earth you meant and make a mental note to give you a call later.

But now you're feeling a bit brighter and able to type comprehensibly, then maybe you could send her another text with a bit more explanation and politeness?

Migraines are bloody awful but you're an adult and if you can manage to send a text, you can manage to get a drink and pain relief. Assuming you thought your sister was in the house, I guess it's not an unreasonable text to send, but if hse lives elsewhere, and you were expecting her to drop everything and rush round to yours to administer first aid, then YABU

Op, I'd be round to help asap. I'm a nice person and I'd want to make sure you're ok. I'd also want you to do the same for me.

Do you live together?

Are none of the people you texted at work during the day?

Honestly i'd think you were a bit of a dick. What a pathetic message.

I’d think it wasn’t Father Jack texting me and reply “Feck! Girls! Arse!”

Say "Sorry you're feeling shit hope you get better soon"

Seriously though migraines are horrific. But you've just got to strap your boots on and get on with it.
I wouldn't be able to stop what I'm doing just to get my sister some painkillers.

the original text made no sense to me ... I'd have ignored it .. sorry

my DD has terrible (but fortunately, rare) migraines - I would rush to her.

But that is because I know that she would have to be in a terrible state to text . . . .

I would ignore you.

You could text on your phone but not get up off your ass to get a glass of water?

Once I had a migraine so bad I couldn’t walk (not being melodramatic - it was a vestibular migraine) - I called my brother to take me to the hospital.

If I’ve been in pain I call. I called my sister once and insisted she come as I was dying. The ambulance arrived before she did. I was having a gallstone attack and I was naked and embarrassed about the paramedics finding me.

If I had sent a text I would have got no response whatsoever.

I can’t believe you’re pissed because no one cares. How lazy of you to not get up off your ass!!

What I would do depends completely on your character, which I dont know.

""I’ve worked my shift in a bar while going through a migraine.""

You didn't have a migraine then, did you?!

I would've replied u ok hun? Bit early for drinking isn't it?
I had a migraine yesterday and fucking hell I thought the world was ending.

I would read that as you were ODing

""I’ve worked my shift in a bar while going through a migraine.""

You didn't have a migraine then, did you?!

My first thought too.